I'm 24 male and married my wife left me 2 months ago what sould i do?

Question

My wife left me 2 months ago i don't know what to do? My wife said that she doesn't know what to do with her life.She told me that i shouldn't suffer because of her but i'm not. I try and talk to her but she won't take my calls and when i go to her mom's house to go talk to her she said not to come anymore. I'm going to stay away for a month but i do not know what to do please i want help i want to know what should i do? I love her so much i want help getting her back

Answer 1

Move on. No doubt, her body parts have been spread by now!

Answer 2

If you still love your ex-wife and never really got over her, then why did you get remarried? You need to take a time out and think about that woman that you are married to now! Do you love your present wife? If so, you wouldn't even think of going to bed with your ex and talk about the future being with her. If you want to screw around on your poor wife, at least give her the common courtesy of telling her before you do! That way she can try to prepare for the heartbreak that you seem to think you're going to give her. I wouldn't let my ex-wife's tears bother me one bit. Did she give a crap about the tears you shed for her 2 years ago? If you truly love your present wife, than tell your ex right off, that you are happy, and don't think it's a good idea to get together at this point. If she left you once, if you get back together with her, she'll leave you again. Then where will you be? Without her AND without your present wife. As I see it now, it lies in your hands, and I hope you make the right decision. Good luck in whatever you decide!!

Answer 3

It would sure help if you said why your wife left you.

It seems like she just wants to be left alone, from what you say here that she is not taking your calls. I think you should just move on with your life, unless you think you both can work out your problems.

What you need to do is either send her a letter telling her how you feel about this whole situation. You need to know if your marriage is over for good or is there a chance for resolution. Really find out what is going on with her. She hasn't said she wanted a divorce so that should tell you that maybe she is very upset and just wants to be separated from you until things cool off or until she finds out what she wants to do. Don't lose hope.

Right now you just need to move on and do what you normally do like go to work, pay bills, etc.....don't lose control of your thoughts because it doesn't get you no where.

The only way to get her back is to wait to see what her problem is. But, if she just left you for no reason at all, then there is more to this story she is not telling you. You need to know what is going on. And she needs to tell you the truth. She shouldn't have took off like that without trying to fix the problems first. That's not how marriage should be by taking the easy way out by leaving.

I would consider reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage."

Answer 4

Did she give you a reason why she is leaving you?. If not then you do have the right to find out. Did you/she do anything wrong?.That could be why she needs time away... Give her some time but if you love her I dont see why you not write her letters and explain to her how much you love her and ask the questions you want answered and tell her that you are sorry for the ,mistakes you have made if you feel you wronged her in any way and send her flowers.You can leave notes outside her house find a clever way to leave notes or flowers to show her you love her. This could bring her back to you. Time will tell. She will give you an answer if you do this.

Answer 5

If she didn't leave you for another guy than maybe you have a chance to get her back. One thing that always works is jealous,if you want her back you must do this. First find someone you know your wife can't stand and take her out to where you and your wife use to go,make sure some of her friends see you. I know you don't want to play games but this is the only way,sitting around waiting for her to call is the worse thing you can do. If you do this right she will start coming around to make sure you aren't with anyone.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear this.

This seems very awkward. If she doesn't want to talk then there has to be reason. I would sit down by myself in a quiet area and think carefully to all the things and events that lead up to this. Think about all the times she started to move away from you or kind of like disappear. I think this is very weird. She may have been cheating on you, or never really felt the true meaning of love. I am not sure to how long you two knew eachother but i think she needs to grow up and be mature and talk to you. You need to tell her to communicate and "want" to work on this marriage. I hope you treated her well and give her respect just as she should do to you too. I pray that this relaionship gets on a safe and happy track cause divorce rates are high. offer counseling and get it quick. if she does not want to counsel, I would recommend that you do it for yourself. get prepared that this may or may not work. God Bless.

Answer 7

your married and your wife left you 2 months ago perhaps she just needs sometime to find out what she needs to do to be with you as your wife. She wont take your calls or even see you . Your in love with her so just wait and see if things change for the best. I need to know one thing is your wife in love with you. I lot of people don't understand once they become married they become as one you are no longer one person any more because you both have got to want the same thing out of life and if its not the same things than it will be difficult. Don't give up because what god has joined together no man can put you under.

Best of luck

Answer 8

You need to ask her if there is a future between you and her.if she says there is not, then move on.You need a marriage that makes you happy, not one that make you miserable.You will probably always love her, but you have got to put it behind you and move on, get a divorce lawyer set up just in case. And if you were renting, i would look into your lease contract right away,you don't want to end up staying in a place that gives you sorrowful memories of the past.If you have a home mortgage, you might want to check on what will get your house on the market,this is a bad time for selling houses in the US. Good luck on that.
Buck up,there are lots of good women out there that like to communicate and are not scared of marriage,sounds like she was just too immature to face the future with a partner,that's probably one of the reasons she moved back home.
Good luck.

Answer 9

Listen bro. She is your wife. You need to lay out the expectations right from the outset.

She is to have supper prepared when you get back from work, and furthermore, she is to do the laundry, clean the bathroom, vacuum, and also do the dishes.

And of course she must be on call 24/7 for any time you need her to put out. That is, after all, her wifely duty.

Furthermore, she is not to cause drama, PMS, talk back, or disrespect you in any way. You need to let her know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable.

Face it, bro. Your wife is in dire need of some discipline. You need to get this woman in check. Or she will ruin your life.

Don't let it happen to you. I've been around awhile -- and I have seen better men than you fall for not being able to keep their wife in check.

So take the bull by the horns. It may really test your resolve, but eventually you should be able to tame her. She is, after all, still only a woman -- so you should eventually be able to assert your male dominance over her.

Answer 10

You need to give her the space she is asking for. If she decides that the marriage is not what she wants then there really is nothing for you to do. You can't force someone to love you or want to be with you. As painful as it is, there may come a time you have to let her go. Hopefully, after some time to think and reflect she will be able to talk with you about what is really going on in her head, but until that time you need to remain patient.

Answer 11

When you said "for better or for worse" in your vows, this is the worse that you were referring to. As hard as it is, maybe she just needs some time to sort things out. It probably has nothing to do with you. I know it sucks but sometimes people go through some really rough patches in life and it has a negative effect on those around them. I suggest that you find a way to occupy your time. Tell her that you love her and that you are here for her when she is ready to talk.

If you are a praying man, pray for her peace and your strength. I wish you the best.