Will I change after highschool?

Question

I'm a senior, quiet, a little shy, not many friends, little bit of an outcast, do activities alone, although I am ranked 10th out of 500 people in my class in grades & have a cut body. I'm probably going to go to a crappy college because we have little money. No girlfriend either. People consider me the "smart nice quiet guy" Will I change my ways after high school and become more extrovert? It has been tearing me inside since 10th grade when I realized I was such a loser.

I hate being called quiet, will I change?

Don't really communicate with my guardians.

Answer 1

well, thats up to you.
we all have certain personality types and tendencies, but if you find something you don't like about yourself its your responsibilty to change it.
challenge your self to be different and do things you wouldn't normally do.
most people go through "emotional puberty" from ages 20-25
a side note, just b/c you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you have to go to a crappy college....scholarships and grants

Answer 2

first of all you aren't a loser. Being shy or quiet doesn't make you a loser. To answer your question you don't have to wait for college to change, but going to a college where no one or few people know you is the perfect opportunity for you to change. The thing is, you will have to decide for yourself that you are going to go out on a limb and start talking to people and meeting people. When I went away to college I made that decision that no matter what people in high school thought of me, I was going to be who I had wanted to be all along and I was. I was amazed at how easy it was to make friends, but it might be more difficult for you to make friends if you go to a bigger college where the classes are large or a community college where you won't be living with classmates in a dorm. Good luck with it anyways. Just don't be afraid to speak up during a conversation and keep your head up when you walk and a smile on your face - that alone exudes confidence

Answer 3

I'm really sorry that you think you are a loser! High school isn't a great social environment for some people so maybe you will do better in the college environment. But honestly if you are having such a hard time maybe you could also see a psychologist.

Answer 4

Assuredly, you will change. Certain things may not change -- and I would hope you keep "smart and nice" as part of your human resume (so to speak.) Running with the herd is way over-rated.

You may not become a total extrovert but if you trust your instincts and stick with what you know is right, your confidence can grow and mature. And keep in mind -- a lot of those extroverts you're in school with believe they're losers too -- they just mask it differently.

Answer 5

I'm not sure from your question if you're going away to college or not. If you are, it will be a great social opportunity. You'll be surrounded during all your waking hours by lots of other people your own age. People who go to college are, on average, brighter than people who don't. You'll meet other bright "outcasts" that you can become friends with.

Answer 6

Yes, but for the better. You will make friends just give it some time. If you are going to college, I suggest pledging at a Fraternity. You will make a lot of friends there and you will be in some what of a brotherhood. look around to see which fraternity is best for you. Not all are dumb jocks and drunks.

Answer 7

That's up to you. The more social settings you put yourself into, the more likely you will loosen up. If you keep yourself hidden, well then of course you'll never change.

Answer 8

if u choose to change,u would change. good luck.i know how u feel. forget what ppl think and start talking more and become oatgoing and less quiet and shy.dont worry.