When having a baby??? Your all alone, no one to watch your child...?

Question

What happens when your in the hospital in labor, and it is just you, your husband, and your son (2 years old) and no one else.

I know the children arent aloud in there when your giving birth, so what happens, do i have to do it by myself? Without my husband so he can watch our son?

If anyone can shed some light on this situation for me i would really appreciate it.

Thank you

I have absolutly no one to watch him, i dont know anyone and have no family.

What do i do now?

I dont have any family, i dont know anyone, my husbands parents died when he was young, and mine are gone. We dont have anyone.

I am a stay at home mom, i dont have a babysitter, and devote all of my time to my son now, and my house, and farm. There is absolutely no one, when i say that i mean it. This is my problem.

Answer 1

You arrange in advance for a friend or family member to be available "on call" when you get close to that time. (In fact, you might want to have a primary person and a backup, just in case.)

If you don't have family nearby, you might still be pleasantly surprised to find someone willing and able to help you.

But I would definitely, definitely recommend having someone other than your husband to watch your child at the hospital. Even though you don't want to think about anything bad that might happen we always have to be prepared for the worst case scenario...what if something happened? Your husband needs to be able to focus on you and the delivery of the new baby.

Answer 2

At both hospitals where my children were born, they allowed for famliy to be in the room at the delivery. As long as your husband has control of him and he is being good they should allow it. It is your choice who you want with you in the room. Some women have their whole families in there. The only problem would be if you need a Csection, but your husband could wait in waiting area with him for this. I had same situation when my second was born. I had a 2 year old girl and she was allowed to be there for the birth. If anything else, bring a pack-n-play crib and set it up in the room with some toys in it. Bring a portable DVD player and put a movie in for him in the pack-n-play. Just some ideas. No one on Yahoo answers understands unless they have been through it too. I have. I coudnt get just anyone to babysit, my 2 year old would not go with a stranger. Some of us dont have anyone to help out. Check with the hospital and see if they will allow it. I wouldnt see why not.

Answer 3

No hospitals that I know of provide such services but you could ask your OB. Sounds like you have a couple options start interviewing sitters now or find a doula to give you support during the birth so your husband can take care of your 2 yr old.

Answer 4

Actually, most hospitals [if you ask them] will let you have children in the room right up until it's time to push, and then let your child go out to the nurses station while you do that. Since your son is so little, I would definately talk to your doctor [and L&D nurses] to see what the policy is on someone that young-but it's worth asking if they give you the okay.

Also-who watches your son when you do need a baby sitter? That person might not be able to come at super short notice, but if you call them when you go into labor, maybe they can drop by before it's time to push and watch your son? Or maybe someone at your church can help? Or talk to your long distance relatives to see if anyone is willing to drop by a few days before the baby is due to help out [usually retired grandparents are up for that].

Good luck!

Answer 5

I would talk with your doc. And some hospitals will let you have siblings in the room. I would really stress its your wish for your child to be with you both. Its your body, your delivery etc.. depending on how old your lil one is, i would also consider if it would be trauma to him. My boys all passout at the site of blood etc...
I had the same delima. My husband was in the military, no family around. So I asked another soldier and his wife if they could watch my child while i was at the hospital. I only trusted a small few. they agreed and it worked out great. of course my hubby had to leave right after the birth. which was really sucky. but it wall worked out ok.
oh, and sometimes the hospitals have day care. Good luck I hope you find your answer and it works for you and your family.

Answer 6

Most Head Starts have doulas on staff.... I know that having your husband there with you would be the best, but if you don't feel your 2 year old should be there, a birthing doula is a possible option so your husband can stay home with your son. I know how tough it is to have no one, I've been in the same boat. Good luck, and congrats on baby#2! :)

Answer 7

Find a friend to watch your son while you are in labor or see if a relative can fly out to be with your son. That way, you and your husband can be together for the birth. Once you are settled in after the baby is born, have your son come and visit.

Answer 8

Why can't your son be in there? At all the hospitals I know of you can have whoever you want in the room. How awesome for him to be a part of the birth of his baby brother or sister. Tell the hospital you want your son there with you!!!!

Answer 9

As far as I know there is absolutely no prohibition in most hospital policies against children attending a birth. You should contact the hospital and see what their policy is. You should also ask yourself what would happen if it is too upsetting to your son.

Maybe there is daycare in the hospital, mostly for staff that you can access?

Answer 10

maybe you should consult a doula. What about the hospital nursery? Do you have a local child care center or church that might accomodate your situation?
On another note....you should really consider expanding your support network. Being that isolated is not healthy for you or your family.