I have a very strong sex drive but my g/f does not. She just can't get in the mood any more and it's driving me crazy. It's been going on for 2 years now and I'm not at all sure what to do. I've tried romance several times and many other things. Is this something that would ruin the relationship for you? Would you leave or stick around and wait for her to hopefully regain her drive?
2007-10-12 07:19:59 · 26 answers · asked by Gary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for all the responses. I'd like to say that her and I have talked about it several times and she just can't "get in the mood" and this isn't a once a day/week kind of deal this is maybe once every other month and she doesn't want to do anything special for it either. She just finishes with herself and moves on leaving me kind of hangin. I refuse to cheat on her and I've been with her for five years so I don't just want to give up on her.
2007-10-12 07:49:48 · update #1
Maybe she has a problem feeling intimate with you, her feelings have faded? This happened to me in my last relationship I just no longer wanted to be with him. Instead of making it about just ask her whats wrong and ask her whats really going and try to see how she feels or if there is something she is keeping from you.
2007-10-12 07:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mari 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In all honesty, I was in a 3 year relationship with a guy who always wanted sex and I didn't.
You can't force romance, much like you can't force caring about her. She probably picks up that you don't appreciate her for her and feels that lately, all you're interested in sex, and that turns her off more. Plus, you probably look different than you did two years ago - maybe getting comfortable in a relationship, you let yourself go a little?
In that case, maybe it's time for a little break. Go out with other people, no matter how much it kills you. I've been here before. And it means the relationship is like beating a dead horse. You need to bury it and start fresh.
2007-10-12 14:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Meredith B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn the emotional responses that she needs first off.
John Grays Men are from Mars and women from Venus.. also in the bedroom.
Then also learn to turn her on and give her organisms with your fingers mouth etc. Put baby oil on her and go slow. Get studying before you move. If you give her the first orgasm before you go inside her attitude will change. My wife was married twice before and hated sex. Now she is a nypho and has two to four orgasms a day. It was as high as twelve on night after we had been apart.
I think it is more about you then her but lets ask the women.
2007-10-12 14:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firsst of all age does matter in this situation Women do not get a big stong sex drive till 25-35 years old but mean get it very young 16-30 and it is very harsh for men... i would find something elsewhere to satisfy your urges ...but it is also the fact you might not satisfy her and that is her problem not yours.. you may not even be attractive to her anymore my point is to talk about it with her and see what she has to say!
2007-10-12 14:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by ohhsathleticgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless she has a medical or emotional reason for a low sex drive, she won't ever change. If you're both unhappy, talk to her seriously about it.
Yes, it will ruin your relationship. Sexual incompatibility is what drives people to have affairs and leave their relationships.
2007-10-12 14:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay this might sound..... bad... but honestly.. what is a relationship without sex.. especially if youve had it with her before.. its like shes let you have some of the cake.. and then shes quickly taken the delishous chocolat cake away from you.. and shes not letting you have it back... if i were you.. and this is the bad part... id leave her.. things like not having sex makes people go crazy.. and im not joking.. theres studies to prove it... so she either give you back that sweet cake.. or you tell her whats on your mind.. and if she still says no... say goodbye... youll go crazy if you dont.
2007-10-12 14:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No-- I would see what is causing the problem-- A woman's sex drive generally increases with age while a man's declines Watch for signs when she is receptive...
2007-10-12 14:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she under a lot of stress at work or school? Is she on meds that has a side effect of low sex drive? Talk with her, it may be a medical problem & suggest she talk to her doctor.
2007-10-12 14:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bright 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has she no sex drive at all, or is it just not as strong as yours?
I mean, is she happy twice a week, twice a month, or birthdays and Xmas?
She must have other things that make you stay with her.
Good luck.
2007-10-12 14:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by paof2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a mistress. Yes she is not going to change you are not compatible. There are many facets to compatibiity. Not just emotion and not just physical. If you don't hav them and you settle, you will end up divorced/.
2007-10-12 14:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋