We have been married for 5 years now and have reached the friends only phase with sex every once in a while (and it's not great) but am currently interested in this guy I work with b/c he gives me the time and attention that i feel I deserve and he has made it very clear to me what he wants from me, I am thinking about cheating but my husband is my best friend and that is all. someone please give me advice please.....
2007-10-11 21:36:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't do it. Would you like it if your husband cheated on you? I am not passing judgement on you but I am so tired of people not taking marriage seriously. Married people don't cheat at all,no matter what. You want to cheat,you need to get a divorce. I understand your relationship isn't all that great right now,but that happens in all relationships. You have to work together and be strong. Even if someone cheats on you every single day that still doesn't give you the right to do the same thing. All I can say is don't do it. Talk to your husband and let hime know how you feel. Remember those vows you took when you got married.
2007-10-12 00:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by lvbrdy4vr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then you are not in love with your husband and that is really sad. For him, not you. It's obvious that you focus alot on sex. Sex is only what you make it, so you're also not making it great. Don't forget he's having sex with you, he's not all by himself.
Now what do you honestly think? If you cheat, things will get better? Maybe you should use some common sense and instead of cheating and putting more wood on a fire, act more intelligent, more mature and less selfish and try to fix the marriage or end the marriage, but with your husband! Sex with some geek won't do it.
2007-10-12 06:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should not be the ultimate standard by which a marriage is measured,you might feel neglected but perhaps there is more to it than you know it,every marriage has moments like this,and the temptation of cheating is always going to pop from time to time,but trust me on this one,it is never the best choice to make, discuss things with your husband...and as for the guy who likes you....what makes you think that he is not giving all this attention just for sex? Would a responsable man go for a married woman?...You gotta think about these things.
2007-10-12 06:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by ericktravel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord lady- you are married to your best friend! When you both are too old to have sex, that is what will be THE most important thing in your relationship- being friends! Make it work! Get counseling. You say this other guy has made it clear what he wants from you- what is that exactly???
Don't cheat. That is LOW. If you are that unhappy, just LEAVE. I would think your best friend would deserve that much honesty and respect.
2007-10-12 06:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you read some of these answers about cheating with a co-worker. My god girl are you crazy,it never but never works out i should know my husband had an affair with a co-worker and guess who he is with. All I'm saying is you are going to break your husbands heart and when you or the other guy gets tired of each other (and it will happen) sooner than later you will run back to your husband and maybe by then it will be to late for you you will be left all alone with no boyfriend or husband who at one time was your best friend but best friends don't stub one another in the back now do they.
2007-10-12 05:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend? Have you lost it? What in the world happened that you got to that point? It's a rhetorical question, bc you sound like one of those "everything will be ok" people. Things are not ok on their own, they have to be made that way. You got married and obviously do not love him, even after only five years. It takes work, and maybe you didn't know that. It doesn't sound like he's aware of this. If he's really such a friend leave him and then hook up with this guy at work. Do what you will, but make sure you don't hurt your "friend" in the process.
2007-10-12 04:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my husband just what you told us. He needs to know, it is fair to tell him and also tell him that you want to try to get back what you guys once had together. I think it is possible...New is always more exciting because of the unknown factor and because you and this new guy don't have any baggage or history together....remember that if you stay with this new guy long enough things will also get old with him. He really isn't that great of a guy in my opinion to be hitting on and tormenting a married woman like he is. Is this the kind of guy that you want.....he isn't your best friend...he is hurting you.
2007-10-12 07:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cheat. If you are unhappy with your marriage you need to first talk to your husband about it. Tell him you are unhappy with the marriage and see if you can rekindle and save the marriage. He may be willing to make changes and but you both would need to put in the effort to make it work. You both would need to try to do things to keep the spark alive. If it is not going to work out, make sure you end the marriage first before moving on to someone new. Cheating is never right. And by cheating without first talking to your mate about the issues, you may be cheating yourself of a possibly wonderful relationship.
2007-10-12 07:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by munxkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be to get your head outta your *** and grow up!!! how would you feel if your husband cheated on you?? would you want that? no matter the reason? hes your husband. you need to work out whatever the problem is and not get drastic and start taking other guys co*ks, simply because you're horny. if you cant work the problem out then maybe get a divorce. then you can do whatever. and if this other guy knows you're married and just wants to screw you, then he has no respect for you to begin with. is that the kinda guy you wanna be with?? jesus!! and they say GUYS are pigs!!
2007-10-12 05:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by abominusprime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't cheat first of all that guy at work will leave you as soon as you get a divorce. think about what's at stake before getting a divorce. maybe all you need is a little time away to realize if your hubby is the one. it worked for me.
2007-10-12 06:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Reemee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋