when a married man finds out his wife has been cheating on him and they ave children . he dont neglect his children . in no way but his wife was having a sexual affair .and he dont treat her the same as before i understand why this man i know but his wife .. i would never had belived this my no means was cheating on him with a younger male who was young enought to be her son. they have.4. children. is he justifed in your eyes i would say he was but i would rather other.s with there own opipion .s speak thank. s to everyone ...
2007-10-11 19:20:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
her husband works and made a good living and was a very caring husband to her me and my wife both know this for a fact .
2007-10-11 19:23:59 · update #1
the top.3. answers i also agree with as well. once a man has tursted her and she does him like that no he wont ever have the same feelings for her where she cheated on him thats logic. as well human nature once this happens no he wont have the love he once had for her would you put you in his place there is your answer sad to say she made her bed now she need.s to lay in it my honest opion?
2007-10-11 19:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He does have feelings of course and just don't want the world to know, and for the first of it he will not be able to look at her without wondering why, but he should. My thing is why did she do it women just don't go around wrecking there marriages and destroying there children's home if there wasn't a need. So before you make him out to be the victim you have no idea what goes on behind the closed doors. Maybe he don't have it in the bed room, maybe he works to much comes home and demands dinner and watches to much TV, maybe he thinks that because he does all this for her he can control and abuse. YOU have no idea so my opinion is to ask why she was starving for some younger mans attention!
2007-10-12 02:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Unsure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can respond to it and treat her however he wants because that is what people do, but he needs to decide what results he wants. I am in no way blaming him for the affair or saying that he should kiss her butt, but he may want to be happy and they may both want to so they may want to sit down and lay some ground rules about how they treat each other. She tries not to cheat, he tries not to rub it in. They both try to heal. There was something wrong either in her before she ever met him or in the marriage, either way if it is not fixed it might happen again. What kind of background does she have, maybe (maybe not) she grew up in a place where it was normal. Tell him to her it is not normal, you love her and cant handle it happening again, to let you know if she can handle that and if not, leave or work on it, whatever.
2007-10-12 02:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy has every right to lose his feelings for his wife...he has been hurt and humiliated...he has been a good husband and a devoted father and yet the wife pays him back with betrayal...finding about the affair must have felt like a slap in the face...even a guy who isn't that great a husband has every right to fall out of love with his wife after she has been unfaithful...the more a man who has been nothing but good...
2007-10-12 02:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by geisha 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he has feelings. He's probably not showing them to everyone.
I don't blame him if he does not treat her the same as before. Many times, when a spouse cheats, the other spouse will get nicer to them for fear of losing them for good. Others simply never forgive and the marriage ends.
2007-10-12 02:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well she was the clean mother of his children. It is partly an ego thing with a man. But most of all a man thinks of his wife as pure and she is not any more. A man thinks of his wife as good. Yes he thinks he can do things wrong but she is his mother, his lover and his wife all wrapped up in one thing and now she took it all from him. When he looks at ther now she is not the woman that he thought she was.
2007-10-12 02:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by craft painter 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it will effect his feelings for her. I wouldn't expect him to feel the same way he did and of course he will treat her differently because his feelings have changed.
2007-10-12 02:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Prolly becuz hims dont' half the proper englishes to emulates his tots.
2pts.
2007-10-12 02:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by lovinglifeina69 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋