After knowing this man for a year now.
After listening to all the affectionate words ever created 4 love.
After trusting him completely depending on his actions & words.
After even preparing myself to his promises of marriage.
After all these previous "Afters" Only and only yesterday I found out that he is a complete liar and a cheater. He cheated on me and broke my heart. I was having an bf before & cheated on me as well but he was stupid and not clever to take all that time to fool me as that b a s t a r d. Oh God, I was never able to sleep yesterday when I got sure that it was him cheating ... just cried & cried, yelled and shouted. I am sorry ppl, I need nothing but to pity me and sustain me by simplest words. I am never able to love again. My heart is blocked embracing these cheating injuries. He told me "Trust me" now, I wont be able even to trust myself to trust any man again.
Just pity me ... am in a mess.
2007-10-12 02:11:04 · 24 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that your heart is really hurting right now...I'm not going to pity you because I was in the exact same situation except I now have a 6 month old daughter by my ex..I loved him with all of my heart and he lied and cheated...My heart is still hurting too but the pain does go away with time...
You have to forgive so that you will not take it out on the right man that comes along. You have to forgive so that the anger won't consume you.
It will be very hard for you to trust another guy again. If he's the right one, he'll understand where all of your doubts come from and he'll make you see differently.
Just pray for strength and guidance. Take care of yourself, keep loving yourself and you'll get better.
A Man's Strength is in his Character...He must have been a weak man.
2007-10-12 02:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by ZarahzMA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that.
It seriously sucks, it hurts and you think that at first..
but eventually sooner or later, (even though it may be quite a while later) you will be able to trust someone else to love you again.
I feel a bit that way right now, but answering your question it made me realize that the pain really happens to everyone.. all the time and if you just say that you wont love ever again, you would go though life, without loving or being loved, being lonely, and that's no way to live.
I hope you get over this hard time, because i am sure it will get better, it just takes time.
2007-10-13 11:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by little.miss.hot.lips 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well we are in the same boat, all you experienced now is what happened to me now i shouted and cried a lot too, He cheated me and worst took advantage of me by borrowing money.Huge amount Don't pity yourself you have to move on he is not worth loving at least in you are not still married the worst is if you have marry him then your life will be miserable. Be thankful that it happen at this time, its GODS will .. He has a plan for you don't close your heart.. just pray. GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-12 02:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. From past questions, it seemed like you were on the right track.
I always tell people. it takes 6 or 7 heart breaks to get the hang of love. You've gotten 2 learning experiences down, 5 to go. Learn all you can from it, apply it to the next time and you'll be fine.
2007-10-12 02:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, little sister. I understand that kind of pain and betrayal, it's crushing.
After a period of mourning ("even a dog licks his own wounds") you'll feel like joining the human race again. After that time, you'll be able to look back and see mistakes you make in picking who you allowed to come into your heart. Try to learn how to make better choices (some temporary counseling?) so you don't inadvertently repeat the same mistake.
Sending you healing thoughts.
2007-10-12 02:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Zeera 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are all wankers. I was cheated on i walked into the situation he was in bed with the girl!!! On the day i passed my driving test!!! And im not an idiot but im with him we have a 5 month old baby!!! He is an angel now and the worse thing is im not!!! I enjoy myself with men and i am not 100%!!Never trust a man 100% maybe just 95 so then they cant kick you in the face!!!!
2007-10-12 02:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Read this carefully ,hope this helps U in some way.
"Never talk defeat.Use words like hope,belief,faith,victory."I am too facing this problem but my man didn't cheat me.
He broke up leaving nothing but an miserable life for me and asking to be just good friends.I absolutely told him that I am never going to talk to him ever after and now he his feeling guilty.Know what women don't need men as we can have them just by saying hi,hello and etc.Men need women more.This words are not of mine my male friends told me this.Don't talk to him.Just react as if you don't know him.Talk to other guys that will make him feel jealous and surely sad of what he his missing.And if he really understands his mistakes he will try to talk to you,but mind you don't talk to him.Let he suffers all that pain.We are not an use and throw thing and this men's have to understand.If we can love them truly we can also make them punish for there mistakes."See if the facts doesn't fit the theory,change the facts"."A man who makes trouble for others is also making trouble for himself".I will pray to god that your life be with full of pleasure and joy and you get the right person.Trust god and everything will be nice."There is a sweet joy that comes to us after sorrow."
2007-10-12 02:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
hang in there honey. Its impossible to see from where you are now, but you will feel better soon. Do not get down on yourself for trusting and believing. Life is a cold prison if you can't find it in your heart to believe in something.
Think about the value of resilience. It is a wonderful trait that will serve you well for the rest of your life. Work on the goal of being able to bounce back from disappointments, instead of fearing them. do not life your life too safely, fearing to be hurt. Its a thousand times better to have lost at love than to never have loved at all.
2007-10-12 02:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by John M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sara I feel very sorry for you that he hurt you the way he did. It will take some time for you to get over it and you will. You will find a new guy who will treat you better than he did. I still want the sales insurance agent guy who I love very much. I have a very good and happy feeling deep down inside my heart that one day he will finally realize that I am the only one for him and that he will tell me he wants to be with me, that he loves me and that he wants to marry me.
2007-10-13 10:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-03 12:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by gruett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋