I asked both of the men Im seeing to come to my house so we could all talk. They both knew I was seeing the other. Both of them show up and I explain that I have no intention on choosing. I let them both know I liked them equally and i wanted things to remain the same. They both agreed and left.
Now one of them is SUPER mad at me saying that I am wrong for trying to keep them both. My problem is that I offered each of them the space to not be down with the situation. I told the truth and they both seemed ok abt it. Why is he trippin all of a sudden?
2007-10-12 01:45:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its amazing that even WOMEN will try and call another woman a hoe casue shes honest enough to say - hey people im single, safe, and grown.
I have no intent on picking... He was told he can go and he would be replaced. I was married since i was 17 (divorced in 05) and dont want to be in a relationship.. but dating is great!
2007-10-12 01:56:44 · update #1
Thanks to all for the answers...
All should keep in mind that not everyone wants a relationship... I sure enough dont.
2007-10-12 02:38:42 · update #2
No you were honest about it. Maybe he couldn't handle actually seeing the other guy. He now actually has a face to match the name now. You probably shouldn't have introduced them to each other. But like I said you were honest. Next time never let them meet unless they ask you.
2007-10-12 01:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Just here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's very upset because he cares about you and you threatened his pride as a man and probably made them both feel like IDIOTS. Only thing is, one cares about you and the other don't. The other one that's not upset, well, in my opinion, he don't about you and if he did, he sure will find the best way NOW- to get rid of those feelings. Come on. Be for real. What would you do or how would you feel if put in that position. I couldn't imagine myself going to talk to two guys at the same time, especially when they know about each other. I'm sorry honey, but sometimes the truth hurts. I hope you take this and learn from it: You put yourself in a position that makes you unfit for a healthy relationship. As a woman, you really made yourself look bad to both. I mean, how far do you think your relationship will go with either of them, now that the cats out of the bag and they've met eye to eye. That's upsurd! I know I wouldn't ever want to see a guy again if he did that to me. Sometimes, we just need a little of our own medicine to wake us up to reality. I hope you've learned about others feelings when all is said and done. One more suggestion, start reading some self help books on insecurity. A happy and healthy relationship starts with feeling secure about yourself first. Happy with yourself first, and so on. A book on relationships couldn't hurt you either. Good luck to ya!
2007-10-12 02:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was a little uncool to bring the two guys together and he is just trying to make you choose one or the other of them when it fact it may be neither that you ultimately end up marrying - you may find someone better and keep them as friends, or perhaps they would be people that you used to know. If you can't decide between one or the other they are probably both the wrong person to plan a future with.
2007-10-12 01:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If you were really interested in a man and he told you that he was seeing other women and had no intention of devoting all his time to you only, that wouldn't make you feel just a little upset? What you're telling them is that you want to have your cake and eat it too. It doesn't work like that. If they really like you, they wouldn't want to share you physically and emotionally with another man. I think you are the one whose trippin.
2007-10-12 01:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't trippin.He just realized you are a ho.He will find someone that only needs one guy in there life and he doesn't need a body condom to be around them.Good luck with that!
2007-10-12 01:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw he aint trippin, but thats not right 2 be playin both the guys, u should choose one of them or none of them,
2007-10-12 02:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tweeter2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first answer,it is truebut if you really want both have both.if this guy isnt into it break it off and stick with one guy or find another
2007-10-12 01:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said he couldn't deal with it and the other guy said he was ok then it just make the other guy look better to you than him. he wasn't ok with it when you first asked it was just a matter of pride.
2007-10-12 01:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy, he didnt want to appear weak in front of the competeition. and shame on you for playing with their emotions. its obvious hes the one who likes you more. pick one.
2007-10-12 01:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋