I need some spiritual upbuilding.
There are times, that I am angry for my daughter,
"leaving her child w/ me."
My life, is not my life anymore (per se);
I don't get to be grandma.
Plz steer me to Scriptures, that can help me;
1~ quell the emotion. 2~find solace, in what my life is now.
This emotion, is far from me; most of the time.
I am sick; I have some serious health issues.
I am tired; I have not had a day, let alone 6 hours w/out the beautiful baby by my side; in more than 6 mos.
Please help me to find Peace.
I will most likely, be keeping the child for years to come.
2007-10-11 14:56:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1st off, thk u all for the love, friendship & Scriptual guidance.I just wanna hit a few notes. 1- unsil'ed lamb, won't b here she is blocked from me.
2-my dghtr is on the other side of the country; she took off for Calif.
3-I have the bound vol., of WT 83, thk u; I will read both relating articles.
4- Vot Ana, Haha, chuckle, chuckle.
5- smiles, thk u 4 the reminder; I will do just that.
6- Xyleisha & Hunter I neded those hugs.
7- Robert J W- working on it, later today go see my input. Thx. And thk u 4 the comments & encouragement.Col 3 & 4.
2007-10-12 05:22:47 · update #1
Bro's & Sis's did u notice?
Not 1 apostate here?
Praise Jehovah All Day Long!!!
Make melody to His name.
b~t~w~~~
I will be playing some Kingdom songs today; this Always lifts my spirits...
my mood...Always.
Bambi
2007-10-12 05:25:49 · update #2
I almost completely forgot...
If I can help it, I don't have the sister's in my home, @ this time. My hsbnd is not in the truth. And he has been known, to make it known more than once or twice. Not only is it extemely embarassing, but humiliating. And I can't stand to have Jehovah's servants disrespected in my home. It hurts me, to the point I beg Jehovah to show him mercy in forgiveness, cuz he doesn't 'know' what he's doing. The sis's (and bro's) are always very understanding, but my tears start flowing. And I don't want to subject them to that, when they come to me out of love & respect.
2007-10-12 05:34:24 · update #3
Don't give up on spiritual activities.
One Sunday at the meeting when things weren't going so well, for me,
the brother said please open your bibles to
John 16:33
I have said these things to YOU that by means of me YOU may have peace. In the world YOU are having tribulation, but take courage! I have conquered the world.”
It hit me, All my problems come from the world, and not from Jehovah, Jesus, or their organization.
The only peace we get is in the doing of Jehovah's will.
If we want more peace, Go out in service.
If we want more peace, don't miss the meetings.
This helped me, I hope it helps you.
.
2007-10-13 02:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by TeeM 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. Instead of being able to love 'em and give 'em back you are having to be the parent. That has got to be tough. We all know the reason why we have kids when we are young...it's easier to keep up with them...I was 23 when I had my first son, 29 w/ my second son and now I'm 38 and my 3rd son is 3 years old... In someways it is easier, I'm more patient, realizing that if he isn't hurting anyone or himself and it's not against Bible principles...just let him be!!....so what if the clothes don't match, he put them on himself....LOL But at the same time, I don't remember my other two making nearly the mess this last one does. I don't seem to be able to keep up with him.
I am going to share my favorite scripture with you. :0)
It is Philipians 4:13 "For all things I have the strength by virtue of him who imparts power to me." I found this to be particularly true when my mom died.
No matter what challenge we face, Jehovah gives us power beyond what is normal to endure. One plus Jehovah always equals a majority! So, just ‘throw all your anxiety upon Jehovah, because he cares for you.’ (1Â Peter 5:7)
You might also appreciate the article in the 3/22/99 Awake. The title is "When Grandparents Become Parents" It might give you some pointers to help out with your situation.
Hugs from me to you.
2007-10-12 14:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by izofblue37 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Col. 3:12-14.
I picked those particular scriptures because they remind us that we are joined together by love.
That genuine love means you do not have to bear up alone.
As has been suggested talk to the elders but talk to some of the sisters and explain the situation.
If I know anything about my sisters there is going to be some who are qualified and able to help you.
In my congregation I have witnessed sisters forming a schedule to cook and clean the house of a sister that has taken ill.
So come on now Bambi,stop being selfish and share some of that with your sisters!
There are young ones in our congregations who after the meetings run to all the different aunts they have.greeting each one with there own particular show of affection and love because the young ones have known these sister's love and care since they were old enough to know anything.
The response you got here is symbolic of what you will get right there in your own Kingdom Hall.
I understand .Sometimes we forget.
(So, did you find the Filipino sausages you were looking for?!)
(Say Bambi, you might want to browse through all of Colossians 3 and 4.There is so much there about the love of the individual towards Jehovah and the love within the congregation.It's sure to hit some points!)
2007-10-12 11:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Robert J W 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. There are at least 2 sisters at my Hall in similar circumstances. One baby sits their grandson so much he almost lives there, but it's starting to get better & easier as now the parents are back together & the grandson is at home more often, except when both parents are working at the same time. With the other sister, her daughter & grandson live with her, but apparently the man her daughter married is not the best of people, not very hard worker, lazy, no job, meddling, etc.
So you're not alone, there are others dealing w/similar situations. Please keep praying to Jehovah & he will help you as I'm sure he's helping these other dear sisters. (One of the sister's is related to me by marriage-on my husband's side)
Agape love
2007-10-14 08:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by cedrpt#1fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bambi , in each comment here I can see concern and some good information in parts dealing with ur situation.However ones closest to you in the cong.such as the elders can and should be able to instigate or encourage physical help along with suggestions such as some here say day care assistance,either from the system as one suggested here cong.members helping.The system should also have financial help as well ,suited to you.(not sure about that one) This is the tough part--you are a grandmother first ,not the mother,the situation many are getting caught up into more than ever.I don't believe adopted slogan - look after #1 first, but it has some truth in it ,ie. that's the reason we don't smoke take drugs etc. You said you have health issues ,you need HELP,physical help.I know you are strong spirtually but you need help,see the elders. Agapa ,~~Edit~~forgot to give U this sis~(((((((BAMBI))))))
2007-10-12 08:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by hunter 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bambi, you are stressed and aren't we all. Please try to stay focused on Jehovah's blessings and the very near future blessings when all this stress and anxiety will be gone forever. You need to pray for endurance and Jehovah will bring some form of comfort for you. Are you going to the meetings? I hope so. There you will find comfort from your brothers and sisters who are going through the same problems. Also the field ministry helps because you will find others in the world with worse problems and yet they have no hope. You can bring them that hope with the Bible and the "Really Teach" book. Helping others will keep your mind off of your own problems. Jehovah will take care of the rest. My prayers go out to you. Agape
2007-10-13 17:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Gail B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We were not promised a life free from heart ache as i found out when one of my sons was in and accident and at the age of 42 or for the last 5 years has been dependent on me to take care of him after his head injurys and permanent disability. At first I thought it was the end of the world. I am to old for this. How long can I keep this up? But he has turned out to be a real blessing. Sometimes he keeps us laughing.
But it is a lot of work and anquish. I to have serious health issues and didn't need this extra job. He doesn;'t keep us from having the problem but he gives us the strength to get through it. My prayers are with you, hang on we are almost there.
2007-10-13 16:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
'james w' had an excellent suggestion : do go to the elders.
but don't stop there, no doubt there are other mothers,grandmothers in your congregation(or circuit, for that matter) that are going through very simular circumstances.
just gird yourself up and give one of the sisters a call - they will probably welcome hearing from another 'mom' that is like her.
this system is at it's breaking point!
there are many in your situation. the elders can direct you to some if you don't know any right now. I am on the east coast, and I know of the same situations happening here.
may Jehovah give you all the stength you need to endure.
hang in there sis,we know what is just around the corner!
2007-10-11 23:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by sugarpie 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Bambi, life is putting some pressures on me, too, right now, or I'd take more time with this response...but I did want to get a word in edgewise! (Naturally! lol)
You have a very full plate, my sister.
Your circumstances are not unique to Jehovah's people, but, because you are trying to deal with everything in line with Jehovah's will, it can be a struggle, as you are well aware, in view of the pressure's put on us to just give in to Satan's system, go have a drink, a joint, "live a little", rage all you want, it's just "self-expression", it's your 'right'...
And you are fighting all that. Only because you want to please the one who figures most highly in your life, Jehovah.
Jesus often felt overwhelmed; he was always forgiving and loving, but he was often outspoken, too!
Peter: Get behind me Satan
The False Religionists : Sons of Satan, Liars, Hypocrites
The money changers: He made a whip, and beat them out of his Father's temple
And having to deal with the Sons of Thunder's Mommy coming begging for a great seat in heaven must've got him down, too!
He actually sweat beads of blood at Gethsemane...scientists say this does happen, but only in times of the most extreme duress...
He knows what it's like to be put under great strain, and then have it all come to a head in the form of a mental 'implosion' of emotion!
Your feelings are acceptable to him, because you do it for the sake of righteousness, not selfishness...you are seeking to manifest the fruitages of the spirit, and to uphold a loving and godly household in the face of opposition.
How about you give yourself a break? How about you extend to yourself the same feelings of acceptance and support you extend to the rest of your brothers and sisters?
And, as a single mom, I once had a sister who had a husband who didn't love Jehovah, tell me: You are not without a spiritual head; Jehovah is the spiritual head of your household, because, in effect, you are a widow, and your little ones are orphans, in the context of your spiritual state. Therefore, Jehovah will answer your prayers in line with this, just as a loving husband and father would respond to your request for support and succor. Approach him this way, and it may help your prayers.
I must go, my girl, but I am so proud of you! Look at all you are accomplishing, by way of Jehovah's Holy spirit, and your strength "when you are weak".!
Remember, "if even your own parents would desert you, Jehovah will lift you up"!
I love you!
your sis!
2007-10-13 13:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by hez b 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I gotta be honest, I'm a work right now and don't have my sword on hand.
But, I was thinking about how well Timothy was raised with the help of his grandmother. He went on to be a travelling brother! And sometimes Jehovah knows what we might need to keep us going, and helping others come to an accurate knowledge is always a blessing. Sometimes we may get caught up in our own personal problems and that can steer us in other directions, whereas now you have the opportunity to help raise, a "small piece of you," in the truth. ~Agape~
2007-10-11 22:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by joyofjoys 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋