I had my children when I was very young but after my third I was told that I shouldn't get pregnant again due to medical complications. I am now 39, my children are grown up and left home and my biological clock is ticking louder and louder.
If I had been able to carry more children I would have had the six I had planned. I mourn the children I will now never have, but feel selfish in lots of ways because at least I do have my grown up boys.
Is there any way I might be able to be a mum to a baby again.
2007-10-12 05:27:38 · 27 answers · asked by ELLE T 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would look into being a foster mom, you sound like a really nice good hearted person. You would be taking in a child who could really use a good home. I know its not your own and would not be the same but you could still love the child and help bring them up to be an outstanding person.
Also hopefully your sons will be able to start a family someday and then you will get to be a grandma which is a wonderful thing as well.
I wish you the best!
2007-10-12 05:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by funmom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not a newborn baby but there are millions of unwanted kids just crying out for a new home out there.
you could start off by offering respite care for between 1/2 a day and a full month or just go into fostering or straight into adoption.
Have a chat with your husband/partner and see what he thinks. Suprisingly not many men want more kids once their brood is grown and fled the nest.
Then think about contacting your local social services who can point u in the right direction.
Take care
x
2007-10-12 13:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adopt or become a foster mother- there are plenty of at-risk children that need a mother. They have been abandoned and left because they have health problems. There are a lot of programs available for foster parents of these special needs children. I am not saying that everything is covered but if the only reason someone were being a foster parent is because of the monetary benefits then they shouldn't be foster parents in the first place.
For someone like you that wishes to open their heart to another baby then please consider foster parenting or adoption. You would be the whole world to an unwanted child.
2007-10-12 12:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 30 it's still possible to get pregnant, although the risks are much higher and the chances of being successful are much lower. Depending on what complications you had it may not be in your best interest to carry again for your health or the babies. Adoption, fostering, surrogacy are all other options to becoming a mother again.
2007-10-12 13:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by pookiesmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has been told not to have any more children on medical grounds also.
It hurts her a lot we have two little girls for which we are grateful but I know exactly what you mean.
Maybe you could adopt or foster.. I know its not the same but there are a lot of kids could really benefit from having a loving gaurdian such as yourself. I know what the care system is like in this country and its a harsh life for many.
2007-10-12 12:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Edmund 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are born to be full time mums and you sound like you have the calling.If you dont fancy fostering or adopting there are many volutary groups you could help out.Look up Spurgeons on the net,they are a voluntary agency just for kids of all ages.You have alot to give so dont wast it earth mum !.
2007-10-12 16:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alternitives to you becoming a mother again, you can have a surrogate mother carry your biological child for you, you can adopt a baby or even become a foster mother.
If you are interested in any of these you can speak to the appropriate agencies.
2007-10-13 01:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have got a few friends who have gone into fostering i know it not same but just think how you could help? (friends) have said how much they enjoying being a mum again if you know what i mean one girl i know has had two kids it was only to be a short stay it has turned 6 to 9 months the mother is having a bad time she said it was feel good work i think she is brill
2007-10-12 12:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry that you can't have more children but you have 3 already so why would you want more?but maybe i don't know,maybe,are you still with the dad?,well you could maybe mix your egg and his sperm and ask a friend if she could carry for you? (if you want to carry on your family name/bloodline) or you could adopt,there are so many children that need a loving home.look up adoption sites online or ask your doctor i think for leaflets.
2007-10-13 11:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by Wolborg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can always adopt.
my feeling is that since u had them so young, u don't know how to live for yourself. i think u should set goals for youself, give yourself time to mourn the empty nest, then in 2 years if u feel the same way, try adopting.
2007-10-12 13:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋