I want a job at the state fair that is here for 2 weeks just for a temporary thing since i never had a job before. my bf said no he wants to take care of me and really dosent want me working at the fair and he said so many things happen at the fair (like shootings) and he dosent want me there
I just want a job to see how i like it.
he is only my bf and not my husband. I do plan on spending the rest of my life with him but things dont always work that way so i need to experiance work. But he says just concentrate on school right now and he will buy me what i need.
2007-10-11 15:00:40 · 18 answers · asked by bitemenow90210 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im 17 he is 20
2007-10-11 15:01:05 · update #1
not knowing what the hours are or what you would be doing,i say do it..
if it doesn't interfer with school work and it's for only 2 weeks i see no problem.
if he's really concerned he could hang around.
but i think he is being selfish and a bit insecure.
only you know what he is like
since you are mature enough to know that relationships can go to hell at anytime you are correct in finding out what a job is like.
2007-10-11 15:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be free to do what you want to do - he's your bf, not your husband, and even then, no one should tell what you should do, or not do. You want to work, and earn some money, and see what life working is about. It's only 2 weeks. Shootings don't happen at the fair - he's just making stuff up, hopefully not to control you. If he really cares about your happiness, he should let you try this new experience out. Plus, you should be able to buy what you want too, from your own money.
2007-10-11 22:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Alyse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can get the job, go for it. You should never be in a position where you have to depend upon another person for support unless you are married - and often even then sometimes a job is good. He may be the type who wants to control everything you do and a relationship can never last that way.so get the job now and see how he reacts. He may be afraid that you will meet someone better for you than him, and you might. You are at an age where you should be enjoying school and a job like this rather than marriage or who you are going to spend your life with.
2007-10-11 22:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let you get a job? Oh please. Even if he was your husband, he has no right to tell you that you cannot work if that's what you really want to do. Be your own person inside a relationship. Never let it consume you. You're young and still developing yourself. It is important for everyone, man or woman, to work.
Personally, if a man had that kind of attitude towards me, I'd break up with him so fast. He has no respect for you. Your boyfriend is not a good man. Remember, chivalry is quiet misogyny. (based on an idea that women need men as providers or women are weak and don't let anyone ever tell you it's natural for men to be this way, because long before some cultures made women the weaker sex, we had equal roles with more responsibility ie. children.)
2007-10-11 22:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be concerned for your safety but he sounds like a controlling person who may not want you to meet other guys. I have never heard of a shooting at a fair. He is trying to put fear and intimidation in you so you do what he wants. He is insecure within himself, that's not your problem. You are both too young to be getting serious anyway. Get an education then worry about a boyfriend. You said "let me get a job " you are letting him control you. Men come and go but you need a job to be financially independent. A man cannot make you totally happy.
2007-10-11 22:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A brief story In regards to the "boyfriend Is worried" scenario. When I announced that I was going to Michigan several months ago, my dad said "OH, NO! YOU'LL GET SNOWED IN!!!" So guess what. I went anyway, according to plans. Guess what happened? It rained at the hotel for maybe 2 or 3 nights for a few hours each, and since It only rained at night during my stay, I never got the chance to play in it!
What I'm saying Is do what your heart tells you to do. Sooner or later, this dictator that you call a b/f will make you so sick that you'll be telling him that "I need my space!"
2007-10-12 00:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by nitemareslayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let anyone stop your dreams, no matter who they are; if you just wanted a job for the first time, It think its good that you do work.
How do you know for sure he will take care of you, it could be years later and he leaves you and guess what you don't have work experience because of him.
Go and work its not going to hurt you or him.
2007-10-11 22:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by kim w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If he's trying to control your every move now, what's it going to be like when you're married? They get worse honey, not better. You can't change him. Do you want someone telling you what to do?
Maybe he is simply concerned for your safety, and if that's the case, then take his advice. But if he's done this in the past about other things, then you know it his pattern.
2007-10-11 22:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Annie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to be your own person, apply for the job and if he doesn't like it too bad, so sad. You need to be able to take care of yourself, what if later on in life he is no longer able to take care of you? Anyways, the fair is no more dangerous than anyother place in regards to getting hurt.
2007-10-11 22:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow...yeah take the job and lose him! He sounds really controlling. Seriously a man who is trying to dictate your life at this stage will turn into a controlling manipulative psycho when you are married. Be careful.
2007-10-11 22:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋