i'm not a very good flirt when i'm trying to be, but when i'm nottrying to flirt, i tend to attract the boys more. this guy that i'm just friends with thinks im flirting. how do i let him down easy without ruining our friendship??
2007-10-12 06:31:38 · 20 answers · asked by KiSs KiSs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honesty is the best policy. Tell him you like him and want to remain close but as a friend only! If he is your friend he will take it as that! Good Luck!
2007-10-12 06:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by teresa m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mix signals. I know about that. I was sent a mix signal and she causally said that I was a buddy and that is it. If I did something I am sorry but I honestly think of you as my buddy. It didn't wreck our friendship at all. We were always close and one time I though she was coming on to me. Well, I acted and I was wrong. We were close buddies for a long time. It worked out when you casually bring it up that he is a good buddy. Tell him you need advice on something and when he gives it tell him thanks....you are a good buddy. Put that somewhere and if you need to add that is all you think of him as then do it. But try casually first before you are blunt. I know you don't want to hurt him but you need to tell him how you really feel and not to have him have the wrong idea.
2007-10-12 13:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by runner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much that friendship means to you. That you didn't mean to lead him on, but you aren't interested in dating him at this point in your life. You treasure his friendship more than a relationship, and you wouldn't want to jeopardize the friendship by starting a relationship.
BTW- That should tell you something that you attract guys more when you aren't trying. They are more attracted to you naturally than when you are trying. Just be yourself! You never know who is falling in love with your smile :-)
2007-10-12 13:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by louise_shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
idk without knowing more what is going on with you two but i'll try and help. it might be easy to just say im not trying to flirt with you i just want to be friends or it would be best to just friends now i know what this is like because i m going through the same problems. i said this to the person that thought i liked her: i don't think it would be the best choice for us to go out as bf and gf but it would be cool if you and i could still be friends. this worked for me. but you need to find a way to be comfortable with to deal with your problem so be creative.
2007-10-12 13:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by 666-hell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you tell him there will be hurt feelings. Try to let him know how much his friendship means to you and that you would like to continue their friendship, but only as friends. Good luck.
Spartawo...
2007-10-12 13:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by spartaworld.combat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the actual flirting part... just be yourself and don't try so hard...
The friend that is interested in you? Just tell him that you value his friendship greatly, but, you are just not interested in him in that way.
2007-10-12 13:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by dixiechickenyall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the beginning of the friendship tell them that you are just being you and not to take things too personally.
2007-10-12 13:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him down gently but whatever you are doing when you are not intentionally flirting is what you should be doing when you are around a guy you have the warmies for.
2007-10-12 13:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Justin T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be you self ALWAYS. that's why flirting is a bust for you. Remember flirting you or they is never who you or they are. You need to grow up
2007-10-12 13:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Poobah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try telling him "hey ---- im not really into you you" and try talking to him and see what happens to him if you don't feel comfortable doing that then just just pay attention when you are talking to him and do your best not to flirt maybe he really likes you and he doesn't know how to tell you???
2007-10-12 13:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by momma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋