Sometimes, my guy lasts too long in bed. I know that alot of women complain that their men don't last long enough, but there is such a thing as "Lasting too long" if you know what I mean! After reaching towards the second hour, I'm beyond exhausted.
And most of the time, it doesn't matter how long he goes for. The orga-sm just isn't going to happen.
The funny thing is, I showed him a Cosmo Article where it talked about how we don't always need marathon s-e-x.
Afterwards, he shortened it dramatically, which I'm happy with. (Just as long as it's not 5 minutes and bang, all of the time...)
Why do men think that we want sex to go on forever? Sometimes, it's nice...but not every single time!
How many of you can relate? Any thoughts?
2007-10-11 18:21:35 · 21 answers · asked by darkening_hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am with you. A marathon makes me tired and sore!!! if you are properly stimulated before you hit the bed, it should not take hours and hours. Why don't they realize that foreplay starts way before we hit the sack. If they are giving us the attention and affection we need prior to having sex with them, it does not take a marathon to make us happy.
2007-10-11 18:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who wants the same ol same ol, sometimes a quicky, sometimes a marathon, a lot of in betweens. You are the woman, make him orgasm when you are done, sometimes, sometimes let him have fun, mix it up already but he should not make you go longer than you are comfortable with same with you or anyone to anyone.
I am not good with these intimate relationships (proofs in the pudding) but I do know that when either of us is unhappy in the bedroom for very long, nothing else is gonna be good anywhere. Sex is important to us obviously, every one has their own levels in life, there we are compatible we work on the rest. (Talk about it a lot and do some serious foreplay with him sometime so that he is turned on enough that you will decide when its time to find your climaxes). Is that too much for Answers, I hope not, I apologize if it is.....S
2007-10-12 01:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to that but thank god the man is getting older but now I feel he thinks he has something to provbe because he is getting older. But he will *** the first time after about 45 min and he is still hard or he is greedy and we go at it again. When I am tired of it I make him hit me from the back and I start moaning and groaning really loudly and he usually busts after that.
Depending on how young you all are make sure he is not taking drugs (x to be specific) because people think they are supposed to have sex for very long periods of time on that. Hell if he is older check to see if he is taking any sex enhancement drugs to keep him hard because they will be hard for like 4 to 6 hrs depending on what he is taking.
2007-10-12 01:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything too long is, well, too long... is it so long because it takes him so long to climax? If so, maybe there is a medical condition? Look into what could cause that and suggest an Md., if necessary.
Is it too long because after he ejaculates he wants to go again? Find out why? Perhaps concentrate more on foreplay and other ways to please each other that do not involve straight on intercourse the entire time - by making the whole experience more sensual and erotic, it may take less time, cause less sensitivity and friction (one more than one level!) and will turn your experience into a more enjoyable one...
Good luck!
2007-10-12 01:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't have that problem with boyfriend. The problem is with me, I can't get an orgasm. I would love to have sex about 3 times a week, but only get it 1 a week maybe that's the reason I can't get a orgasm. Waiting too long for it.
2007-10-12 02:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex for that long and you're getting tired, why don't you tell him?? Why be so passive in bed and just wait for him to finish? Hell, if you're finished why not just stop having sex? Get up and either finish him off or go take a shoewr or whatever it is that you do after sex.
Yes, I used to have this problem and other problems with sex until I learned to speak up. If I want something in bed, I say so. If I'm dying for a quicky, I tell him that's what I want. No big deal. Men speak their minds during sex, why can't women? After all we are equals.
2007-10-12 01:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish i could relate my husband was back up to go smoke or go to the fridge in no time it really sucked but everyone wants what they don't have it's like in summer you want winter then you realize summertimes not so bad. i guess be glad u still have it because theres the marathons the quickies then the couples that never do it anymore
2007-10-12 01:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that way. But it's true what they say about a woman reaching her sexual prime long after men. My hubby cannot keep up with me & begs for a night off! No way am I gonna settle for that. He had his years & now I'm gonna have mine. Just wait sweetie, the BEST is yet to come!
2007-10-12 01:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I say to him are you almost there he gets mad and says, Oh great now that is really going to make me have an orgasm now. I only say that after almost an hour into it. I have learned to go with it and let him believe that he has given me at least 3 orgasms that is the only way he will let himself go. Now i have him thinking he is super stud who can give his wife multiple orgasms. It makes him feel good and that's all that matters. Now if he is drunk forget about it,no nookie with this cookie.
2007-10-12 01:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i have the opposite problem i want my hubby to go on for ever and he allways finishes in like 40 mins and i always want more and we talk about it and he told me he had talk to his guy friends about it and i feel like men have the intuition that we want to have sex all the time and for a long time
2007-10-12 01:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋