like if a mum or dad was shouting and swearing at another adult.do you think that there kids will be the same ?
2007-10-12 00:18:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
what about if someone talks to you like that and your kids can here it ?
2007-10-12 00:26:21 · update #1
Kids look at everything we do -- how we treat our spouses, how we treat the cashier at the grocery store, how we treat other drivers....everything we do becomes lessons for them, so we really have a responsibility to model the best behavior we can.
I used to think that my husband and I shouldn't argue in front of the kids. But now I realize that it's useful for them to see two people disagree, but treat each other with respect, listening to someone else's point of view, and ultimately come to some kind of agreement -- either a compromise, or some other kind of peaceful agreement. It will help them when they need to navigate the rough waters of confrontation in their own lives.
Kids also learn from watching us drive (scary, I know!). If we swear at other drivers, cut other people off, try to be the first off the line, what does this teach our kids? If we slow down and are patient, letting other people in when they need it, it teaches them patience and compassion for others.
A store manager once accused my two (then) 3 year olds of trashing the bathroom. It was trashed when we walked in, but he thought we did it. I was very angry (you know, the mother bear thing) and I let him know it. But I didn't lose it even though we never came to any kind of agreement. I wasn't thrilled that my kids had to see this, but it was another way that they could see how people treat each other and how we should respond appropriately.
You asked how we should respond if someone swears at us and treats us badly. It would sadden me if my kids had to hear that, but respond to them the way you would tell your kids to. Swearing back at the person won't help, but standing up for yourself will help. Every situation is different, but if you can let the person know you don't like what they say and why you think they're wrong, you'll teach your kids to have a cool head under pressure. You may even just have to have your say and walk away. Explain to your kids that not everyone has a cool head and that when some people get upset, they have a hard time controlling themselves. Explain why they should not enter the fray, but they should practice control. If you practiced control they will learn from that. Not pleasant to have to experience, but at least if they can learn from it, it's not a total loss...
Life is a constant lesson...
2007-10-12 02:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be the case. We used to live across the road from a family where the parents swore and yelled all the time. The kids were exactly the same and used the F word and C word as easily as anything. It was appalling (and quite sad) to hear the way they spoke. On the side of us was a family who spoke politely and rarely raised their voices. Their children were polite and never ever swore.
2007-10-12 07:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even the way you speak to your kids, they mimic that too. It is a phase, but the first 5 years of life are the most important.
2007-10-12 08:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely!
When you show kindness and respect you're practicing the Golden Rule and teaching your children how to behave in polite society.
Having said that, though I would not let anyone get away with treating me poorly. I give it right back. Standing up for yourself is important.
2007-10-12 08:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our children learn from us so of course! If we are disrespectful, chances are our children will be. We owe it to them to show them the best we can, how to lead a moral and respectable life. If you swear in front of your kids, it will become normal to them and they will copy. My youngest child started to copy her Grandad, pretending to smoke and I had to deal with that as best I could. Children do what they see.....its how they learn............
2007-10-12 07:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by monkhelz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, children are like a sponge and asorb their enviroment, but all should be explained to them in the proper contex, like i grew up watching schawzenneger movies when I was two, but I turned out okay when I was a kid, i talk vulgar(but not on purpose) around my kid brother, but I explain him to it.
2007-10-12 07:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, have observed this many times in life. You also have their genes in you to tend to make you like them also.
2007-10-12 07:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes children copy their parents. like the first answer said.
kids learn language from their parents
2007-10-12 08:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does, becaue the children pick up on it. it is up to the parents to instruct them on how they are ment to act
2007-10-12 07:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!!! you are your kids best teacher and if you do these things, your kid will think that it is the way it should be.
2007-10-12 07:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by lavendertg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋