Would a real friend critisize how I look??

Question

I have friend who I have been friends with since middle school. When I first met her, we were in Social Studies class in the 7th grade and I was making paper stars by cutting up looseleaf. She took my stars and crushed them and threw them on the floor. We've stayed "good friends" after that. In 9th grade, we both were in the bathroom in the gym, and I was pushing my hair in a ponytail when she looked over at me and said, "You are fat. Just FAT."

Now, two grades later, I took off my glasses after having them on since the 3rd grade, and I put in colored Honey contacts. I have long hair, naturally, but I decided to put in long curly tracks with blonde highlights. After that, everyone started noticing me. (This happened recently.)

Everyone said I looked great, but surprise, surprise, here comes "Friend" who says, "What are you doing with that horse weave? Yuck!" I felt crazy inside.

Why the heck is she critisizing me like that? A real friend wouldn't do that, now would they..?

There IS a way to critique a friend without a sour look on your face and hurting your friend's feelings. And I don't think I am being too sensitive- there is good critisism and bad. And unfortunately, she's just a naturally mean person. Honestly, I'm one of her close friends because she doesn't HAVE alot of friends to really talk to, and she's about to have one less.

Answer 1

She is so jealous it's pitiful! Girl, she wouldn't criticize you unless she hates you or she's jealous. She probably just wants to be the center of attention just like my "good" friend. My friend is JUST like that! I wouldn't be friends with her if she's going to just make negative comments. If she's never made a nice comment about you say, "Have you ever, once in your life actually made a positive comment instead of criticizing someone?" Then see what she has to say. She'll probably be left speechless and start trying to be nicer. Hope I helped!

Answer 2

At first I didn't get what was going on ex: been friends through and through we don’t no real or reality But as i kept going I started to get it. It's pretty good. I can visualize it. It would be better though to add punctuations ie commas periods. So then I can know when to pause, ect. Just re write it again and if something seems off change it. But I like the overall mood and tone. You got real potential.

Answer 3

No, real friends are supportive and caring. This girl sounds like she is very very jealous of you. You can choose to ignore it or let her know that you don't appreciate it. Personally, I had to get rid of someone like that recently. I just stopped answering her e-mails, talking to her on the phone, etc. Every once in a while I feel bad, but then I think of how bad she used to make me feel even with just a careless e-mail and I don't worry about it anymore. Good luck.

Answer 4

A real friend wouldn't come off on another friend like that way. Although friends will let you know about yourself up front and truthful,it's their job to never try to intentionally be hurtful. Even if the info may be painful to themselves, a real friend will consider your situation and feelings first. Your friend is simply a 'hater' and wants your attention even lowering your esteem to make you feel unworthy of your new found attention.

Answer 5

jealousy, she doesn't like the idea that you look better than she does and will get more attention from poeple because of it. if she was a real friend she would be happy for you, i had a similar situation in high school, i had a friend since yr 4 and she used to put me down, didnt like it when i would hang out with my guy best mate and i eventually just stopped talking to her and hung out with people who liked me the way i was and made me feel good. thats what you need to do, sometimes you feel bad about it but you gotta do whats good for you, having someone make you feel crap all the time is no friend of yours. just stop hanging out with her slowly and just always be busy if she wants to do something and distance yourself, find new friends and people who are nice to you and appreciate you.

Answer 6

Well beauty is only skin deep and ugly is straight to the bone. Beauty is so wonderful ,because if it's coming from within, you have nothing to worry about apparently it's inner and outer for you because look back on the compliments you recieved from others. If you spend your entire time wondering if he or she approves of you well then you are lost. I think your friend self esteem is very low and misery loves company.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF LOVE YOU, EVEN IF YOUR JEALOUS FRIEND FROM MIDDLE SCHOOL DOESN'T. SHE'S A HATER BUT DON'T DESERT HER. SHOW HER WHAT A TRUE FRIEND REALLY IS. COMPLIMENT HER EVEN IF SHE PUTS YOU DOWN.

Answer 7

Its possible that all this time she has not been a real friend, but an "acquaintance" who felt comfortable with you because she figured she could feel superior to you. A real friend is not going to destructively criticize you, but a real friend will tell you things that will build you up and help you improve yourself in a constructive manner. Take another look at her and see if she is really on your side!

Answer 8

Are you chubby? Do you look silly? Sometimes only a real friend will tell you. On the other hand if you are not chubby and you do not look silly then I would say SHE is very jealous of you and it is time to cut the strings. If she is right then you need to look at yourself in a different light and thank her for being truthful with you.

Answer 9

She sounds like a friend you can do very well without. She is jealous of the attention your getting and cannot handle it so she strikes out at you. Doing so shows you how insecure she really is.

Answer 10

ok, first of all, someone you meet when they take your stuff and crushh it probably doesnt have the makings of a good friend. and that comment about you being fat is just plain rude. She is jealous of the attention you are getting! tell her off, and stop being friends! You don't deserve friends like that!