Should I put both parents on the invitation?

Question

My parents paying for the reception but his parents gave us money for other stuff??

Answer 1

If you're going to mention one, I'd mention both. You def don't want to start your married life on the wrong foot over something so small as a name on an invitation.

Ours said 'The pleasure of your company is requested at the wedding of Bride and Groom' It's much less formal wording, and we're both in our late 30's, and having a beach wedding, so this seemed much more appropriate for who we are.

Answer 2

When I got married, this was a newer thing that was being done, I had never heard of such a thing and even if I had, I am pretty traditional so i doubt I would have done it at all. My parents were the hosts, their name went on the invite as it was they who were doing the inviting. My husbands last name was on the invite, if people didnt recognize his name, then they shouldnt have been invited in the first place.

I'm a traditional girl, I like the bride's parents inviting style best of all.

Answer 3

Its up to you.... traditionally, the parents "hosting" the wedding are mentioned first (or only)...

Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage ceremony of their daughter
Brides Name
to
Grooms name
son of Mr. and Mrs. Grooms Parents
etc.

Or if you feel they are BOTH hosting the wedding you would put:

Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents
and
Mr. and Mrs. Grooms Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage ceremony of
Brides Name
to
Grooms name
etc.

Personally, I JUST had my parents mentioned in the invitation... his parents didnt really put any input and kind of didnt agree with the wedding period... they were aggrivated at first, but got over it.

Do what you think looks right... also, you can see what the example has on the invitation you want... some invitations only have a certain amount of room which can limit you also.

Good luck!

Answer 4

This is an example I found on a site:

When both sets of parents are hosting the wedding
Because this is a less traditional situation, we're sort of charting our own territory here. One alternative is:

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Allen Jones
and
Mr. and Mrs. Nathaniel James Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Maria Louise Jones
and
Mr. John Matthew Smith

That is what I found, I believe that if you put one set of parents it would only be right that you put both sets, especially if both are helping.

Answer 5

We are paying for our wedding ourselves but intend to put both of our parents on the invitations. It will mean a lot to them and they would contribute if they were financially able. I say do what feels right and don't worry about what Ms. Manners says, it's 2007 not 1954!
I think it's a lovely gesture to involve both families on your invite.

Answer 6

This has nothing to do with who is paying for the wedding.
You include the parents' names because it's respectful, because it shows who you are the daughter and son of...
We were adults when we got married, and paid for our own wedding, but we included both sets of names on the invitations. For example -
Mary Joan,
daughter of Frank and Helen Smith
and
Joseph George,
son of Walter and Susan Jones...

Answer 7

You can either put BOTH parents names on the invite, or just have the bride and grooms names on the invite.

"The parents of Bride
along with
The parents of Groom
cordially yadda yadda"

or

"Mr and Mrs Smith and Mr and Mrs Jones proudly announce that their children, Bride and Groom, are to be married yadda yadda"

Answer 8

The invitation could be worded:

Mr. and Mrs: Joe Bride Parents
and
Mr and Mrs. Jack Groom Parents
wish to invite you to the celebration of the Union of their children, Bride and Groom.

Of course, you would fill in the correct names and such. Or something similar.

Answer 9

Absolutely. Both of our parents helped us so we went with wording ours... "Together with their parents, (bride and groom), cordially invite you...."

You can word it a variety of ways that include everyone. I think I found examples at www.verseit.com

Answer 10

Just your parents. That's the American tradition, but what you can do is thank them at the reception or print out a paper that will go to the people at the reception with the thank you's to other people who helped with the the wedding.