... if I would pay for groceries the next 2 weeks, on top of giving him $800, and then pay $200 of the $1400 mortgage...
and I'm ticked off because I just gave him $200... paid out $800 plus $300 in other bills, and now he wants this from me? The man has 150k in his own bank account, and gets $1900/mo in s.s. diability.. and THEN his father is oging to give him his check too.
Do I have a reason to be upset? I mean, when I left him this summer he accused me of leaving him without an income.. then when I came back, he asks me for all of this, and never once paid me back for things he said he would.. I'm irritated. (this is of course the short version of the story)
2007-10-11 16:03:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would be because the 150k is from the death of his son.. from before we married.. so don't assume. It was a settlement.
2007-10-11 16:12:06 · update #1
No I give him total of about $500 or so a month... I have about $1000 of my own bills... but because I had my own apartment this summer.. the $800 was for the rent, even though I moved back in this house.. I couldn't sever the contract until just this month. So I had extra bills, and then tonight he asked me for more money knowing I was strapped, and I already gave him $200 until next friday.
So, he pays about $1600 for bills.. and I have been giving inthe past about $500 to make it easier... it's just the past 2 months I've been back that I had the extra bills.
2007-10-11 16:15:01 · update #2
I did file... sigh... long story
2007-10-11 16:23:06 · update #3
Counseling. With him if he'll go, without him if he won't. There is a lot going on here and someone objective can help you. Good luck.
2007-10-11 16:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by stoneinthestream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where does his $1900 a month from SS go? I like math I see $1400 in mortgage you gave him $200 then $800 and $300 in other bills. That's a total of $2700 a month you pay. What does he pay? I'm not sure l fully trust your numbers and that he contributes nothing?
2007-10-11 16:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I want to know is if this is a marriage than why are you guys separating your funds like you are just dating? What kind of relationship do you have if you don't look at the money as ours and look at it as his or mine? I think that this relationship sounds like either he is just using you for money or you are using him for something. Why did you leave him and than what made you come back? This is a question that you need to ponder because if your reason for coming back better than your reason for leaving is than you should look past the money and find out what is really going on.
2007-10-11 16:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by fireylilelf6988 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats strange that you have "your money" and he has "His money"
most married people have one checking account that all the money goes in to pay the family bills. I think there are much bigger issues here than money. You guys need to have a serious talk and maybe some counseling!
2007-10-11 18:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be upset with ourself that you allowed this man to take advantage of you like this. Leave him again but this time file for divorce. you may love him but if he loved you he wouldnt be like this. You will find someone else who will be a partner and not a user but you have to take out your garbage first.
2007-10-11 16:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys, back me up on this, RUN, OK NOW RUN, NO RUN FASTER!!!
He has enough money and has he given you a breakdown of expenses etc. that he spends his money on? H### NO!
Get a good lawyer and get away from this guy,
2007-10-11 16:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by gregva2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have a reason to be upset... my advice to you is simple - talk to him, tell him exactly how u feel. find out why he's asking u to pay for everything when he can very well manage himself... hope things get better soon. take care of yourself.
2007-10-11 16:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with DavidJ on this one. The numbers aren't adding up for me here.
2007-10-12 00:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not a man at all!!
how can he ask you to pay? its a man's 'job' to look after a family, you either move on, leaves him or go along with him if you really do love him that much to do everything for him.
2007-10-11 16:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by bec 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
with what you just said what does that tell you? he wants you there but he wants your money. don't give it to him. he is being selfish and greedy. think about what you just wrote here, that should give you your answer
2007-10-11 16:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋