Depending on your answer will depend very much on how long your relationship will last. What do you think?
2007-10-12 01:27:42 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet n Sour 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So if it just happens don't you choose if you want to continue loving that person or not? Isn't it essentially a choice you make. I mean initially it can't be love, not true genuine sacrificial love because you're only really attracted to the person. You can't really say that you are willing to share all your secrets with them, share your income, get married soon like you would when you love someone. I am not convinced it just happens, I believe it's a choice.
A choice to stay when it's easier to walk out, a choice to love when they are unloveable, a choice to care when no one else cares, a choice to give them power when you have no power left, a choice to give everything and only the very best. That's love and it doesn't just happen it's a choice I make.
2007-10-12 01:37:22 · update #1
it grows.Love @ 1st sight is a myth
2007-10-12 01:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by mad&sad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's both. You can't help how you feel about someone, so in that aspect it just happens. On the other side of that coin, if you aren't willing to do things to keep the relationship moving forward, you are making a choice. Every day I make sure that our home is neat and clean when my fiance' gets home because I feel that he should be able to come home to a relaxing atmosphere after working his long days. I choose to do that. I choose to do things to show him I care. But if he walked away tomorrow, I'd still love him, even if I didn't want to. He is my heart, because fate has it that way, and because I know there is no one I'd rather be with for the rest of my life.
2007-10-12 01:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people go out looking for love for whatever reason they may have: Depressed, lonely, looking to get married or just to say that they have someone, but I've learned in my 20 years of life that love isn't something you should just throw around. I had a guy break up with me because I wouldn't tell him I loved them, now granted this guy I dated for about 16 months and I think that I was almost there, but there was something missing....Then I met another guy, someone I went to school with and within 3 months of us dating I just knew I was in love. It was like he was the missing piece to that puzzle that completed me. It's been 2 years now and we've been together ever since. We don't live together or anything, we believe in saving that for marriage, but I feel like he's the one. I also think that people should stop putting a number on love. When I told my friends that I loved this guy, the first thing they said was, "OMG it's only been 3 months..." If it's true love, it will end up lasting a lifetime!
2007-10-12 02:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost nothing happens by just chance because there are always factors involved although we may not see them. You may, for example, see an old friend at a restaurant and consider it chance but it may be that he or she is there to meet someone in the course of business and you are there because you are hungry and it is the closest to go to as you are shopping. It is not by chance but by the intersecting of two separate courses of action.
In love, there would be the first attraction based upon factors in each person's life, their values - or lack of solid values in some cases - their needs, their desires for the future, and so on, and the choice is to whether to maintain the same course in life or vary it a bit to see if the other person's path is or can be the same as your own. the fate of the love then becomes in part the wisdom of the choice and the sense of values of both involved.
2007-10-12 01:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it just happens, you really can't choose who you will fall in love with. And, no, you can not choose to stop or continue to love someone. I mean, you may choose to leave him/her but you'll continue to love them. However, as someone already mentioned, love at first sight is a myth.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-12 01:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Diablo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is something that just happend,of attraction ect.to a person .Meaing the way they look and give there selfes..But after that is a choise you make ....meaning the way a person gives there selfes in the longrun is dif..of what they act like in some situations or others..Some times you are atracted to someone and after getting to know them ,you feel like you not. Or you can love someone for Years and with actions and ways they are make you not loving them anymore.So therefor to me is something that happend but yourself controls to make it happend or not....Siggi
2007-10-12 01:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by siggi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bit of both.you can choose to avoid potential love.if that's not an option then no...love just happens.you can try fight it but love will win every time,feelings are a powerful tool...
2007-10-12 01:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just happens
2007-10-12 01:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by jodi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little bit of choice. alot of it just happens
2007-10-12 01:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tim O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i had the choice i wld be in love but unfortunately i dont think it is so i guess then it jst happens....
2007-10-12 01:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Cupcake.....:) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its real love the feelngs are too powerful you cant change it it just happens
2007-10-12 01:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋