why do people say spanking kids is like abuse?

Question

im a nurse and i see kids that are after been abused day in and day out there is a big big difference in spanking a child and abussing one i soank my chils when she is been bold and she knows she only gets spanked when sge is bold

Gypsy Gal go in to hospital and see some kids that are beat up

Answer 1

because there are some people out there that think they know whats best for everyone...all children are different and punishments do not always fit each child...like you said there is a big difference in beating your child and spanking..

Answer 2

I wish I knew the answer to your question. I've had to spank my 10 year old and 8 year old probably 6 times combined their entire lives.. I believe in spanking, but only when the punishment calls for it. When I was little and we were bad, my grandmother would make us go pick a switch off the tree out front to be spanked with. It gave us time to think about what we had done, and you can bet we never did it again.

People don't spank their kids much at all this day and age, and look how many kids take guns into school and kill other children. The world is becoming a paranoid place because some people that are reproducing don't know how to discipline their children.

Spanking is one thing, beating your child is another. If some people can't tell the difference between the two, then perhaps parenting isn't right for them. I still believe people should have to get tested to be able to be a parent, because obviously, having a child doesn't necessarily make people one.

Answer 3

A few weeks ago some idiot posted on here that he wanted to start spanking his 6 month old to get the baby "used" to this punishment. The reason "people" say it is abuse is because there are people like that idiot EVERYWHERE!! People that get hyped up on the power spanking gives them and take it to extremes. I have never had to spank my 4-1/2 year old daughter. Not that I wouldn't, but I just took pro-active measures so that her behavior doesn't warrant spanking. I think a good portion of people would agree the responsible thing is to teach your kids not to hit others - you can't very well go hitting them if you're teaching them that. My opinion is it is a non-issue for some people, some people use it properly, and some people use it improperly and yes, that's abuse. So is calling your kids names, telling them they're stupid, etc. Just because it doesn't break a bone doesn't mean it's not harmful and abusive.

Answer 4

If spankings are abuse, then hell, I was abused and so were a lot of other children in my era. Personally, a lot of children now a days need that type of abuse, now that I think about it, it wasn't abuse, it was love because if I hadn't gotten my behind beat, I think I would have been dead and gone a long time ago. Something to think about. True some people take discipline to the extreme, and these people should not have children, but discipline is required when raising a child. God Bless.

Answer 5

Those who say that it's abuse were most likely abused as a child and can't get it out of their head that spanking isn't the same thing.

I'm sorry for those who are abused, and those who have been abused. Abuse is definitely a horrible thing. If one thinks that they were abused, I hope that they can talk to someone and get some help.

As for spanking, nope, it's not abuse. I was spanked as a child, it certainly never was considered abuse back then. It's not abuse now, either. My siblings were abused. We were raised in a loving home, have loving parents, and grew up to be well-adjusted adults. :) Children who were actually ABUSED may not be that lucky, will have many psychological and physical after-effects.

My children are spanked, only when they've done something wrong.

Answer 6

I am a non-spanker. I do not consider spanking as a form of discipline abuse, if the parents use it calmly and not out of frustration and anger.

I have one friend who does spank, and she and her husband use it as a last resort, and not just whack each time the kids are stepping out of line.

There are, however, parents who misuse spanking...like a woman on here who advised another to 'beat his bum until it's red' when trying to teach a 15 month old to listen. That's not appropriate at all - that's a baby...and I think most spankers who use it as a rational discipline tool would agree with that.

I saw a grandmother smacking her 2 yr old granddaughter over and over in a lineup at Walmart one day, while her daughter, the mother, stood meekly with her head down. The child was very clearly overtired (it was 2:30 pm, she probably just woke up from or very badly needed a nap), and the grandmother kept smacking her hands and her bum when she'd whimper a bit that she was tired, and also bark at her to "shut up and be quiet." Saying, 'everybody must think what a horrible little girl you are' over and over. It was pretty sick. She didn't beat her to a pulp there, but that was totally uncalled for, and was abuse of power over a child by an adult. Other people around started quietly commenting, and it wasn't about the 2 year old's behaviour.

There is a difference between smacking a bottom raw (especially on a baby), and giving one or two spanks to get the point across, age appropriately.

Spanking is still hitting - you're striking your child...even on the bottom, that's hitting...

If used appropriately I don't see a problem with it, but I don't feel the need to spank my children to make them listen to me, and we don't have any real discipline problems around here. Just normal stuff that comes up with kids, and when it does, it's dealt with.

Answer 7

THAT's A BIG MISUNDERSTANDING,, I agree ....I have 4 kids and only 1 had to be spanked ,,,the others learned they will get spanked if they are badly behaving.....I feel kids need diciplin.and that's the only way they learn....Some do better with punishments some need a swat on the butt....
I feel that a good swat gets their attention and they learn faster what is acceptable.....some never learn ...
There is a HUGE difference between a beating and a spanking though,,,,one has to use common sence and never hit out of control or rage..

Answer 8

A lot of non-spanking parents equate spanking with inconsistent punishment, sometimes punishment for no reason at all. I'm sure some parents who spank are like that. But I'm also quite sure that it's much worse abuse to randomly ground your child and take away their privileges than it is to consistently spank your child for dreadful behaviour.

I get very cross when I see the UK advert "If smacking works, why do you have to keep doing it?" I DON'T have to keep doing it. My kids know that if I say I will smack them for doing something, then it will happen. So they don't misbehave that way in the first place.

Answer 9

i do not know why some people say spanking is child abusive.

i think it is how a parent spanks their children.
if they beat them instead of a plain ordinary spanking

then it is child abusive.

a spanking is over the knee and spank the naughty child on the bare bum.

you said that you spank your daughter?

good for you.

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thanks.
william.

Answer 10

i look at it as once in a while my son needs his but whipped. i save this for last measures. i think people believe if you spank your child you do it all the time. there is a difference in spanking my son for spilling his drink and because he hasn't listened all day and his mouth is a little to be desired. its always easy to say what you would and wouldn't do until you actually have a child and are in that situation. like lets see a pro life get viciously rape and become pregnant, would it still be easy to hold onto your views?