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Unfortunately, you can't force someone to get help unless they want to help themselves. Tell him what the consequences mean if he isn't willing to work in your marriage, but he has to come to his own conclusion.

Best of luck to you both

2007-10-11 17:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 1 0

First of all schedule an appointment with a doctor to make sure there isn't an underlying medical reason for his fatigue. Even if he has a physical job, he shouldn't want to sleep all the time. After he is cleared by the doctor for anything medical, then you can look at the other reasons why he is not interested such as depression, impotence, his mother living there, his attraction to you (not trying to be mean here, but it could be a factor), etc. Communication is the key here but this is a touchy subject for men so be careful! I've listed some good articles to read and possibly share with him. I know I printed out a few and 'accidently' left them in the bathroom so that my husband could read them.

2016-04-08 04:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tough question to answer without more information. Counseling for what? Does he overeat? Is he an alchoholic? Does he beat you? Is he a workaholic?

The best answer I can give you without more information is this: If you feel that he loves you and values his relationship with you, you can tell him that your staying together depends on his getting professional help with whatever problem you feel he has. Of course before you present him with such an ultimatum you need to be sure you are willing to follow through if he still refuses.

If you don't feel he has that appreciation for you in the first place there is probably nothing you can do to convince him.

2007-10-12 07:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by nevit 4 · 0 0

Keep talking and let him know how important it would be for the two of you to make positive changes, and getting help or advice from a professional can be very helpful. I know where you are coming from, I use to ask the man to go to counseling if not with me- then by himself. It has not happened, and our relationship is deteriorating. I felt bad about it at first- our relationship slipping away. But now I see it as a way of moving on- because nothing is going to change with him. Now I just care about him- I can't say I love him- because I don't know if I do anymore. Hope you have better luck in getting him to with you. There is alot at stake- they just don't realize it.

2007-10-11 18:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by josie 1 · 1 0

You can ask, beg, or threaten dire consequences. If he isn't ready to get help, don't waste your breath! In the long run, you need to go to therapy for yourself. Every relationship is like a hanging mobile blowing in the wind - when one part changes, all the other pieces will shift.

Family is like that - I wasted 2 years and $25K to drag my husband to therapy, trying to get him to recognize that his drinking was a problem. In the end, the therapist told me that all we could do was to bolster up my self-esteem and try to protect my kids, and either he would join therapy / get help of his own volition or it would end.

We ended up divorced, and I kinda regret wasting all that money... the therapist used it to add a second story to his home when I could have used it to buy a nice condo for me and the kids.

2007-10-11 18:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by ren_faire_rose 5 · 0 0

How can you convince a man to do anything?! Maybe if you could figure out a way to make him think it is his idea??
Good Luck!

2007-10-11 18:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1 0

if he wont go you go without him.. you do it for yourself.. and what will happen is maybe you will open your eyes to all options you have. if things are really bad and he dont want to go then maybe he dont want to try to save the marriage. and you cant make him.. but you can tell him if he dont you are done with him... really most will depend on how bad things are in your marriage to weither you need to be that hard or not.. good luck

2007-10-11 18:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 1 0

Why does he need to go to counseling?

2007-10-11 18:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Need more details..... If this is for your marrage, as in a marrage counsler, start going by yourself. The counsler will help advise you on how to get him to come in with you.

2007-10-11 18:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by pony 2 · 0 0

This is a generic question in which one would give generic answers.

2007-10-11 19:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by nitemareslayer 3 · 0 0

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