In my invitations I would like to indicate that the dress code is: semi-formal or formal. I really want my invites to dress nicely, it will be held at a Howard Johnson Hotel, it will be a sit down dinner, starting with a welcome cocktail reception. Is it appropiate to indicate the dress code? The other question is re presents, I do not mind presents, however, in the past I have received presents that have been setting in my basement, because is not my style, color or just dont match my decor, to avoid this, I would like to add to my invitation and little card that states the following: "Gifts Certicates are welcome".. and I have listed just a few places that I would like to get stuff from. I do believe that this way my friends and family, will not be spending their time and their money on a present that eventually I would not enjoy. Is this a polite way of indicating I do not want presents, rather gift certificates? What should I do, No stores offers registry like weddings or showers
2007-10-12 02:47:41 · 8 answers · asked by Shedia S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is fine and advisable to indicate the dress code.
Please do not put "gift certificates are welcome". This would be tacky but I would suggest starting a word of mouth campaign. Tell a few of the guest that you are very close to about your preference and let the word get out to your guest. many people who are getting married have their mothers tell everyone to bring money instead of gifts but there should be no mention of gifts on an invitation.
2007-10-12 04:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by lhallums82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with setting your expectations!
plus it's your day anyway!
here is what i would do about your spot!
for the formal wear send out a formal invite with RSVP stating the attire half the time when someone gets something like that they don't know what to wear make it easy set that expectation!
Gift certicaates means you want money and there is no "Nice way to say that" what some forget not everyone has money!
I would insert a card or some sort of list of stuff you want there are no registrys (there are) that you like so make your own hand right type or whatever make your own registry put different things on there and even photo's to help the simple minded. there is nothing wrong with this! and it's a bit more classy then saying Gift Certificates welcome! make sure you put different price ranges on there too!
I can't think of the site that does the registry but if you google it you will find it!
but why not make it even easier for your peeps if it is in side the invite then they won't have to try to find your name on some web site and bla bla bla!
it works!
Happy birthday!
Have fun!!!
2007-10-12 02:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To suggest attire is fine. It's normally determined by the formality of the invitation. A hand written invite from a store bought pack means casual. A professionally printed invite with response cards means a more formal gathering.
You never asks for gifts, so of course you can not ask for gift cards. If you don't want gifts you can't use, put 'no gifts please'. If someone still wants to give you something, whether it's a gift of gift card, they will do it. But you can't obligate them to give you anything.
2007-10-12 03:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly it is acceptable to indicate the dress code.
I'm not so sure about telling people what presents they should give you without causing offence. I have been given many presents over the years that are not my style or are no use to me, but I don't think there is much you can do about this really. I will be interested to see what others think about this.
2007-10-12 02:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by * Xanthippe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think you should mention presents, unless you are asking them to donate to a charity in your name. It just looks like you are doing this for the presents.
As far as the dress code, state it clearly and make the invitation as classy as possible to drive the point home.
When holding your own birthday party, it's about your guests and your contributions to the world. If you want it to be about you, get someone else to hold it and pretend to be surprised.
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2007-10-12 02:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't be more tacky. From planning your own party to telling people what kind of gift to bring. If I received an invitation like that, I'd decline attending.
I can see now why no one would throw a party for you. You probably have no genuine friends. SAD.
2007-10-12 03:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you may not wait till at last after your first trimester then bypass forward and tell them at Thanksgiving. That way you're actually not making the fact on somebody else's day. you isn't stealing the spotlight out of your sister's being pregnant when you consider that she will have her toddler first. and you wont sense such as you're mendacity on your loved ones approximately why you're getting married so quickly. I chosen to tell easily everyone the day i found out and that i became in basic terms 4 weeks alongside yet i'm not a spiritual guy or woman and individually do not care who thinks that's incorrect or immoral. i'm additionally 28 although which for my kinfolk is kinda previous for beginning off to have toddlers, so easily everyone tremendously lots basically suggested "that's approximately time!" sturdy success and congratulations on your being pregnant, commencement and wedding ceremony!
2016-10-22 03:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by ammon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Planning your own party is ok. Asking for gift certificates is outright rude.
2007-10-12 06:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋