I was dating this guy who I was absolutely in love with. We were together for three years and he had his sweet moments but for the most part he treated me terribly. He called me a B**** all the time and disrespected me in front of his mother and friends at the drop of a hat.
He was also very hungry for sex and had to have it all the time. He needed weird fantasies and porn to satisfy him. Sex with just me was never enough. I started to realize that he was either in love with or lust with my bestfriend but she hated his guts. One day, he put me out in some rage... he always had rages where he would punch walls and break things and I just never came back.
Now that Im with someone else, pregnant, and happy he is stalking me. Calling me, texting me, emailing me. emailing my new boyfriend. Calling my friend, though I know thats because he secretly wanted her. How do I deal with this? I mean I'm emotionally warped by all this.
2007-10-12 05:13:58 · 7 answers · asked by Under the Sea 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And when I say warped I mean it really made a play on my self esteem. The fact that all the time I spent loving him, he was fantasizing about my bestfriend and treated me terribly because I wasnt her.
It made me think, what's wrong with me that im not good enough. and then i met the guy im with now and whom i love dearly but at the same time, i seem unable to completely let myself go with him because one, im afraid he's going to be fantasizing about someone else.
now my ex is badgering the hell out of both of us, it's like the nightmare that wouldnt end. It's so hard to move on and get over things when someone is constantly bothering you. and no matter how many times I tell him to f*** off, that i dont want him, dont want to talk to him, he still finds a way to contact me. Now he is contactin my boyfriend. What can I do? And how do i deal emotionally?
2007-10-12 05:17:35 · update #1
Oh yeah, I forgot to tell you that part too. He cut his arm all up and sent me pictures of himself bleeding. Turns out the fool had cut my initials in his arm. What is wrong with him? I mean you hear about crazy people all the time on the news but I guess I never actually thought I would meet one. That's insane isnt it?
I was thinking about the restraining order but I kinda would feel bad about doing it cause then its on record and it would hurt his future, but something's gotta give. I really think im going to have to do it and I think I need to go to therapy because I'm so angry. and I didnt realize I was still angry about all that happened until now.
2007-10-12 05:28:08 · update #2
Ahhhh you sound like me about a year ago. I was with someone for about a year and a half. We had some great times together, but he would just flip out of nowhere and for no reason. I tried to leave a bunch of times, one time he even jumped in his mother's car and tried to run me off the road when i left. When i finally was able to break it off with him, he went NUTs. called me all the time, told me he was going to kill himself and blame it all on me, left me hate messages on my phone and computer, found out where i was going and would beat up any guy he saw me with. Sadly, a order of protection won't do anything for these guys...it's just a peice of paper. I ended up having to change my phone number and my email address. I just cut off and changed everything he had access too and ignored him. I realized that when i got ticked and tried to get him to stop by responding, that's just what he wanted and added fuel to the fire. So, i just completely ignored everything he did or said and finally he gave up. I hope it helps good luck!
2007-10-12 05:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I’m going to break this down for you as simply as I can:
1. If you have a stalker harassing you, your best friend and your boyfriend, file a police report! Be sure to document all the times he has called you and/or approached you.
2. If he is texting you and your boyfriend, change your cell number.
3. It’s obvious that this guy is unstable so if the above suggestions don’t work, then may I suggest someone “have a talk with him”.
Do not allow this guy to intimidate you. If he gets the slightest notion that he is instilling fear then he will feed off of that and take it to the next level.
Guys like that don’t have any self-esteem and are insecure. The only way he will feel good is if he can control a situation. Don’t wait until something really bad happens.
Handle your business!
2007-10-12 05:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by dreed2667 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the police and file harrassment charges. It won't do much, but it will give you time to file a retraining order, it costs about $50. If you fear for your life or safety, I would seriously consider changing where your name and where you live.
Be safe.
2007-10-12 05:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by seaelven 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats the number for 911?
2007-10-12 05:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stephen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl..........know what u mean.............
but ur ex is a FREAK!!!!!
maybe considering to file a restraining order.........for ur baby's sake in the future.
You don't wanna deal with this creep.
Thank God, u find someone else.
Good Luck with ur pregnancy!!!
2007-10-12 05:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is breaking the law. Contact the police. ASAP.
2007-10-12 05:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-12 05:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.K33p !t R3@l 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋