His mother is dying of lung cancer and three tumors in her brain. He's on heroin, along with numerous drugs. He refuses to enter rehab. He has a father who doesn't really care a wit about this. He openly contemplates suicide, although he used to fear the thought of it. Now it's as though he's actually considering it, because he claims he has nothing left to do in life. "I've had sex, I've loved, I've traveled, I've done everything there is to do." Although I disagree with that last statement, he has a very dead view on his own life. He's 20 years old and doesn't plan on attending college. He doesn't have many friends, ergo, very few people that care about him, or that this would harshly affect.
I think that's all the necessary info.
If you need to know anything else, I'll add it in.
Help please? My world would come crashing down if this happened. :(
2007-10-11 12:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by steve paisley 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tell him what you just said, "My world would come crashing down if this happened" to feed him the information that in this cruel world there is still at least someone care deeply about him. Give him some motivation to live. After that, you should slowly try to get him out of the drug habit. Drugs make people feel depressed, lonely, weak, dependant....
2007-10-11 12:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by KarenaT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a person become suicidal, it's a cry for help,and a way of getting others attention. Most people are afraid of death,or dyeing. Comfort his feelings, show him there are dreams to be had by everyone in life. At 20 years old, you have to show him that he hasn't even scratched the surface yet, and there are many good things to come about in his life.Most of all stand by him, don't run out. As the saying goes, A friend in need , is a friend in deed. Be there for him 24 -7, you have to be strongrer than he is. Show him life is worth living and one must live through the good times as well as bad.
2007-10-11 12:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to see a mental health professional. Offer to go with him. If you can drag him kicking and screaming to a professional. His movement in relation to accepting suicide is high risk.
Be aware that it is his decision and that except for being there for support there is nothing you or anyone else can do, it is ultimately his decision. But, he is seriously depressed and is unable to see any of the things you are telling him. That is why in needs an evaluation and possible medication.
If he does or says something that leads you to believe that he is seriously intent on self harm in the immediate future, call a crisis line or the police. At that point he can be taken to the hospital for help. No, it's not violating a trust-it's saving a life. Even if he is angry at you for calling, he is alive to be angry. And that the point.
2007-10-11 12:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Morgan S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an intervention is needed. Contact everyone you know that cares about him and figure out a time and place where everyone can be together as well as him. Express your concerns. It may backfire on you but it may not. You need to be ready for anything, he might get defensive and say he was only kidding. Something needs to be done, and you should be the one to help him. At the same time there's only so much you can do for a person before it's up to them. Do all that you can and remember his choices are not your fault.
2007-10-11 12:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound awful but it sounds like the only thing left for you to do is turn him in when you know that he has drugs in his possession....this sounds like a rat but you don't have much of a choice...it's either that or he's going to die !!!!! What's better his death or getting put in jail for possession, no one has to know that you turned him in.....maybe that will help get him off the drugs....and then maybe you can help him to start again....people like this are very hard to deal with....mainly because they don't want to be helped.....doesn't he have a grandparent, uncle, or aunt that would help ? Sometimes when they go to jail they get the psychiatric help that they need...what else if left to do, good luck to you, I'm sorry that I don't have that definitive answer for you, this is a tough one....you must be living in fear of getting that phone call that he's overdosed !!!!!!!
2007-10-11 12:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by chessmaster1018 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him promise not to kill himself without telling you first. Make him promise. This could make a huge difference, because it could stop him from doing it when you aren't around, because he'll know he promised. Also, if he's tried (and done) everything, why doesn't he try God?? Why doesn't he try to look into finding out why he is here? What life is about? Why he was put here? God has a reason for him being alive, and if he'll read the Bible, God will show him what that reason is, and show him that He loves him far more than any human possibly could.
2007-10-11 12:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET HIM HELP!!!! MAKE him enter rehab, tell him you're scared!!!! TELL SOMEONE!!!! AND MAKE SURE HE KNOWS HIS MOM'S PROBLEM ISN'T HIS FAULT! This is a critical time in his life HELP HIM!!! Try hypnosis, it REALLY works...
1. Tell him to relax, close his eye.
2. Tell him to empty his mind of all thoughts and problems.
3.Then tell him to relax every muscle in his body, from his face to his feet.
4. Tell him to roll his eyes to the back of his head, where he can see his subconcious, where all the answers lie.
5.After that tell him to imagine his entire body melting togethor. First his fingers melt into his hands, then his hands into his arms, and his arms into his body. The same thing with the feet and the head, untill he is just a blob.
6.Then tell him that all thoughts of suicide are melting away and he is very very happy he no longer needs drugs. Repeat it over and over again.
7. Then tell him when you count to 3 he will wake up and feel happy, nonsuicidal and drug free.
P.S. His body may twitch, thats FINE. And tell me if it works.
2007-10-11 12:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to tell someone! And telling someone won't make you a "Taddle tail" or whatever people may call you! It's your best friend and you're doing what's right them! If you feel comfortable enough, talk with him and tell him that he's needed in this world and he is for sure loved. good luck!
2007-10-11 12:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like nothing you can do, just give him something to live for or force him into rehab because of the drugs.
2007-10-11 12:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Bindy.
If you're not a professional, don't be afraid of calling the police - this is the sort of thing they're there for.
2007-10-11 12:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by nytebreid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋