A few days ago my mom was diagnosed with uncurable cancer and I am devistated!!!!!! What do I do?
2007-10-12 05:26:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Find people who you are comfortable with and get comfort from them. Talk about it, cry and let them hug you. It is very painful when you realize you are going to lose someone so close to you. Surround yourself with loving people (family?). Don't do this alone. Having other people who also love your mother be with you is very helpful. It will take a long time to heal. Give yourself time.
2007-10-15 05:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that your mother was diagnosed with cancer. I'd like to stress the importance of positive thinking. It's been shown that positive thinking and visualization can help even in situations where Doctors say it's "uncurable". Be as much as possible with your mother, try to pass her your positive thoughts, encourage her no matter how difficult it might be. You must be strong for her now. No matter what don't let no one tell you or your mom that things are hopeless because there is hope. I am sending you a virtual hug and hope my words help a bit. If you want you can contact me and I will try to give some more ideas what can be done in terms of postivie visualizations techniques. Much love!
Some links I found on visualization:
http://www.holisticonline.com/guided-imagery.htm
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art18581.asp
2007-10-12 12:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ilana K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow!
This was a shocker to me when I was 17, We were real close and I am now 50. I made it and do you know why, out of the love and respect I had and still have for my Mom. I swear she still tells me to clean my room... I thought how will I continue without her being there.
You will contain memories. BUT hey that 32 years ago, the science and tech has multitudes of survivors today. BE THERE FOR HER, she has a great daughter, and if the last day comes then hug her and say see ya later luv ya! Un curable cancer is only un curable to the point of who is trying to cure it. It is now time for a trip to a cancer center and then if Necessary the Mayo in Minnesota. Pull out all the stops....She's MOM!
2007-10-12 12:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be very difficult, but you move on. My mom passed two months ago from lung cancer, it is still very fresh and raw, but with each day, you find strength. I would like to tell you that hospice care is wonderful, and allows you to spend time with your mom. My mom stayed home and passed at home, with us by her side. Although it was very difficult the last week, I wouldn't give that time up for anything. Contact hospice, your mom's doctor can provide you the info. They are a wealth of information, and counsel. They can help you manage many things, emotional and physical, and help with the care of your mom. I hope you have some time with her,(I had less than one month from diagnosis)but if you don't, make the most of each moment you do have. Don't let her pass without telling her how she has effected your life, share your feelings and allow her to share hers. Let her know that she has made you strong, and that you will be able to go on, there are others that depend on you, and your mom would want you to enjoy life. You have to accept, you can't change it.
2007-10-13 00:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this. About two years ago the same thing happened to me. My mom wasnt feeling good one day, we took her to the hospital and she ended up having lung cancer with twelve brain tumors. I was devastated like you. She went downhill fast and was told she only had a few weeks. she ended up in hospice but a miracle happend and she got better and was with us for almost 6 or 7 months i believe. Please make sure you spend as much time as you can with your mom. Take pictures. My heart hurts for you but you will be okay. It is going to be tough I am not going to lie to you but somehow you will find strength to go on. It has been two years for me and there are times ( like right now) when I get sad and cry. but it gets better. Remember not to give up hope ever!!! There are so many new medicines coming out each and every day there is always hope!!!!! I will keep you in my thoughts.
2007-10-12 12:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my dad was diagnosed, I seeked counseling, I confided in friends, I exercised more to help reduce the stress and most importantly I bonded with him more than I ever had. Start a journal or a scrap book now with your mom. If she is comfortable, take lots of pictures.
2007-10-12 12:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by A***n G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, you'll go on... those of us who are 'left behind' go on, in order to keep the memory of those who left us.....for now, tho, LIVE every second of every minute you have left with her.... laugh, cry, remember, so she can LIVE every minute, too.... give her the best of you now and she'll take that with her.... don't be afraid to be afraid.... she is... share with her so she can share with you... above all else....let her know that you'll be okay without her here, cuz you know she'll be watching over you.... she'll be more at ease knowing that you will not fall all to pieces when she's gone..... but don't be so brave that she thinks it won't hurt...I wish you both the easiest transition between here and there that's possible.... hugs... btdt....
2007-10-12 12:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by meanolmaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh God I don't know..I'm soooo sorry! My mom means the world to me and I have no idea how I would handle that!
~my prayers for you and your family
2007-10-12 12:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Colts girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋