How long do you think people should be dating before you move in together. My girlfriend and I are talking about moving in together. We have not been dating a long time, but we are one of those couples that are always together. We spend almost all the time together. What do you think?
2007-10-12 01:39:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really feel in your heart and mind that moving in together is the right thing to do, then do it.
First thing first! Make sure both of you inventory all of your own assets, even take photos of some of your expensive items before the move in. Make copies and keep one at a family members house. Any time one of you buy something new for the home, keep the receipt and add it to the list: Any time you loan each other money or pay for something for the other: put it in writing and both sign it. (Not including gifts for each other)
I know this sounds terrible right now, but remember all relationships can end, and this will make it easier/painless when that happens. For example: the courts considers Marriage a business, and therefore is liquidated as such.
Give the heart what it wants and needs, and keep a clear head too.
I didn't mean to take the romance out of the relationship, but I do want to keep the horrors of the legal battles out if it ends badly.
PS
A few close friends went into a relation with their hearts open and they eyes shut, and wish they have done the above before hand.
2007-10-12 02:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how comfortable you are with the idea and how well you know each other.
The fact is, no one can say. It has worked for some. I know a couple who had only been seeing each other for a few weeks and were friends before, now a few years down the line they are still together and it's going very strong.
Common sense would dictate to wait.
But, sometimes, even after waiting, you may still have met the wrong one.
So, it depends on how much you both want it and can make it work. If you both are too needy and don't give each other space despite being very much in love, it won't work.
So, Good luck.
2007-10-12 02:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way. Sounds like you guys are still in that stage of being stuck up each others butts 24/7 lol. Anyways Just because you are together all the time does not mean you can get along while actually living together. I have been married to my hubby less than 6 months now that we are married and living together you really see a persons true colors come out when you live with them. When you live together it's hard tensions get high and it's stressful and nobody gets along 100% of the time being that you two havent been together long it would maker it harder. Anyways best wishes
2007-10-12 01:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by :] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest waiting until you've been together for at least three months.
Remember, it's not the fact that you love eachother so much and that you get along so well...
You have to find out what the person's annoying habits are and that can take some time. People always mask their nasty/annoying habits early in a relationship.
But my boyfriend and I moved in together after dating for 5 months - we're still doing very well and we're happier than ever!
Good luck!
2007-10-12 01:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can vary. I didn't move in with my boyfriend until after 4 years dating. I don't think there is a time limit. But just be prepared that once you move in, you both will see the secret side of each other. Even though you said you spend a lot of time together there is still that side of you that you hide until you are in close quarters with each other. Even after 4 years dating, there were still little things that I didn't know until we moved in. But now I love his flaws just as much as I love him.
2007-10-12 01:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not dating long but your always together??office mate maybe..as long as you understand each other,know your differences and attitudes towards things and will make things easier for the both of you,then move in...there those couple who are dating long and then moved in together and after a while they end up parting ways because there are those attitudes that each may reveal when they are already together..but it doesnt happen to all the partners that move in..just be sure that both of you have decided to move in ok..goodluck...
2007-10-12 01:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it time. i've seen a lot of couples (i've even been part of a few) that are nearly inseparable. and when you live together there's a really high probability that you'll get sick of each other really really quickly and i'm sure neither of you wants that to happen.
i say give it until at least 12 - 15 months in; at that point in the relationship you should be somewhat adjusted to each other's idiosyncracies and you won't want to kill each other.
2007-10-12 01:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Reni Valentine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under 3 months is the general rule.
2007-10-12 01:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day after you get married... :-)
I think 3-4 months is ago.
Better to learn if you really get along. It is definitly hard to
live with other people and get used to all the little quirks
we all have.
2007-10-12 01:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Fuzzybutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my soon to be ex boyfriend took 3 years before we decided its time to move in. now i found out he had an affair with this girl so im sending him out of the house tonight. i think its not wise. wait till you get married. get the commitment first before deciding. its hard to think about "sharing."
think about a thousand times first before making a decision
2007-10-12 01:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by kawai_ona20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋