accommodation within 4-6wks, husband started his posting on the 3rd sept, he left me and the kids on the 1st sept, only to now be told that they cant find us accommodation until after christmas, Im now 16wks pregnant, and feeling just a tad low about the whole thing, and now due to my husband being on exercise on and off for the next couple of months, the next time we will see each other is in December! I just feel like this situation is barbaric and unnessary, I have no support from anyone and feel completely on my own. Im hoping that we will all be settled and back together as a family before the baby arrives and have time to spend as a family and with our new arrival before he gets sent to Iraq for 6 months!
2007-10-12 07:25:42 · 17 answers · asked by katm 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Has anyone else been in the same kinda situation? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel??!!
2007-10-12 07:26:53 · update #1
Our children are 12girl 11boy 8boy 5boy and number 5 on the way! yes a large family, and we wouldnt want any other way :-)
2007-10-12 08:40:02 · update #2
Unfortunatly these days the military dont seem to care as much about the families. As long as he is at work then it's tough.
SSAFA or the padre is the best course of action. You need stability and they may help.
Housing is at a premium. If he is on a waiting list for a house there may be no free houses to move in to.
Hopefully he should get one soon.
2007-10-13 00:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by fosyfos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your predicament, been there and done it too, your main problem is finding accommodation big enough for your family, we've just left the military after 23 years, our last post was Germany, we also had to wait 6 months to find a four bedroom house, believe me they don't come empty very often, that is the main problem, our housing team were fab to us and understood our needs but if they haven't got it they cant give it to you, its hard being away from your man and the feeling of being unsettled is not good but you are an army wife you know the crack, you will never beat the army system as long as you have a whole in your back side, learnt that a long time ago, just think positive you will be there soon and settled, don't let this take over your life and make you miserable, stay strong and your husband will be able to do his job without worrying about you, keep your chin up girl, positive thinking and you will wonder what all the fuss was about, good luck to you and your family and have a great posting.
2007-10-15 21:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Catrina M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If you where about to be command sponsored why did you pay for passports. airline tickets and storage? Those are all things that would have wither been given to you or covered through the Army once your command sponsorship was apporved. It sounds like you/him maybe got ahead of yourself and started doing things before you got the command sponsorship approved. With that being the case everything is on you (sorry to be harsh) if you would have waited the Army would have paid for ALL of this. Did he tell you to do all of this in advance? If so you can try getting his command to try to get the funds back but be prepared to take it as a loss. Also have reciepts for EVERYHTING because without them they aren't going to do anything. 2. He can't just get a restraining order..... it doesn't work that way. There has to be some kind of phyiscal or emotional threat there for them to issue one. Just going to the country isn't going to get him one. 3. He can't just up and cancel your CS. There is a process he must go through and he's going to have to explain why he all the sudeen doesn't want it. Somehow I highly doubt he's all the sudden tod his command he cheated and that they are okay with that. I also highly doubt that they are okay with his leaving you in the states with no housing or money infact I know damn good and well that they aren't because it would be their asses if something went wrong and they knew what was going on. They aren't going to allow that. 4. You can enroll yourself in Prime by going to the Tricare website and following the directions for your region. You have an ID card right? That and that paperwork off the website is all you need to change your enrollment from standard to prime. ETA: You didn't say anything about being an aquired dependent in your orginal post . You just said you where command sponsored. It helps if you give ALL the info instead of expecting people to magically know the situation. With that being that case...... No sorry they aren't going to reimburse you nor is that Army going to help you get those funds back. You can try and get a civil court to when you get your divorce done (make it part of the divorce) but other than that and small claims court there isn't really much of a way you're gonna get that back from him.
2016-05-22 02:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Housing is tough on and near all military installations and is especially tough overseas. Depending on the base, there are times that family members can not follow until housing is availble.. When we recieved orders for Japan back in 95, I was told it would be three-five months before we could join my husband because of the housing issues. There was no place on base and because of the exchange rate, nothing off base was available in our price range. We lucked out...the orders were changed at the last minute when three huge multifamily apartment buildings on the base opened up early, opening up many off base units. It is horrible...stressful, unfair and enough to make even the most expereinced military wife angry. The work schedule is pretty normal, especially if they are gearing up to deploy in the next year or so. All I can say is have your spouse stay on top of the situation with frequent calls to the housing office on his base and frequent contacts/updates to his supervisor. You don't mention the size of the family or his rank..housing for the lower ranks tends to have larger numbers of units, but fill more quickly. Families needing larger than a three bedroom tend to have a tough time as well. Find out if they is anything you can do to help speed things up, especially if you have children of ages or birth order that may entitle you to a larger house, but that are willing and able to share a room. You can't mix sexes, but you may be able to have them waive the age spread issues if you have one child over 12 and another several years younger if they are the same sex and can share. Otherwise, all you can do is wait it out. Sending you all the best...
2007-10-12 08:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am an army spouse and yes this happens. When we got married he was stationed in Germany and I was in the US. I moved to germany after he got housing it took 3 months to get the housing because he was already there. When I got to German he went to the field for 3 months. During the 3 months I had to have a minor surgery and he wasn't able to come home. 4 months after he came back from the field he went to Iraq for 17 months. This happens alot and yes it could happen again. Just keep your head up and remember why you married him.
There is an organization called the FRG (family readiness group). Contact his company and they should be able to give you all the info you need. They should also be checking up on you periodically. Also it is your spouses responsibility to get your name to the FRG. I am an FRG leader well I will be shortly.
I know how you feel I have been married to him for 6 years. I have been through about 3 deployments and we are getting ready for another. Also I just had our first child. It is the choice we make in marrying someone who chooses to serve. Good luck and stay strong and remember others know exactly how you are feeling you are not alone.
2007-10-12 07:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by arwensilverwind 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Write you MP
Write to the Daily Mail or some other national newspaper
Your situation is deplorable, members of the British Army and their families deserve much better.
It makes you wonder how immigrants coming to this country can get a house as easy as pie and members of the British Army, one of the few British Institutions worth a light are being treated in such a manner.
I feel very strongly that your husband, yourself and your children need to be together when you are pregnant and need the comfort of your husband.
Poor Britannia, she is disappearing very quickly. .
2007-10-12 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My friend just went thru that. with bases realigning its taking longer for families to be allowed accompy the sponser. and its hard to find housing. Sadly just stay on it and it will happen. it toke my friend from not knowing when she was to joing her husband and in the end it was about two months. but they had told her in the begining they didnt know when.
2007-10-12 07:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by pickle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your husband gets back off exercise you should get him to look for a private hiring in the local area, near to your husbands camp. Contact your local ssafa rep. and you could also try writing to your husbands famillies officer. I did 15 years in the army and had similar problems getting my (then) wife over to Germany in the 70s.
2007-10-12 07:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Germany is notorious for difficulties in getting housing. you cannot go over until you have housing procured. If you have a large family, housing is even tougher to get.
2007-10-12 10:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with SSAFA Soldiars Sailors Air Force Assosiation, they will help.
Do not follow the advise of your first answer it will cause your hubbie grief.
2007-10-12 07:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Roggles 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋