My fiancee and I have finally come to a equal number of people on both of our sides for bridesmaids and groomsmen. I just found out threw my fiancee that one of his friends does not like me but she is a bridesmaid. She didn't like that in the beginning of our relationship 2-3 yrs ago we had problems(arguing, breaking up) that are now wayyy resolved.
Would you have or keep someone in your wedding that does not even like you?
I told my fiancee I was taking her out and that was final, this is not just our wedding but it is MY wedding too.
2007-10-12 04:32:08 · 13 answers · asked by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If the girl has expressed that she doesn't like you - then she needs to step down from the bridesmaid position.
It's none of her business whether you and your fiance had arguments. Your fiance should have never been that detailed with her to begin with. It's ok to express some feelings, but have you ever wondered what exactly your fiance told her to make her not like you? Have you ever asked him? She shouldn't not like you just because you had some disagreements. I would wonder what exactly was said.
As a matter of fact - I would sit down with her and ask her what the problem is and why she dislikes you so much and that you are seriously thinking about not having her in your wedding because you don't feel anyone that dislikes you should be on your side, supposedly supporting you.
2007-10-12 04:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How did you find this out? Does your fiancee know this to be true? (If you were to confront her about it, all she's going to do is deny it.) If you have it on pretty good authority that she doesn't like you, I wouldn't have her as a bridesmaid. But if you aren't sure about it -- don't make any rash decisions just yet. Telling her off and kicking her out of the wedding will most definitely make her an enemy. You need to be absolutely sure of this.
2007-10-12 04:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it is your wedding, it is his wedding as well. Though why would he want someone (especially a bridesmaid) that doesn't like you (and probably doesn't approve of the wedding) standing up next to you? I'd probably have to go with a "no, she's not going to be in the wedding" deal.
2007-10-12 04:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Smith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol i had this problem for awhile. His friend didn't like me for some unknown reason. For a long time i didn't want him in the wedding but now he's being more civil and i think he's leg go of his dislike for me. You can talk to your fiance about it and talk to his friend. You don't have to be offensive to her in any way just ask her. If she is close to your fiance it would be unfair to just take her out and close out his feelings. But at the same time if he knows that she doesn't like you and he hasn't tried to resolve that then she should be taken out. But talk about it with both of them and give it alot of thought before you make a final decision.
2007-10-12 04:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Candy_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. If someone doesn't like you, she shouldn't be in the wedding party! Do not hesitate to remove her from the wedding party. I don't know why a female friend of your fiance would be one of your bridesmaids anyway.
If your fiance is confiding in her about your relationship, that needs to stop now. Are you sure he is maintaining healthy boundaries with her? It sounds like she may like him as more than a friend.
2007-10-12 04:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try an talk to her , an if you still cant be friends , Replace her , why have someone in your wedding who dont like you. It's your special day girl , do what YOU want to !
2007-10-12 04:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is She going to come as one of His guests? I would have thought that as She is His friend She would want to do what would make Him happy, rather than cast a shadow over the proceedings. Sounds like She is a bit jealous.
2007-10-12 04:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had that happen with my ex-husband and his female friend. She was outwardly rude to me and she didn't even know me. My revenge was prior to the wedding, I had her invitation addressed to her boyfriend and "Guest". She was livid! After that she wouldn't come to the house because she said that it was because I didn't like her. That was the end of their friendship!!!
2007-10-12 06:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lioness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with your fiance and tell him how you feel but in my opinion the people in the party should be special to you and if she doesent like you then shes not so special. FYI Its not your wedding and its not his, it is BOTH of yours.
2007-10-12 04:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by nicki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to her, take her to coffee. Tell her what you heard and that it bothers you. Ask her how she really feels. If it's true, dump her from the party. If it's not maybe someone else has issues and you need to look at your source
2007-10-12 04:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by L H 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋