Okay, We were sitting and talking and I said "you were not born then", then she asked "was I in your tummy?" I said no and she said were was I?" I did not know what to say. You see, when I was a kid, whenever I asked that question the response was, "in your daddy's pants." I want her to know about what is really going on but I am not sure if she is old enough to even understand or to even hear detalis about it. I was pregnant at a young age and so was my mother so I want to be very cautious with this one.
2007-10-12 02:57:59 · 12 answers · asked by make?love*not$war! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
At 4 years old she is not ready for The birds and bees talk. She just wants simple answers to her questions. You could tell her "you were not even thought of yet" you could say "in heaven waiting on mommy".
I am very open with my daughter and give her just as much info that i think she needs at that time. When she was 4 she learned about periods because I couldn't keep her out of the bathroom . She says mommy whats that. I say I am on my period. Women get these when they reach puberty around age 12 you Will get yours someday too.
When I was pregnant with my son. The doctor gave me the stages of pregnancy book. I didn't think much about it when i seen her looking at it but, on the 9th month it shows where babies really do come from in full color! Well that's when i told her yes babies do come out that way.
When asked how babies are made. at age 4 i would I say out of LOVE. Mommy and daddy's love! Now that she is 8 and she asks I say Mommy has eggs and daddy's sperm (not that I go into detail of how the eggs and sperm get together) I am still not ready for that and I don't think she is either.
Just her a little info at a time. She has plenty of time before she has to know all the details. Giving her a little info at a time lets her digest the info she knows and when you add onto the info maybe she will make some connections.
2007-10-12 03:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, at three my girl asked b/c her little bro was on the way. I told her that the baby was in my tummy and that all girls when they get to an age have a special egg that can only become a baby with a daddy. That was the only thing I said and she never questioned and she's five now and never asked further details altho I did let her know in a very 5 yr old friendly version of the birds and the bees b/c it's important to know. They need to know that their 'place' is special and can't be touched by anyone at that age ever. I was killing two birds with one stone and my daughter is now versed about it in her terms, not adult terms.
2007-10-12 13:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When children ask questions, often a little information goes a long way to satisfying their curiosity. If you give them too much information you scare them. This is asubject where that is especially true.
Tell her something simple, like "babies grow in a special place in the mommy's belly, where they stay untilt hey are big enough for the mommy to hold them." That might be enough If not she will ask another question. Keep the answer simple. If she asks "how does the baby get there", just say something like "the baby starts out like a tiny little egg, and grows and grows." You'll be surprised how fast she'll be happy with what you tell her.
It does not have to be rocket science. Shes FOUR. Dont tell her too much, and don't lie to her.
2007-10-12 14:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by nina1117 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be easier to answer if you give some background about what your little one knows already
without going into details but putting it in a context your little one will understand how about something like this.
when a Mummy and Daddy love each other very much they have a special hug (where God) helps them to make a baby. You were made this way and Mummy ad Daddy love you very much
Omit the words in brackets if you want to
2007-10-12 10:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by lashylashla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um is she in school? find out who is telling her these things! if she is in school it may be her teacher or someone...but i would be worried to if i was you..a 4 year old shouldn't know this things as a very young age. but talk to her and ask her where she is hearing this things from or who is telling her..but dont tell her how babies are made because she is to young.
but if she may ask more questions after another so you might want to answer he questions but not in very much detail. like for an example..when she asked how she was made say: when a mommy and daddy love each other, they have a special bond and love and thats how you where made, because we love you. something like that but um be honest with her
2007-10-12 10:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_lil_emo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Keeping it from her will only make the subject taboo, and she may rebel against you and have sex when she is a teen. No need to tell her every little detail - that can wait a while longer, though it doesn't have to. Go at your own pace. Just remember that if you appear uncomfortable or embarrassed when talking about this, she will learn that there is something wrong with it and she may be hesitant to ask you more questions later on, when she needs really answers.
2007-10-12 10:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't know what your belief system is so I'll try to think of a few things. I told my four year old that she was with Jesus in Heaven before she came to my tummy, but you could also explain to her that she was a thought in the back of your mind. In your daddy's pants is very inappropriate for a young child or any child for that matter. If nothing else you could tell her she was in never never land with Peter Pan or something fairy taleish I guess. I personally would like my kids to know my beliefs and what I know to be true, but she is your child so it is your decision.
2007-10-12 10:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by kella l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should respond by asking questions, like "where do you think babies come from?" Make sure you completely understand her questions.
2007-10-12 12:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um ok dont tell her how she got there just tell her she was in the belly i told my daugther that i explained to her she was in my stomache and they had to cut mommys tummy open to get her out and dat was it she didnt aske nemore questions
2007-10-12 18:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by hostile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth. my son has asked the same thing and i tell him it was before you were born, he has asked where was i and i have told him in heaven waiting in line to come to mommy. it works and he leaves it alone
if your not religious this wont work we are so it workd
2007-10-12 10:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋