I have a friend who got involved with an attached guy before. She also had a boyfriend at that time. They belong to same group of friends to whom they had to lie to because of their situation. Realizing that what they were doing was wrong, they decided to separate. Now the guy is about to marry his girlfriend. Some of their friends think his girlfriend should know about his past relationship because apparently he did not only got involved with my friend but to several girls also. Should the truth be let out in the open? Who is to tell the girl about this truth?
2007-10-12 02:31:10 · 12 answers · asked by j.anne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not ones place to tell the girl except the guy shes with. someone needs to just suggest to him that he should tell her and be 100% honest with her and tell her that it will never happen again. if they can get over him telling her then theyll be a happy married couple. but if she doesnt find out now, but finds out later it could cause ALOT of problems.
2007-10-12 02:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! What purpose would it serve, except to cause trouble where there is none. From what you said, they didn't do anything wrong anyway, apparently they were both single at the time. "Attached" implies no one was married. What difference does it make whatever they did as single people to the marriage? No one should tell her anything because it would serve not good purpose. I mean, we aren't talking about a cheating husband here, just two people who were "involved" while they were single. Grow up.
2007-10-12 02:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one should tell the girl. it's his place to tell the girl his past life. that not anyone else job. if he wants her to know his past then on him. its not your place or any of your friends place. the truth will come to the light eventually but until then let them be. what if you were the guy an your friends wanted to tell on you to your spouse. think how you would fill. your guys have to step in other people shoes for a mintue. he made some mistakes in the past now he has found one he can settel down with so dont take he joy away.
2007-10-12 02:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by masterdloski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the the female "friend" should tell her "friend" that she was having an affair with her boyfriend. And if she opts not to then she perhaps she should consider getting out of their lives completly. Honestly, the girlfriend needs to be told, because his behavior may not change after the vows and it affects how she will approach this big decision in her life. It was an unfair andhurtful thing they did and it needs to come to light or forever hold your peace and fester the pain to come...
good luck
2007-10-12 02:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by foolproofdiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she should know. He should tell her. But if he wants to keep her, he must tell her that it was all in the past and that it will NEVER happen again. It might strain the relationship but if it is true love, they will eventually get over the obstacle.
2007-10-12 02:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to tell her now, before the wedding. you cannot wed and have lies in your heaart at the same time you are promising God you will love this womanand only this woman for the rest of your life. she WILL find out eventually. so he must step up and take on the responsibility to tell her.
and he should be tested for any std's also
as to not past them on to his wife
2007-10-12 02:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one! everyone should learn to mind their business because it's not their problem. Stop focusing on his past. She is his future and if something need to come out in the open it will happened on it's on.
2007-10-12 02:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should tell her. It opens the marriage up with a trusting realationship. Its not good to leave secrets hiding in the shadows from your wife/husband.
2007-10-12 02:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will gain nothing by telling your girlfriend the truth about her boyfriend.
Trust me, the victim always seems to want to kill the messenger.
2007-10-12 02:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by conim2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should be getting into this situation. He needs to be the one to tell her everything...I don't want her to think that ya'll are trying to ruin everything...If he is doing good now then there is no reason to mess it up.
2007-10-12 02:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mrs. Mac♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋