Ok i'm getting married in about four weeks my parents arranged this marrige, and I didn't have a say in it and i'm just going to have to marry this guy because my parents said so, I don't even like him he's nasty and rude and has ZERO manners should I do the Julia Roberts on him and be the runaway birde or should I just jump in the forever boat to hell?
2007-10-12 02:14:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what? are you serious? what country are you in? How old are you? If you are in the US and over 18, parents can not tell you what to do, so don't marry him. It's that simple.
2007-10-12 02:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get out before it's too late i say!
If he's already rude and nasty who know's how nasty he could get once your living with him, I'm really worried for you, he may hit you or anything.
Actually, just thinking about it maybe he is being this way so you will run, it may just be that he wants out but doesn't have the courage. I would talk to him, see if he does feel the same as you then if so, go to your parents together the repercussions may not be as bad if it is mutual!
2007-10-12 10:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you after thinking through potential consequences of each. Are you sure he's that bad? I find it hard to believe that parents would set you up with such a loser unless he's rich. You can try to stick it out and if it doesn't work, you could always divorce. If you run, how would your family react? Maybe you should tell your parents outright that if this wedding doesn't stop immediately, you are going to take off because you don't appreciate being set up with someone you don't know, love and can't stand. See what they say.
2007-10-12 09:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An arranged marriage? Why? For some reason, you don't seem like you are of a culture where arranged marriages are the norm. So why is this happening? Or are you just trying find the gullible people?
2007-10-12 09:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Refuse to marry anyone you don't love, and/or is nasty, rude or abusive.
2. Get counseling to undo any damage from your domineering parents.
3. Develop emotional independence and healthy boundaries from your parents.
4. Develop financial independence from your parents via getting a job and pursuing education/career.
2007-10-12 11:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should I just jump in the gorever boat to hell? Hmm, that's a tough one.
I didn't have a say in it and I'm just going to have to marry this guy because my parents said so
Obviously you don't have to marry him if you are thnking about running away. If you HAD to marry him you wouldn't be asking us this question, you would be sobbing in your room and reconciling yourself to your fate.
Don't marry someone you don't love and aren't ready to spend your entire life with. It's that easy.
2007-10-12 09:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by L H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way should you marry a person you don't at least like.
I don't know where you are, but this is pretty barbaric. If you're in America, you simply stand your ground and say, "No way". Your parents can't legally make you marry anybody.
2007-10-12 09:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're for real, don't marry him. You don't sound like someone from a culture where marriages are usually arranged. Troll?
2007-10-12 18:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's the ever so popular idea of :divorce later on.
But think of this: do you want to live unhappy or live more lenghty and happy?
The fact you are even asking the question, therefore answers your question....leave the situation. Even you are asking yourself to believe in what you feel you want to really do. ;)
2007-10-12 09:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Adia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel really sorry for you. I just know I wouldn't marry someone I felt that way about...no matter who told me to.
2007-10-12 09:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋