Pregnant Teen?

Question

My friend just found out she's one month pregnant. She doesnt want the baby and neither does her boyfriend so shes getting an abortion... im afraid she's going to regret it later. How do i comfort her and give her advice when she doesnt know that i know about her baby? Her boyfriend told me about it so she doesnt know i know. I cant tell her that i know though! i need some serious help!

Answer 1

You shouldn't. Just be there for her if she decides to tell you and don't be mad at her if she tells you later on because she didn't tell you before, try to understand there is a reason for hiding so that you probably wouldn't understand because you're not in her position. And even if you don't agree with her abortion don't blame her, maybe it is wrong, maybe she really is not ready and the kid would suffer. Remember support her not judge her, and help her with HER decisions. That's what friends are for aren't they?

Answer 2

Ahhh, please, don't let her kill that baby. She WILL regret it at some point. If she really doesn't want the baby, tell her how many great places there are for adoption. Adoption is hard (done it myself) but knowing that you have taken a life is harder. There are TONS and TONS of loving families that can't have their own babies. TONS. A lot of them have even had multiple miscarriages, and have gone through the pain of losing a baby that was desperately wanted. Also, in scientific terms, abortions, no matter how they are perfromed are cruel and painful. And people can say I'm wrong all day long, but I've done the reasearch for college, and for my own personal life. I know. I've seen the videos, etc. I know in detail how the procedures go. I mean, it's not exactly right to scare her out of one, but you're right, at this young age, she isn't thinking the best. The baby is already very much a life, and has done nothing wrong to be destroyed. She has options. Also, if she ever does want to have a family, an abortion could ruin her chances of that as well. Just be there for her, and let her know that she's not alone. She may see, once she's a bit farther along, how much she already loves the tiny baby under her heart. Esp when she sees an ultra-sound, or hears a heartbeat.

Answer 3

Invite her to have a sleepover with you.
Start talking about things related to pregnancy when shes over.
She'll eventually tell you. When she starts talking about abortion I suggest you give your opinion on it.
Mine personally is that it is horrible and unfair.
If you are against is as much as I am go to youtube.com
and look up abortion videos and show her how badly it
hurts the baby. Convince her to just put it up for adoption
if anything. Every human deserves a chance. And this baby deserves the world. Make sure her parents are aware of the situation. I'm not saying rat on her. But tell her she needs to tell her parents or else you are. She will. She won't want her mom hearing it from you. And just help her make the right desision. This happened with my sisters friend. And shes so happy my sister convinced her out of having the abortion. She now has a beautiful 3 year old boy=D. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Ask her if anything is wrong. Tell her she seems out of sorts lately. Tell her you are there for her no matter what. Is there a parent you can talk to as well? Not only is abortion hard on the mother and father, but anyone surrounding them. I am not one for abortion, but no matter what, be there for your friend. I strongly suggest talking to a trusted parent though. If she DOES confide in you that she is indeed pregnant, tell her to think her options through and not make any rash decisions. I had my first daughter at 16 and yes it was difficult, but I never EVER regret the decision I made. I can't emphasize enough though...you MUST be there for her no matter what. This is one tough road for anyone let alone a teen. Hugs and tons of support coming your way.

Answer 5

Just talk to her about it. comfort her . She will be happy to talk about it to someone even if she doesn't want you to know. Give her some of your suggestions based on her values. Also, tell her you will be with her 100% of the way. It may be hard but do it anyway. Good Luck :)

P.S. There was a speaker that came to our school and she got an abortion. She not only felt physical pain, but she felt emotional pain for months! She felt like a murderer! Also, she didn't think she would feel that way at all but she did.

Answer 6

oooooooohhhhhhh i got an ideabt feel free to write it off as lame and ignore it though. okay you could start reashring teen pregnancies, and risks of abortions and tell her that it was like for a project @ school and you also could slip in a little "oh WOW if one of my friends were gonna have a baby i would deffinatly help her out....... just like this one girls friend does for her then show her a pic of like a pregnant chick standing next 2 or hugging some girl. i think she'll take you'r advice and totally confide if you can prove you know about teen pregnancies, and abortions, you also have to let her kno that if ever found out one of your friends wer pregnant u'd be totally cool w/ it and helpful. goodluck also she might have already thought her decison through and she has you have to accept it and you cant try to change her mind after that.

Answer 7

Well, if it were me, I'll approach the topic of abortion with her. Say something like you were on a forum and people were talking about abortion, and ask her what she thinks about it. Ask her, if she ever found out she was pregnant, and she got an abortion, what are the chances she'll regret it. Tell her what you think of abortions too. Just improvise as you go.

Answer 8

Let me tell you that if her boyfriend goes around telling people and she doesn't know about it, and she finds out later, she is NOT going to be happy, especially if she didn't want to get pregnant, isn't going to have it and didn't want others to know what she is doing.
You cannot offer her support without her knowing he has told you. You could ask her if she's feeling ok, because you've noticed she seems down, tense or something, and ask her if there's anything you can do to help. But if you are not already a close friend, and you act like one now, chances are she's going to find out that you know.

Answer 9

If she is your friend why is her boyfriend telling you things she should confiding in you about? Ask her if she is pregnant if she asks why just tell her you have noticed changes in her and it doesnt take rocket science to figure it out talk to her about it and then ask what her plans are if she says the same thing as her boyfriend then ask her if she really wants to do it and to think about it and explain your views maybe she will put serious thought into it before making her decision

Answer 10

Abortion is wrong. If she doesn't want the baby then she should give that baby a chance and give him/her up for adoption. There is couples out there who want to have a baby soo bad and would do anything for one, and friends likes yours take that granted.
Abortion is not a form of birth control. If she does get an abortion there is a chance that they will "not get all of the fetus" and the child can be born deformed or have severe mental retardation.