My sister asked my two daughters to be bridesmaids aged 2 and 3. We had a great day then about eight weeks after the wedding she asked for the bridesmaid dresses back, after giving them to the children.. I had a big argument with her about it saying that the children had played dressing up in them and calling themselves princess as you do when your young!! I had my daughter crying for days.. I won't speak to her do you think that she should apologize???
2007-10-12 02:00:07 · 19 answers · asked by Lisa P 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She brought them really cheap in the first place, and said the children can do what they want!! She still has the dresses.!!!!
2007-10-12 02:05:59 · update #1
This sounds very petty and mean. These are kids for goodness sake and taking away their pretty dresses hurt them and made them cry.
I cant for the life of me understand why she would take them?
What would she do with them? Keep them as a keepsake?
I had flowergirl dresses and bridesmaid dresses I had worn in the past cluttering up my cupboard, what a waste of space, I gave them to my kids to play in........why keep them???
My girls were flowergirls this year and they will never wear those dresses again so I have let them play in them and wear them to a dress up party. Why not? At least they are being enjoyed....how much enjoyment comes from a dress stuffed in a cupbaord? NONE
Someone needs to point out to your sister that these are little girls that she has hurt. she sounds like a self centred biatch.
2007-10-12 09:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your more upset because your kids are crying because they can't play "princess" anymore, then why don't YOU go buy them some other dresses they can play in?? They have costumes to be any princess they want to be, with all kinds of accessories to go with the dress.
I would like to know your sister's side of the story and why she took the dresses back.
I think you are overreacting, and depending on your sister's story, she may be overreacting too.
Calm down first. Then have a civil conversation with why the dresses were taken back. Where they considered a gift to begin with? Or was this just a time of poor communication?
2007-10-12 02:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted the dresses back that should have been made clear ahead of time. I think you should go see her, tell her that because she did not tell you ahead of time the dresses were only on loan that the girls and yourself were under the impression that they belonged to your daughters to do with as they please. Let her know that they dresses are very special to the girls and you are sorry that she wants them back, but that you will not take them away from the children since they now belong to the girls.
I know it doesn't seem appropriate and I don't personally think you should have to, be gracious and offer to pay for the dresses. If she refuses, you have done all that you can do. It's up to her to come around and be an adult about it. Yes I think you deserve an apology but sometimes as adults it's our duty to swallow our pride and be adult about things. It's better to come at it from this angle and be upfront and honest than it is to whine and gripe about who's right and who's wrong. You are sisters and once this is worked out it will eventually blow over.
2007-10-12 02:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by L H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think if she gave the dresses to your daughters then they're not her's any more and she has no right to ask for them back. Plus she must have realised that your daughters would be upset. If she didn't want your girls to keep the dresses she should have made it clear before the day that she would need them straight back, not leave it until 8 weeks after.
2007-10-13 11:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by magenta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she gave them to you or your girls as a gift, then she has no right to ask for them back. It is a gift, you should get to keep it the way you would with any other gift. Did she say before the wedding she would want them back? If she did specify this, then it is ok to get them back seeing as they were more 'on loan' than a gift. But if she did not say before the wedding she would want them back then she has no right to ask. You don't give a birthday gift then ask for it back. I think she is in the wrong but you should make up with her anyway. Be the bigger person and don't let this ruin your relationship, there are more important things. Good luck!
2007-10-12 02:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster who said that it seems that there is more to this than meets the eye. Do you have a friend or relative who would be willing to act as a neutral third party at a lunch with the two of you? Don't bring your daughters - you need to be able to talk.
I think that it is important to clear the air before any more time goes by.
2007-10-12 04:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you pay for the dresses? Did she mention anything at all about who was going to pay for them? It seems odd that no one would have discussed that. I know that you're upset to see your daughters cry but they're so young -- I highly doubt they're going to feel that strongly after even a month. So talk to your sister and find out what's going on.
2007-10-12 02:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted to sell them as she needs the money? I think you need to speak to her, rationally and calmly and find out why she wants the dresses back. If the dresses are in good condition can't you give them back to her and ask her to buy your kids dressing up clothes instead? Is it really worth falling out over?
2007-10-12 02:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You mean she took them away because they were playing in them? First, I wouldn't let the kids play in them. Kids will ruin them. Second, yeah, I think she overreacted. Instead of demanding an apology, talk to her and tell her while the kids shouldn't have been playing in the dresses and promise not to allow that again, she also needs to understand that she hurt the kids and would like to work something out to get the dresses back...you can also offer to pay her back for the dresses.
Add: This all sounds petty then. If there is no reason she took the dresses...then it sounds like she's doing it out of spite towards you. What did you do to her to cause her to act out like this? There must be a reason.
2007-10-12 02:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Yes. What is your Sister going to do with 2 small dresses anyway, try get her money back ???
2007-10-12 02:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Red 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋