Guys: Would you stop sleeping with your wife if she gained a lot of weight?

Question

If she went from 130 when you married to 290 after having your baby. Would you treat her different? Would you stop sleeping with her?

Answer 1

If i gained that much weight i wouldn't want to have sex with my husband.I would be to embarrassed for him to see me.All the fat around me he probable couldn't find me anyway. he he!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry but I find it very hard to believe that anyone would have that much extra weight from a baby....and I've had 2 of my own so I know how it's easy to gain weight. Personally I think a guy that married a woman at 130 probably is pretty normal if he stops sleeping with her once she hits 290! I know if my husband gained 160 lbs i'd still love him but I wouldn't be having sex with him. Now that being said no one should be mistreated because they gained weight but they shouldn't expect to be getting sex the same as before either. My advice for anyone who's gained so much weight their significant other won't have sex with them is to get to the gym!

Answer 3

3 questions out of 16 were actually real answers not self centred self absorbed rubbish.

Upon reading your question I had to wonder if you were asking hypothetically or as a woman who had actually gained that much weight from giving birth to just 1 child.

Women's metabolism changes during birth and after so only having given birth to 1 baby if someone did jump from 130 pounds up to 290 then obviously they used the old saying your pregnant and eating for 2 so eat more .While this is not always the case it is the most common.

I have given birth to 5 children and gained poundage , it never stopped my husbands from being sexually attacted to me and the rudeness of the above answer's makes me just want to well n/m.

If your uncomfortable with your weight then go see a dr and see if they can help you lose some , but if your comfortable and your man is giving you sex then dont worry what these 2 faced people on here say to you.Its easy to pass judgement from behind a computer screen.

If your man doesnt give you sex and goes out and cheats even if you did weigh 290 pounds , its still not an excuse he's just being a twit.

If this was written by a thin person the question that is and your just making a judgement call then I suggest attitude adjustment classes so you dont feel as if you are better then anyone else out there , because your not.

So that's my take on both sides of the debate.

Answer 4

I'm not a man, but it makes sense that things would change...

Having a baby is an excuse to gain maybe 20 to 30 lbs in the end after the baby is born, but 160 lbs?? That woman either has some severe medical issue that is causing this or she used pregnancy as an excuse to eat everything she desired and for 9 months all she did was eat!! She doubled in size. Can we say Jabba the Hutt?? She clearly has no care for herself or her health. Isn't self hatred a turn off?? Isn't it a reason to treat someone differently? It's hard to love someone who clearly has no love for herself.

Besides, sex involves looks. If you're going to pretend that sex is all about the emotional, you may as well just have phone sex or fantasize about it together. Sex is a physical act and no amount of love is going to take away from that fact.

Answer 5

Well to be honest I wouldnt have slept with u when u were 130 but now that u r 290 i would. Go out n find some bbw (big beautiful women) parties and groups n have fun. Forget the husband u r even more sexier now then ever. you r still young go out n have fun. there r alot of men who love bigger women. I think they r better in bed anyways. :)

Answer 6

I would not stop sleeping with her, but I would encourage her to drop the weight. That's no healthy for her and she risks all kinds of health problems by doing so.

I would be worried about her more than anything. A lot of my desire in wanting to sleep with her is based upon how she treats me and not how she looks. If she is a bit$@ all day, then chances are I will not want to put out at night.

So if you want your man, or any man to want to sleep with you, take care of yourself. Go see a Dr if you need to but just get some help and do something that makes you feel good about who you are. That will get him to want to jump your bones in a heart beat. Even if you have some extra cushion.

Answer 7

I would probably have a hard time being attracted to my husband if he gained a lot of weight. (How do you gain 160 pounds with a baby???)

Don't blame it on pregnancy. Yes, your body changes somewhat-- I could do without some stretch marks on my stomach-- but I worked to get back to a size 8 and stay there. That sort of weight gain is NOT because of a baby. There's got to be more going on. See a doc.

And, I wouldn't blame your husband if he is no longer attracted to you physically. I know that sounds mean, but get realistic. I know that if I'm just 10 pounds heavier than I like to be, I don't feel sexy at all. I can't imagine that someone that heavy feels all that amorous.

Answer 8

from a man's perspective-
my wife has gained a lot of weight but not 2 1/2 times as you explained. As a born again Christian, the Bible says that the wife's body belongs to the husband, and vice versa. If both truly understand, then we should take care of our bodies.
My wife has collected so many health problems since she gained weight, I thought this would have been a good indication to lose weight.
Nope. Procrastinates. And she is concerned of me. My weight hasn't changed in twelve years.
I can't answer honestly, my wife works nights, I work days. We are rarely in the sack together.
But to gain 160# after birth is unreasonable, unless a rare health condition. That is laziness and unwillingness to get back in shape for both of them.

Answer 9

I suppose the real question is whether you love someone for themselves or for their body. That's a lot of weight to carry around, is it possible there is a medical problem?

Perhaps love, support and encouragement would be more beneficial to her losing the weight instead of the cold shoulder. Just a thought.

Answer 10

Don`t give up, try and lose some weight to look good for him. I would not stop sleeping with her, but I would tell her that weight of that number is unhealthy for her , and she risks developing diabetes,heart and other ailments. She may become too sick to care for the baby.
You should consider losing weight, and not let yourself go any further. Try and become the hot looking woman you were before the baby came. Us Dads look at other guys` women, `specially Mom`s , and when they are in good shape pushing around a baby carriage, we think "wow, that`s one lucky guy to have her".
Make your guy one of those!

Answer 11

Good question. I gained about 45lbs when I was pregnant with our son. I'm naturally a pretty small woman, but pregnancy can make your metabolism really slow down. My husband quit having sex with me all together after about the 5th month. Even after I had him he was reluctant (claiming that he didn't want to hurt me) for a good two months. Luckily I went back to about the same size I was pre-pregnancy....but I worry about how he will feel about me if I gain weight in the future now. I guess he just likes really little girls.......