I work in a small downtown area in a women's clothing store. To the left of my store is a coffee shop, to the right, a gourmet food store, both owned by the same person. I often eat at both places, and get coffee. My husband and I get dinner from the gourmet store at least twice a week and have for about four years.
The other day I was working and began to feel hypoglycemic (I have a slight problem with this so I have to snack all the time). The food I brought for work that day was gone, so I phoned my husband and he bought me a pizza from the gourmet shop and paid with his debit card over the phone to have delivered to me. It's only about ten feet away, but I felt like passing out, so I couldn't get it myself.
The girl brought it over and acted very rudely to me, hurrying out of my store and not offering me any sort of friendly small talk.
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2007-10-12 06:42:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anyway, so I wasn't expecting her to be nice, but at least cordial.
When she left, the coffee shop guy (who'm i'm friends with and just happened to be passing by my store) said the girl had just stopped him and asked him "why that girl couldn't come and get it herself"... I thought this was very rude when he told me.
So, I went in today to get some lunch (it's my day off). Usually the owner and I have pretty good conversation since he know's i'm a regular. I decided to tell him about what she said, and he got all defensive, saying that I'm rude because I didn't tip her.. now, I had NO IDEA that she expected a tip, especially because she hurried out of the store. And i surely didn't appreciate him turning the tables on me. I just felt extremely disrespected by the owner, and this girl. Is this kind of thing normal? I just felt hurt that the owner would take the worker's side instead of a customer that spends a lot of money there... am I wrong?
2007-10-12 06:46:57 · update #1
the person who brought your pizza was indeed rude, but then shes obviously got a problem so i would ignore her and tell the store manager
2007-10-12 06:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by magiclady2007 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
While both these people may have been rude, perpetuating that situation does not do ANY of you any good. You have had a nice relationship with these folks in the past. Take a step back, take a deep breath -- and be the better of the people involved in this by finding a way to smooth it over. This may mean explaining yourself or your situation a bit more fully (if you feel comfortable about that), offering a tip with the explanation that you were not feeling well that day and neglected to do this -- and wanted to make up for it. This should turn the tables, make you look like the hero -- and leave you all with good feelings so that you can continue to eat there happily.
2007-10-12 06:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you all had a misunderstanding. If I were you, what I would do is apologize to the person and say that you were very grateful that she brought you the pizza because you weren't feeling well and didn't even have the strength to get it yourself. Then say, "I'm sorry I didn't give you a tip earlier." and give her a generous tip. They are your neighbors so it's a good idea to make sure you keep the peace with them. Let go of any offense you feel about the situation; you'll all be happier.
2007-10-12 07:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are overreacting.
1. Your husband paid for it, and should have tipped.
2. She was asked to deliver a pizza next door, and she's not the delivery person.
3. She delivered it, but likely didn't have time for it because the place was super busy with rush hour and all
4. She didn't have time to friendly small talk with you because she is WORKING!!!
5. Instead of calling your husband to whip him, into getting your food, why didn't you call it yourself?
6. If the "illness is a known condition, then you must work to stay on top of it. Bring in a few pieces of fruit, juice boxes, nuts each day so you never run into this problem.
If you've been going for 4 years you likely really like them/ the food. So let it go - it's soooooo not worth it.
2007-10-12 08:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think this is just an odd situation. I think both the girl and the owner were rude, but they didn't know that you weren't feeling well. I would have explained that when you went in on your day off. If you want to have a cordial friendship with these people, I suggest talking about it.
2007-10-12 07:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-22 04:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person was rude and unconcerned that you may have also been busy you are a loyal customer >? <. Mabey you should present your concerns if you feel you two are not as friendly together as you were, Do you feel LONG TERM LOSS yet or still, if so explain you wish more in the relation NOT the relationship I hope you understand, relationship is much more then relating to one not so dear.
2007-10-12 07:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by dukhead777 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your medical condition is of no concern to any one at least according to the HIPPAA Laws. I would go over and offer a fair tip directly to the girl. Explaing if you want to that you could not get away form you counter and that your husband did that for you. Thank her for the delivery. i would do this to keep the lines open. You did nothing wrong but a little niceness always is the right thing to do.
2007-10-12 07:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by memorris900 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The girl was wrong for expecting tip to deliver a pizza next door! That is ridiculous. The owner and the girl owe you an apology.
2007-10-12 06:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
no you are not wrong.
how were you to know that your husband didn't put a tip on his debit card when he placed his order? the owner/manager obviously doesn't know about nor follow the "customer is always right" thinking. what he should have done was apologize that she was rude to you, whether he planned on disciplining her or not and maybe give you a coupon for another time that you shop there.
i know it's convenient to shop at his businesses, but if you, as his customer, are not his top priority, it's time to find another place to go get your coffee and food. i'd also get as many of your friends/relatives who also frequent those places to boycott them too, maybe then when business slows down considerably, that bad businessman might figure it out.
2007-10-12 06:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Brian S 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Listen princess...maybe the pizza delivery girl had a horrible day herself. Maybe she is so deep in debt that she is filing for bankruptcy...or just found out she is pregnant with her ex-boyfriend's baby...or maybe she is dealing with a chemical addiction.
The whole world doesn't cater to your every whim. Give people a chance. Sounds like your experience has been a good one for 4 years...now you throw that completely out the window because she didn't CHIT CHAT with you or make "friendly small talk". Come on. We are at war, the US dollar is sinking, people are dying of cancer/AIDS/heart issues, the divorce rate is above 70% in the US, etc...let's give her a "hall pass" on this one.
Now if she gave you the bird...or told you that she hated you...then I would consider being upset.
Put this one on the scales and it just doesn't register any postage. Just my two cents.
2007-10-12 07:00:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋