I have been dating for years now and I have always waited a certain amount of time b-4 sleeping with a guy but what I have learned in my years that it doesn't even matter! You can sleep with a guy soon after meeting them and be with them for so long or on the other hand you can wait to sleep with a guy and still get left by them. It's a risky situation.
2007-10-12 04:56:24 · 28 answers · asked by Kee-Wee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The idea of waiting longer should give you the insight to figure out if the guy's a jerk. Something in you can't or won't see it. Like they always said if you keep finding jerks - that is what your attracted to. Change your dating patterns, go the opposite find someone your not instantly enamoured with to break the cycle.
2007-10-12 05:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by castleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess you're choosing the same type of guy to sleep with.....the "jerk". It does matter how long you wait. If you sleep with a guy the day after you meet him he's not going to respect you as a person....you're going to be his sex buddy and he won't take you seriously. The problem with you is not the time you make a guy wait, it's the guy it self. Don't get down on yourself if things haven't worked out in the past. Look for a good guy who will appreciate you and when you do have sex he will respect you and not think your just another lay. Be careful and smart. There are a lot of slut out there, but when the guy knows that you're a good girl and that having sex is not just something you do with everybody he will want to be in a committed relationship. Take your time.
2007-10-12 05:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Good Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the longer you put it off the less likely the guy is to just take off. He will get to know you as a person and if he likes you he'll want to stick around. Also, if someone's just in it for the sex then he won't stick around for very long if you don't put out, so you'll know either way. If he cares about you as a person and not just his own sexual needs, he'll wait. It's such a double standard, though. It's the girl who gets judged fr sleeping with a guy really soon even though it takes two. The last guy I dated, I slept with on the second date, not because of pressure but because I wanted to. He did take off and while it hurt because I actually liked him, he was never boyfriend material and I know he would have left anyway and at least this way I got mine too. Perhaps that makes me sound like a sl*g but I'm really not, just realistic. But if I was in it for the long term, I like to think that I would wait a couple of months to see if we were compatible in terms of personality before having sex. There would be plenty of time for that later so no rush.
2007-10-12 05:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Fröken Fräken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference... but not much. If you do it the first night then it's nearly a guarantee you won't see him again. If you do see him again then it's just for a booty call. If you wait a long time then he loses interest fast. And there's always the guy that is just in it for the sport. They can wait many months and still leave after getting some. What's the point of a 6 month-one night stand?
Hope your luck gets better.
Beth
2007-10-12 05:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being left by a guy is not the same as being treated like sht.
I think if its a good guy, he'll end it before you're both in too deep , when he sees that its not going anywhere, etc because thats the right thing to do.
Anytime you deal with relationships and love in general, you have to know that someone might getting hurt. Just comes with the territory. You have to ask yourself if the risk is worth the reward. And since nothing is greater than that real love, I would say the risk is always worth it. Big risk, big reward.
I think it is always good to wait. That way you know them better and the more emotionally attached, the better the 'relations' are gonna be. Plus he'll respect you more. Make you're guy work for it. Its like the one thing you have over him.
2007-10-12 05:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by a11city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why you don't sleep with them. You both need to get to know each other and make a commitment to stay with each other. What the young doesn't understand is sex is just an added bonus to being with the right person. If the person is the right one, it wouldn't matter about the sex, that would always be great, because you have so much going on that keeps you togeather.
2007-10-12 05:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you can wait months and still get treated badly, or you can wait until you know for sure that they are the person you want to be with for a long, long time. Also, make sure you know this person is going to treat you right before sleeping with them. If they are only nice when you are sleeping with them, then do you really want that guy anyway? Be picky about who you sleep with. If they really love you, they will be willing to wait as long as it takes you to decide that they are worthy of your body as well as your sould and mind.
2007-10-12 05:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are always risky. Trust needs to be earned. A woman is more likely to get dumped if she sleeps with a man too soon. I rather take my time--when/if I am ready. Look for signs of illness or abuse and most of all--be safe. It is said that it takes 6 months before we get to start knowing someone--before they slip...or we see them for who they are. Yet, there are many charmers out there. Go slow. It's your life.
2007-10-12 05:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by starrdust2infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun , it's a part of life.. Most men, are only after the booty.. Thats why most people are single and get their hearts broke. It's because men are dogs.. Ok Some men are dogs.. It's the hot men the average joes, are the real winners, but most women won't go for them.....
Yes I'm a woman... You are just part of the game.. When they get sex they won the prize and the game is left behind ...
makes sense to me,...
2007-10-12 05:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by jenjen2_46514 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and life come with risk. And if you dont want to call it love and just being together well that comes with risk as well. Guys can be buttheads when it comes to women and relationships. So no matter what you do you may not win at all so just take them with a grain of salt and do what you do.
2007-10-12 04:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋