i love my mom. she's the person i care about most. and yet i always get frustrated at her. i pissed off at her easily. i can't stand her. i don't like her, but i love her a lot. does that make sense?
2007-10-11 17:16:21 · 25 answers · asked by hi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I feel the same way about my mom its normal.
2007-10-11 17:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kitade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a TEENAGER---it's not supposed to make sense.... MOST teenagers hate their parents--or THINK they do anyway..... it's been going on since Adam and Eve had kids...even your MOTHER went through it----Teenage years are those wonderful years when you want INDEPENDENCE but your parents want a curfew.... you want a boyfriend and your parents won't let you out without your OLDER BROTHER, you want to wear makeup and look cool but your mom makes you wear pigtails and white socks.... Parents have a hard time letting go and letting their kids GROW UP and kids want it NOW and don't want to wait till they are 18.... so the confrontation continues... once you get past these Teen years, your mom will become one of your best friends.. IF you are close now... some girls aren't so lucky---I wasn't... but if you hate her now and love her 10 minutes from now, that means she is giving you boundries and that means she is being a GOOD MOTHER and your relationship will change FOR THE BETTER in a few years!!!!!
2007-10-11 17:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite possibly because you see yourself as very much like her. Ambivalent feelings are normal towards those who hold a lot of power and influence in our lives. As the years go by the things which frustrate you most now will probably be the same things that form the basis of a mature friendship and respect.
2007-10-11 17:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by Fr. Al 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does make sense! Over the years, my mom and I have gone through phases of love and hate. Just realize that she has feelings. Don't take out your anger and frustrations on her, even though it may be convenient. Let her know that you love her, and when you fight, apologize even when you think you're right. Your mom will always be there for you, and she loves you even when it seems otherwise.
2007-10-11 17:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes perfect sense. You see a lot of yourself in your mom so you are easily frustrated by her.
2007-10-11 17:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by EricSplaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what it is that makes you mad at her and why. if and when you mature, you will find out that you will become more like her than you think.
I think you resent her because you know she is right but you are trying to gain your own identity and get your freedom.
when the priorities come in to play, you will love her for who she is instead of just loving her as your mom. she brought you into this world, show respect...she can take you out of it too!
Treat your mother as you would want your own children to treat you. nobody is perfect so drop the expectations game and give back what you expect of her. show her what you want her to know about you by demonstrating it to her.
you will be rewarded for it! I promise!
2007-10-11 17:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by donna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. Its because you are more comftorable with your mom, and you are venting on her what you'd like to vent on other people. But you know ur mom will forgive you, so u take it out on her (thats what i use to do anyway). But if you didnt love her so much, you wouldnt argue with her. I always say, can't have a real relationship w/o a little arguing
2007-10-11 17:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by lilmomma86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a teenage because if you are there is your answer. I love my mom she is so wonderful. But there are times she tells me things I just don't want to hear. But the truth is I need to hear them. Know your mother is looking out for you and the things she says are because she cares about you just as much as you care about her.
2007-10-11 17:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by courtybell62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly common for teenage or twenty's type girls to have friction with mother.. It is part of growing up and defining your own future ideas of how family life should go.
It won't last too long. Let your love hold you together even when she is driving you nuts!
2007-10-11 17:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teens feel that way. It is nature's way of preparing you to leave the nest and be on your own. Mom wlll not always be around so keep that in mind when you get angry.
2007-10-11 17:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it makes sense. You can love someone and yet still be exasperated with them at the same time!
It is how it works. Especially if you live with the person.
2007-10-11 17:19:06 · answer #11 · answered by Recheli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋