Too young to have a baby?

Question

I just found out that I'm pregnant so ready or not, here he/she comes! I can't help but wonder, however, if I'm too young, will I be a good parent, am I too immature, are we ready for a child, etc....I'm 25 and my husband is 30. We've been married for almost 5 years and have no children. I planned on going to grad school for my masters degree next fall but now that'll have to be put on hold. We're financially stable but we wanted more money in savings and a new home before we planned on starting a family (we live in a 1 bedroom apartment).

For some reason I just feel like this is a big mistake. I'm so worried. We're adults but I still feel like we aren't fully "grown up", we still act goofy sometimes and I feel like other parents are more mature than we are. Am I just overreacting? Is it normal to feel this way? When will I feel "ready"?

Advice??

Answer 1

You are in correct age to give birth to a baby. So go ahead.
Since your husband is 30years, it is almost 2 years late. If you give birth to a baby now, he will be 25 years of age, when you and your hubby cross 50 years. After 50 years age, you can not concentrate on your earnings. You will be old enough to earn. So, when you attain the age of 50, your child should be in a position to earn for you.
Hence it is the right time to give birth to a baby right now. Don't go against it, as it will get you more troubles. So, start working hard to give birth.
All the best! Please feel free to exchange your views. My id is [e-mail]. I will be waiting for your response.

Answer 2

I can relate. I'm twenty four and by the time the baby comes, I will be twenty five. My boyfriend will be twenty four still. I dont feel like I'm ready either. I work everyday at an engineering firm making pretty decent money and my bf works for verizon making very good money and yet I still feel like I'm way too young.

I guess you just have to pull it together and try to be as mature and confident in your parenting skills as you can because the baby is coming. Trust me, i know how you feel. I had plans to do so many other things and it seems I am being thrown into REAL adulthood overnight even though I was grown already.

It makes me a little sad and then i get happy thinking im going to have my first baby and then im sad again because im worried im going to mess up. So many questions, so little answers. So much left up to fate and instinct. I wish we could have all been born with an instruction manual.

To answer your question, you are not overreacting. And I doubt that you will ever really feel "ready" because it certainly hasnt hit me yet. I think that if we all waited until we were ready, the world wouldnt have any people at all in it. LOL

Good luck and you'll do fine!

Answer 3

I think 25 and 30 is fine, especially if you have been married for a while and the relationship is stable. We had really nothing when our first child was born (i was 24), and everything went fine. Everyone thinks that they should have more of this or that, or have done this or that before the baby comes, but you know, everything does not have to be just perfect for things to work out. You make adjustments.

I am in my mid 50s now, with three great grown kids and a grandson and I still act goofy. It's what I am. I feel like I am a lot younger (As you get older, it will always seem in your head that you are 18 or 20). You can be mature and still have a wacky, off-beat sense of humor. Who says you have to be boring and dead serious?

Honestly, I think you will be just fine. Good luck!

Answer 4

aww relax its normal to feel this way! 25 is a perfect age in my opinion, and i think the "immaturity" you speak of is a great quality because you guys are not going to be boring parents, you will actually interact with, play games and have fun with your kids! Things dont alwyas go as planned..its life. Be grateful that you have a loving husband, a roof over your heads, and a beuatiful baby on the way. You will figure out where to put the crib, etc by rearranging the apt. You wil be ready when you have everything you need for the new baby, when you decide on babysitting arrangements, schedules, delivery method. Trust me the minute you see that little person in your arms...you will love that perosn more than anything!

Answer 5

trust me, every parent goes through that no matter how old they are. Ive seen my aunts my cousins myself go through the same thing and it is a scary thought to not know if your mature enough to handle it. Im 18 and my husband is 20 and oh boy were we freaked out in the beginning. Im 4 months along and weve finally started to calm down and trust ourselves. Parenthood comes naturally most of the time. And if it doesnt you can always rely on your family to help you if you need advice. You probably will never be ready ready for the baby...most people never are and I know we wont be. There are so many scary questions that can haunt you like if youll be a good parent, or how do we discipline, what if he turns out like me? all kinds of stuff went through our heads. My husband didnt know anything when we first found out (he was just never around babies when he was younger) and I had two younger brothers when I was little but I was so young I dont remember what my mom did. But my husband has just read even a little bit of my parenting and pregnancy books that my mom gave me and he sounds like a typical father. The more you read and the more you look into things it will make you feel so much better trust me. Those pregnancy books are like our bible! a really good one if your interested is one called " Great Expectations, Your all-in-one resource for pregnancy and childbirth". This one is my favorite. It shows you week by week what is going on in there it just has absolutely everything you would ever want to know and its really helped us. Hope this helped. Also we still live with his parents(i know alittle wierd but were moving out in january to a house for the baby) so trust me most people are not at all ready like we werent! good luck!

Answer 6

I felt like that and I had my first child when I was 29. He is 14 months now and I am so glad that I had him. And, you will never feel that you have enough money saved. I say that you should just enjoy being pregnant and know that when you have this kid everything will end up working out. Plus, you guys still be able to act goofy, just wait... you guys will have to act goofy taking care of a toddler.

Answer 7

i am 21 years old. me and my husband are the goofiest people around. we have a 2 year old. i wasn't ready to have a baby when i did. we weren't even planning. i was on birth control and in my senior year of high school!!! you are 25. have gone to college, been married for five years. you are going to be ok. like someone else said on here, there is never a READY. but you will be ok. you can still be goofy and silly and have kids. it makes it more fun. and it makes the kids laugh. congratulations and good luck. (by the way, i still graduated high school 6 months pregnant.)

Answer 8

Please thank God for the Gift you've been blessed with.

Your education will always be there and you can always further your education later in life.

It's actually safer to have the baby at your age than it is if you tried to wait. You don't really know if you'll ever be able to conceive again either. It doesn't become easier as you become older.

Also, since you love to clown around, I'm sure your new child will be albe to teach you a thing or too.

Love is sacrifice. Please pray for your pregnancy. Put good harmony into your body by meditation and prayer. Thank the Lord for this awesome wonder that is not only a gift to you but to you and your husband.

Start thinking of names! Love your child now. They will sense the love or the nervousness. Choose love.

Answer 9

even when a baby is planned parents still feel insecure and scared about whether they are ready. I dont think there is ever an optimal time to have children. I'm sure you are more than grown up enough and you and your husband will do just find
your worries are perfectly normal
good luck and congrats

Answer 10

Women almost always feel this way with their 1st baby. And the 2nd. And the 3rd... You're going to be great - everything comes naturally. I felt the same way when I had my 1st at 27 and I feel the same now that I'm pregnant with my 2nd. Only now my concern is will I love my 2nd as much as my 1st baby (which I know is ridiculous). You just learn as you go. Enjoy!