is cheating right?

Question

do u think it is right for me to me back with my boyfriend if he cheated on me once before? because i really care about him

Answer 1

No ways!

If he cheated on you , it means that he's either bored or not interested in you. And that could lead to many problems in a relationship.

Yes , you care about him , but would you like a boyfrined who cheats on you which is also trying neglect you?
My advice is that confront him about his cheating and if he says he doesn't care , let him go.

Besides, relationship doctors say that once a person cheats once , there is a 78% chance of cheating again.

He just ain't worth it.

Answer 2

Ok first off cheating is NEVER right and second off it depends on the situation and the man. Don't shoot me for saying this people ;)
Ok there are two kinds of cheating and yes both of them ARE cheating: Physical, and mental.
Now physical can seem like the worst but mental really sucks if he falls in love with someone else, that would be mental cheating, if he is drunk at a party and makes out with another girl that would be physical (also if he plans to have sex with some other woman while NOT intoxicated)

Also there are different degrees of cheating, if it was somewhat accidental and he is genuinly sorry, (eg he kissed his ex girlfriend while they were hanging out and she was slightly too close to him, and now he swears he will NEVER HANG OUT WITH HER AGAIN) then he can be forgiven
If he went out and got so drunk(or stoned) that he could not control himself and had sex with some girl, he really is not mature enough to have a girlfriend, if he planned and snuck around your back and had sex (or other things) once (OR MORE) then he is a slimey coniving *** hole, regardless of whether he is sorry or not.
So think about it like a judge jury and lawyers would a murder case
What degree was is
and what kind
then decide the punishment (NO more you or probation)

But remember if you do get back together with him you need to be able to trust him completely, if this ruins your relationship and you can't trust him thats not fair to either of you.

Hope that helps,

Jess

Answer 3

Babe, if cheating were right, it'd make the people hurt and complaining about it, whingeing idiots.
That you choose to forgive your cheating boyfriend is up to you. It works for some people and doesn't for others. In some cases, the hurt ones believe in their vows, love and forgiveness being worth trying again.
For others, once is one time too many, no matter the circumstances, and there's no right or wrong about which side you choose, it has to be the right one for YOU.
So, good luck and even if you're a loving and forgiving person, don't let your boyfriend take advantage of your good nature by making you believe or want to believe that cheating is not so bad after all. Because, it is.
xx

Answer 4

Cheating is no near right.. Once a person has been cheated on the relationship will be broken to some degree... If you went your separate ways because of it then you can't get back to the relationship by "starting over" it never works.... Because in the back of your mind you are constantly accusing him of it... So I would not go back with your guy no matter how much you care about him...

Answer 5

To answer your question, NO. Cheating is not right, but it happens. Now to determine whether you should get back with your boyfriend that's a totally different ball game. Ask yourself a few questions before you make a decision. Not can you trust him but the ones that make you do things because you can't trust him. For instance, will you be checking his cell phone, pockets, underwear, body for marks, where he is at all times. If you have any doubt about the few I just mentioned then don't put yourself through the stress.

Answer 6

It's understandable why you would consider taking your ex bf back. But for goodness' sake, look out for yourself first because he obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings. You'll learn the hard way or not at all if you take him back.

The emotional and mental stress he could do to you will change you who you are and who knows if it will be for better or for worse. I can tell you right now, it will be for better if you look in the other direction instead.

He cheated on you for a reason. Have you ever thought of why he did something like that to you?

Answer 7

It's up to you if you can trust him NEVER to do it again. Humans do make mistakes, is he the kind of person who will never make the same mistake again? Will you be able to trust him to go out with friends without you being there, or will you worry every second he's gone? If you have any doubt at all, then I would say no, don't go back. But if you care for him and know in your heart he will never break your heart again, then maybe it's worth a try?

Answer 8

well, ask yourself this...can you be with him without having that thought in the back of your head that he cheated on you in the past? can you get past it and fully trust him again? you will probably have jealously and trust issues, which is completely normal when you have been cheated on. if YOU think that you can get past it, and if you truly believe that he will never cheat again and you love him, then give him a second chance. However, if you have any doubts or trust issues, then don't get back with him. Trust is everything in relationships and without it the relationship won't work. Good luck!

Answer 9

i dont think this is a right or wrong question. i think that if you really care about him and he REALLY cares about you than you can make itt work...me and my husband have been married for 2 years but together for 10. he cheated on me more than once ( like 6 times) and at one point i said do it again and thats it im gone...i gave him the ultimatem and need less to say he wouldnt dare do it again....we've been happy every since...just be cautious and tell him teh first sign of cheating and your gonna hit the road...you don want to go thru that again...trust me i know....good luck....and just keep your eyes open!

Answer 10

No once a cheat always a cheat