ask your father(or other significant male) for your hand in marriage??
Do you think it's an old tradition that should be forgotten or do you believe more people should go back to doing it that way?
Thoughts and opinions?!?!?!
2007-10-12 03:00:18 · 22 answers · asked by obsolete_allurement 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We've been married for almost 10 years. And yes, my husband did ask my dad. I think it's out of respect for the father that a man does this and it was a very nice gesture. I think there is nothing wrong with this at all. The problem now days is alot of the young men probably don't even remember that men use to do this. It's nice, I'd like to hear more of it.
2007-10-12 03:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by elmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's an outdated tradition, but my opinion could be dictated by my personal circumstances.
My parents were divorced when I was an infant. I have never had a good relationship with my father; right now we are estranged (as we have been many, many times in the past) and he has not beenpart of my life for the past several years. In fact, I have now been married for a year and he has never met my husband. I doubt he even knows what my new name is. It would have made no sense for my husband to ask my father for permission to marry me, as my father has participated in very little of my life (by his choice; my mother and I have both made numerous efforts to inlude him).
Also, the tradition dates back to when daughters and wives were considered to be property more so than human beings unto their own right. Hence the tradition of being "given away" at your wedding. I look at these two events as being related. Despite having positive male influences in my life, I chose not to be "given away" by them or anyone else at my wedding because I feel that I am not chattel to be given away or owned, but am a person who "belongs" only to myself.
2007-10-12 05:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married twice (due to being widowed) and neither of my husbands asked my father for permission. I've never done the 'traditional thing' both wedding were held abroad without my family being there, both for different reasons.
But for that matter how many people do the whole traditional courtship anymore, I would think that the majority of people are not virgins on their wedding night.
2007-10-12 04:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We met in college. I had come back to campus from Christmas ruin (2006) a week early and became staying with a kinfolk chum interior the area. He took me ice skating and proposed to me on the ice. He slipped and landed on his butt/area (on purpose, yet i did not know that). He became keeping his resign his chest, interior his jacket, so i presumed that he'd cracked a rib or something. i did not know his jacket had an inner pocket and that he had a hoop in there. He pulled out a white velvet ring container and proposed. i became so bowled over that i did not even say sure for some hours lol. I advise, I agreed to it and hugged him and have been given truly excited, however the be conscious, "sure" did not come from my lips till some hours later. His roommate were shooting human beings all night, which became annoying as a results of fact i'm the international's clumsiest skater and that i did not not choose suggested clumsiness documented. yet in a while, i became happy that somebody have been given it on video =) when I helped him up, i found out that truly easily everyone else on the rink had stopped skating and have been staring at us, smiling. some strangers took photos lol. He had advised considered one of his buddies that he became going to point, and that they made us a pleasing dinner in a while and advised me all approximately his sneaky making plans.
2016-10-22 03:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by ammon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very respectful and romantic old tradition. I think that would be great to have a man ask for the father's blessing.
2007-10-12 03:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie Queen of All ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be sweet if my boyfriend asked my father for my hand in marriage. But my father and I would both see it as sort of a joke because we feel I don't need permission from anyone but myself to make life changing decisions.
2007-10-12 03:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by jolielaide_defyinggravity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad passed away before I got married. So, no, my husband didn't ask him. I'm not THAT close to either of my brothers so he didn't ask them either.
I think to do show would show great respect for the woman's family, but I really don't think that most fathers would consider it necessary.
2007-10-12 03:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked my Father-Law. It is a good practice. It shows the Father that you are accepting of his family and respectful of his position within it.
2007-10-12 09:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're fiance/husband asks your father for your hand in marriage it shows your family that he's respectful. I believe that more people should go back to doing it that way because you always want to stay on the in-law's good side. :)
2007-10-12 03:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by lorak 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No. It's an outdated tradition. While cute and melodramatic, it's unnecessary. My husband and my dad are buddies for sure, but he didn't ask for my hand.
I'm a grown woman. I don't need permission to get married.
2007-10-12 03:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋