My fiancee told me not to bother she won't come but I want her to feel like she's wanted. She lives in Boston and we live in PA. Him and his mom are not exactly what I would call close they talk and say I love you but I've been with him for four years and only met her once when she came down when she found out he had diabetes. Do you think I should call her up and tell her about it? Or get her address and send her an invite? Or do you think I'd just be wasting my time?
2007-10-11 17:43:36 · 9 answers · asked by Wendie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The reason why he thinks she won't care or come is because he already has a son that lives around her and she doesn't even go to see him. The reason only because she doesn't like the sons mother and the sons grandparents rude I know. She knows I'm pregnant and that its a boy.
2007-10-11 17:56:41 · update #1
Call her up and give her the chance. Let her be the one to decide.
If you don't give her the chance, she may feel bad that she didn't get to attend her grandchild's baby shower.
2007-10-11 17:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by just_plain_name 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both call her together to tell her the news. If you send her an invite first, it seems really impersonal and is almost a rude way to tell. And yes, you invite her whether you think she'll come or not, otherwise it could be interpreted later that you didn't want her there. Besides, some women will drive a long way to have anything to do with a new baby.
2007-10-11 17:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely invite her. If you don't, if she is manipulative, then the rest of your life you will hear it from her how you didn't invite her. She may even take it out on your child and not be apart of his/her life to get back at you guys. Avoid that. Plus, it doesn't take much time and effort to make a phone call and send an invite. Be the bigger person. Don't live to regret it. If she doesn't come, it's all on her. She can never blame you guys. And, who knows. Maybe it will be a positive thing. Maybe she WILL come, and you guys will develop a stronger relationship, and she will be involved with your child. I say take the minute and do it. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-11 17:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Spendelicious27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd invite her, a considerate gesture isn't a waste of time. The worst that could take place is that she would be able to no longer come. on the different hand, in case you do no longer invite her she would experience slighted. Grandchildren can replace human beings, you by no potential understand.
2016-12-29 05:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her, if she doesnt come, dont let it bother you...but know you put the invite out there...maybe send her a private note with the invite letting her know you want her to be a part of your life and her grandchilds life.
2007-10-11 18:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send an invitation. This is her future grandchild.
2007-10-11 17:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send the invitation.
2007-10-11 18:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by KitKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her or write her or call her, just make her feel like you do like her, so she wont' feel bad about it, at least you did your part
2007-10-11 17:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lavender 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She deserves to be invited.
2007-10-11 17:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋