For those who answered my husbands question....?

Question

I've asked some pretty personal questions. Many reguarding female things and my husband has the need to go throught every one of my question. I feel violated! I don't want to know about his jock itch and I hope that If I have something going on that he'd repsect my privacy. So I just want to delete my account all together. I've tried to set my questions to private, but for some reason He's been able to read them

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here's his question

I son't want him following me into the bathroom either... so what's the diff...If I don't want him knowing If I'm asking about female problems

I don't want him following me into the bathroom either... so what's the diff...If I don't want him knowing If I'm asking about female problems

So do you tell you husband everytime you have a yeast infection...or your wife everytime you have a pimple in your butt... OF COURSE NOT

IT"S PRIVATE!!!!!!!!!!1

So do you tell you husband everytime you have a yeast infection...or your wife everytime you have a pimple in your butt... OF COURSE NOT

IT"S PRIVATE!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

For the life of me I'll never understand this control freak thing some men have. I prefer my wife to have her privacy and if she wants to talk to me about something that's her choice and not force things out into the open.

Sometimes its better anyways to keep a little mystery in the relationship - as well as respect for your partner's privacy.

Answer 2

I thought expectation of privacy went out the door when you get married. Not really but there are people who believe that; I am not saying who. I would not take mine down or hide my questions or opinions; I know this because I am married and my partner does not always share the same opinion as me although as I don't always share the same opinion as him. We have great little bouts of trying to convince each other but not as often as it had been.

I do what I do and he does what he does and hopefully those two things don't hurt each other. I do this because I have a need to interact with people on an intellectual level (as intellectual as we can be anyhow) and I am choosing to stay at home with the baby, we made this choice together before the pregnancy though. I have less social interaction for numerous reasons, one being my 74 yo dad with lung cancer, and because of this I use all of you.

We have a great sex life and we are taking it from there. As long as we don't start using sex as a weapon we can work through the rest of it. We have to respect each other in the bed but hey that's just us.

Edit: I read some of the other answers and I want to say that I think the middle ground for all of us is: why have secrets and why do anything about the non secrets. My husband reads my stuff and even tells me his opinion and then goes and does whatever he is doing and I still have mine. I think for some of us, it is called learning to get along. I have a shirt, worn out as it is and the fact that it was given to me from someone that knows me does not help either, it reads: Doesnt play well with others. Pretty sure I am the poster child, here at 39, ask my kids. They love me and think I am great but they warn people that my bite is even worse than my bark and my bark is bad. I am working on it but people suck. Working on the attitude thing too, I know. It comes and goes.

Treat as you want to be treated, I treat my honey he treats me.

Answer 3

well your hubby is wrong in my opinion. every person has a right to some privacy. he shouldn't be going through your stuff unless he is suspecting you are doing something wrong like stepping out of the marriage then he has a right to know.. but just to be a nip **** i don't think he does need to know. you can bet the guys at work or his work talk about there old Lady's too. they all do. i know i worked with men in a factory and places and are as big gossipers as anyone. you both have a right to some privatcy if neither are doing wrong.. i dont go into my hubbys stuff and he dont go into mine. good luck and hope that pimple on his *** gets better lol.

Answer 4

Hm. sounds like a prevalent question very properly...i might positioned up he HAS left you emotionally and you may take your cue from him and legally separate. it is fairly sparkling he would not have thoughts for you, extremely? VERY. Your "gut" is suited, i'm only thinking WHY it is taken you THIS long to go in this. you have had each and all of the information for some time, yet you have been very gradual in shifting forward along with your existence. Please, get a grip and get a legal separation...what share cases and in what share the thank you to you'll be confident? Grace

Answer 5

Its best to be completely open with your husband. This is your lifelong companion, intimacy should not be an issue. Your female problems and functions are not a mystery. You shouldn't be so secretive. Don't do things you're ashamed of, be completely transparent, your husband may need to know if you're not physically well, since it affects him too. Chronic yeast infections can cause serious medical problems. If he knew; he'd probably step up a little, to make room for your to see a doctor or treat the problem before it becomes more serious. There's no reason to get married just to suffer in silence, at your families expense. Why would you open up to complete strangers with intimate details of your life, looking for advice from whomever, when you have a willing and able husband at your disposal who takes a loving interest in trying to help you?
Your husband was probably just curious about how you spend your time, since you apparently do not talk to him. Your excessive secrecy can generate distrust. If your husband had an active online life apart from you; I bet you'd like to know a little about it. I'm not sure why you got married, since your just seeking a secret life apart from your husband. You obviously have some trust anxieties and should get professional help.
All this secrecy and distrust will put your marriage in counseling eventually ... many of your secrets will come out. You should head that off by opening your account again and letting him read over your shoulder. Open the channels of communication and have the intimate relationship marriage is supposed to be. It will help him understand you more and better his ability to meet your needs.
In short ... grow up! Life's too short.

Answer 6

I was about to say that you could just start another account under a different name and sign in using that but when I think about it a little more another answer comes to me. You husband is very controlling and so I suspect he is that way off the computer as well. It is time to get counseling and unless you can get him to trust you and give you your space, get a divorce.

Answer 7

It's very understandable. All you need to do is make another yahoo account, make sure when you log on not to check remember me. He's your husband, but it doesn't give him the rights to snoop through your things. Hope you solve the problem. It's signs of insecurity and whats a relationship without trust.

Answer 8

You guys have issues, Seriously as a husband and a wife you shouldn't want to have secrets from each other. Privacy and alone time is one thing, however getting mad because he looked at your "personal questions" You will always have marriage problems as long as you try to hide stuff from each other.

Answer 9

Why so secretive he's your husband, you don't have to tell him in details what's wrong with you but just the vogue details. If he was acting weird and secretive like you are you'd be doing the same thing.

Answer 10

It is wrong of him to do that and let him read this from me,' A big shame on you.'
He is controlling your life and he should know that your identity is concealed and nobody knows you in person.
We will miss you though deleting your account is just succumbing to his control.