what would you do if you found out the guy u are with is married and has two sons. He is in the army and you have been with him for 6 months and had no idea. You hang out with his friends everyday and they never told you he was married. His wife ups and calls you one day wanting to know how u know him. She has moved back to her home town like 16 hours away. She moved back there about 8 months ago and she has a 4 year old by him and a 4 month old. And here is the bad news you are pregnant. He just lefted for iraq for the 2nd time and u tell him online that u are pregnant by him. He is cool with it until he finds out his wife has called me and knows everything. He writes me back telling me he wants me to have a abortion. His reason is that i am going to mess up his family if i have this kid. I told him i was not going to have a abortion i was going to have the kid. I told him not to worry about me because I will do this on my own if i have to and he dont have to do sh*t for me or the...
2007-10-11 14:33:25 · 9 answers · asked by More then one on this account 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
baby! He told me he wants to be there and then he says he dont i think his wife is in his ear tellin him to make me get a abortion. He told me that he will see the kid wheneva he wants because his mom is a worker for the social services of kids. He told me if i try to move and dont tell him where i am at he will find me and get my child takin away from me?? what would u do??
2007-10-11 14:33:41 · update #1
FOR THE WOMAN THAT ASKED HOW DIDNT I KNOW HE WAS MARRIED... no he didnt have a ring.. i would think one of his friends would have said something. I dont go messing around with married men that is not me. I knew he had a kid and he always would say my baby momma and she lived in cali his home town **** i live in kentucky how the hell was i suppost to know?? anyways just wanted to add that because it seems like u are puttin me down and i was not in the wrong and for the woman that said why didnt i have he to strap up ummmmm i did PLEASE BELIEVE THAT it only takes one time for things to go wrong and it did i cant change that **** happens!!
2007-10-11 20:39:09 · update #2
AND I DO NOT WANT HIM I AM DUN WITH HIM WE DONT EVEN TALK ANYMORE HE TELLS HIS WIFE TO CALL ME AND TELL ME THINGS WHAT A A**!!
2007-10-11 20:41:07 · update #3
first of all you are in a dangerous position if he is threatening to take your baby... you can take out an AVO (apprehensive Violence Order ) out on him so he has to stay away from you although I must admit I don't know all the details on it you'll have to go to the police for more info on it, and secondly if you have the support of your family or friends, leave the bastard (excuss my lang.) no one deserves to be put through what you have...
If you ever want to just chat to someone feel free to msg me I don't mind... but you also should be talking through this with your family and friends..
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2007-10-11 14:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by selkiekay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bad situation,girl. now you see his true colors. if you have this child by him you know you are going to be in for some real drama, right? the fact that he hid his family from you tells you that he isn't going to be a good family man for you, if he can cheat on his wife and neglect his kids cause he is messing around with you tells you he ain't sh*t for a daddy or a husband so i hope you aren't thinking that you want him for yourself. he will do the same thing to you. look just how sneaky and what a liar he is!!!! that tells you he doesn't have a heart to do what he has done, and then to turn around and try to tell you to get an abortion means he doesn't really give a sh*t about you or your child. he doesn't want to be strapped down by another mouth to feed, or to pay child support. just be glad you did find out, but don't think for one minute you and him are going to ride off into the sunset as one happy family, cause it ain't goin' to happen. i feel sorry for his wife and kids. he sure wasn't worried about "messing up" his family when he was in bed with you. if you have this child you are always going to be connected to him whether you like it or not, and if he is already threatening you now just think how it will be in the future, it may even end in violence, who knows. he is a two timing piece of sh*t, run girl, RUN.
2007-10-11 21:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a married military wife and how did you not know he wasnt married.. did he have a ring on? no signs that he was married..was he living in the barracks or what...I just dont understand why you wouldnt know that he was married, I know there great liars! theres no denying that. Why do i know that cause it has happened to me. Dont get the abortion. Have the kid and get the money you deserve cause in the long run his wife will have his ***, cause its money that will taken from them.He shouldnt be married, if he does things like that ..It isnt fair to you or his family.Dont have no doubts you can live without him. You can raise a kid on your own and you would find someone who will take you and the baby and love yous. I dont have pitty on women who mess with married men nor do i have pitty on men who mess on there wifes..sock him were it hurts cause i know if it was me i would want to know that my husband was doing that so ican leave his butt..
2007-10-11 23:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by jess V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pro abortion so i wouldn't hesitate to have an abortion.I wouldn't bring a baby into this world with a father like that. Knowing that i will always be struggling on my own isn't worth it to me. You can give me all the thumbs down you want I have been through this and i would do it again in a heart beat. You say his wife is in his ear well you don't know that,you would like it to be so.Yes he is a scum bag but don't make his family pay because you let this man f-cked you without wearing protection,dam girl what was you thinking.
2007-10-11 21:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that someone has taken advantage of you this way, unfortunately that is the case though...he has taken advantage of you. You are never going to have a good honest relationship with this man, so you need to cut your losses and end this right now! He is obviously a manipulative person. As for you baby, Good for you for wanting to keep it! Don't let anyone change your mind! Take that @sshole to court and get all the monetary support you need. He is leaving you in a horrible position, and I'm sorry for that, but it is his baby and should be responsible for his actions.
2007-10-11 21:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call his bluff...
he is a piece of crap.
and by the way, he is the father. he HAS to pay child support. he owes it to the baby!!! not to you!
the next time he gives you some crap, tell him you are going to get the army involved. he will sh!t with that one. the military really takes a hard line on the kind of fooling around he was doing... BIG TIME!!!
perhaps next time you will be a little more selective and know a bit more about the man you are sleeping with.
2007-10-11 22:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a lawyer to protect yours and the baby's rights ASAP and I would inform his unit that he lied to you about his marital status, had an affair with you and that you are now pregnant.
Do not let him threaten you whatsoever. Let your lawyer threaten him.
2007-10-11 21:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide what you would do if he was not in the picture say if he died what would your decision be ? make sure it has nothing to do with him or how he feels . tell his wife to lay off of you that you did not know he was married and he was the one that betrayed her not you
2007-10-11 22:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I'd have the baby & if he wants to see the baby-he pays child support. He cheated on his wife with you and if you get together he'll cheat on you. Once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-10-11 21:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by traveler1954s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋