2007-10-11 18:12:33 · 36 answers · asked by shaq d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
According to some of the responses, some think the 3 some involves another man, no it is another women.
2007-10-12 11:48:58 · update #1
it all depends on how you feel about it if ur down do it and if you don't feel comfortable with it let him know what you think and what could happen if he did it its ur decision so good luck to you
2007-10-11 18:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that by the time you are married all of that is out of your system. Since it is not you should ask him why does he want to do it. I would also ask him what does he think is missing in the marriage that he wants another person engaged in sexual activity with you. If you are serious about going along with it you pick the person. I would be afraid that if he chose the person that he has already been involved with her.
Years ago my friend asked me to do it with her and her man and I couldn't understand why she would even agree to do that but she claimed she wanted to do what would make him happy and she knew that I would not be going after her man behind her back. That was true. We did it and it was cool. But guess what? It wasn't enough to keep them happy. Now I believe she is seeing a woman.
So just be sure you want to do it if you do and if you don't do not let him make you feel bad about saying no. It is something else going on and you need to get to the bottom of it. Good luck.
2007-10-11 18:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the beginning of ur fallen marriage if u did it , cos it will crack ur home slowly.
being married is so much more than that, its a bond between 2 , never 3 , its just the love between couples that make them make love or have sex, not the other way around.
if he want to have 3 some, ask him to get a dildo , or a female toy , so it would be only u 2 and a toy, if he want still the 3 some tell him just make it ur fantasy and forget about it lol
good luck
2007-10-11 19:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by michael 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just do whatever you think that is right for you. You know him better than anyone and know how he can deal with this kind of thing. I have done it before and I didn't have any feelings change on the party that was there we are closer now. But it is always what you want to do.
2007-10-11 20:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Unsure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 man for 1 woman.. the law of 2.. if anotha 1 comes in.. doesnt sound rite.. but if u feel the necessity 2 keep up 2 da law of 2 n risk it all for anotha new entry.. go ahead.. but things will neva b da same.. once its done its done.. no turning back.. do it if u wana change da way ur life is goin currently..
2007-10-11 19:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by MaStA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it like 4 times with my husband..... it worked out ok but I did have funny feelings for the next week or so after... if you dont want to, then dont. My husband acutally did it with 2 of them, I dont remember, but it bothered me a bit.
2007-10-11 19:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is a pervert that should respect you better keep your integrity you will only regret it later Besides i hate to say this but he will probably cheat on you later because his sex appetite is out of control and you'll always think about how you lowered yourself for someone that never loved you enough in the first place. He is sick and selfish to ask that in the first place.
2007-10-11 18:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depend on the couple, but usually the marriage suffer
because of it, it take two strong people who want other in
the marriage. trust me emotions get involved then there
trouble. so i would serious talk to him about why he want
to do this.but if this is something that you both want then
look at the pro and cons. good luck to you.
2007-10-11 19:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll most likely have negative repercussions, but maybe if you REALLY wanted to as well, then you might give it a try. Just be prepared for some potential hurt feelings/heartbreak.
2007-10-11 18:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Marj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no and NO!
This is just wrong on so many levels. I suppose many will think it is ok, but it is not. Being with anyone besides your spouse is adultery, whether it is agreed on by both of you or not. Don't even start down this path.
2007-10-11 23:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are too insecure to see their wives doing it with 2 other guys in your own bed. If you're OK with it, go ahead. How generous, he's a keeper.
2007-10-12 08:11:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋