I was recently asked out on a date with a ugly 36 year old guy. I am 21. I hate to hurt his feelings and tell him I don't like him because he is sooooo sweet. I AM STUCK IN THIS SITUATION HELP!
2007-10-12 04:49:09 · 62 answers · asked by Sierra A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ugly guys need love too.
But if you don't like him... well you just don't like him.
It's better to just say no. Don't say, "I just want to be friends." Just say no thanks and don't give any excuses. As an ugly guy myself, I've been let down in many ways and the direct approach is best that way you can still be friends.
Hey, wait a minute! Is it me?
2007-10-12 04:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by jeelbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want to tell him the truth... then just say you have a boyfriend or that you are already talking to someone. Or that there's too much of an age difference, which I think there is, so that's a very valid excuse. OR you could just woman up and let him know that you think he's a very sweet man but you are just not interested in him in that way.
Good luck
2007-10-12 04:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Misheee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you with not wanting to hurt feelings, but you'd actually hurt his feelings worse if you actually gave in and went out with him, then told him you didn't want to anymore. If you would just smile and say that's sweet, but I'm sorry I can't or, I just don't feel that way about you, or something nice and to the point then he may have an ego crush in the beginning, but you saved both him and you the trouble, and he'll get over it knowing it wasn't something wrong he did on the date, you just weren't feeling it or attracted from the start. If he get's mad, or keeps on then you'll know he was some psycho and be even more glad you didn't give in and go on the first date as well! (have you ever met one of those guys that are super nice until you reject an offer and then all the sudden they flip out on you and your a '*****' etc? wierd!)
2007-10-12 04:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by HereIAm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeings that he is nice & i'm sure he is a gentlemen I would go on the date with him I would tell him the truth but also tell him you would like to be friends this way he still feels pretty good . But in this situation you need to be honest who knows what might happen as you become friends with him remember looks are not everything as long as he is well dressed & groomed beauty is in the eye of the beholder . think of it as hanging out with a friend, try to enjoy yourself you might be surprised . I was and it turned out to be the best date of my life . I told him the truth before the date , we still went out as friends i had a wonderful time he is know married to a very wonderful women and we are all friends he a great friend. lol
2007-10-12 04:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a situation when an ugly person asked me to go out with them. I know this is kind of mean, but I thought to myself what if someone sees me with this guy that I know. So, I went on the date anyways. Even though I had to look at him all night, I actually enjoyed myself. His humor and intelligance drew my attention away from his face and to his personality. So, I would say go for it, because you might just enjoy it better than you think you would.
2007-10-12 04:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you think hes nice but your not really looking to date someone right now and you consider him more of a friend. Really a 36 year old man shouldn't really be interested in a 21 year old women anyways in most situations. Your still young and should be having fun with young men.
2007-10-12 04:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could tell him that you prefer to date people a little closer to you in age. This wouldn't be as hurtful to him. Actually, it's been my experience that people that aren't that good looking tend to work harder at relationships and don't have the ego problems that the "beautiful people" have. But you should only go out with guys you really want to date, not a "pity date".
2007-10-12 04:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Karen J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because the guy is not good looking does not mean he won't be a hoot to go out with. There is quite a big age difference. Just tell him that you are uncomfortable with the age difference and that you are not looking for a relationship at this time in your life. Let him know that you are still trying to figure out who you are and this is taking top priority right now for you . If he just wants to go out as friends then I see nothing wrong with it.
2007-10-12 04:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it offends you so much, then simply say no. Just be aware that it isn't the looks that matter. He could look ugly on the outside but be a wonderful man on the inside. You're still too young to appreciate any of this this so go ahead and say no.
2007-10-12 04:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it the age or the way he looks? i think if its the way he looks its very shallow of u. u said yourself hes a sweet guy! why not give him a chance? not going out with some one based on how they look isnt a good way to live your life. imagine if someone turned you down because ur not pretty enough for them?im not telling you to have a realationship, just maybe go on 1 date, then if he asks again say that you LIKE him but your not ready for a realationship. whats the worst that could happen? if u REALLy dont want to go out with him, say u have to go over to a realitve/freinds house and cant make it. but he might ask again, so u will have to say ur not ready for a realationship..... its your chioce. it depends how u feel! if u just think hes nice but u cant see having a realationship(emotionally/phisically), then tell him upfront, dont lead him on.
2007-10-12 05:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋