I was sitting in the waiting room to get interviewed...and this incredibly hansome guy was talking to me, and was very nice. Was saying things like "you'll do fine, just be social"....And I just didn't say much, and was so uncomfortable and quiet...I just kept repeating "yeah, thanks" and stuff. Finally he gave up trying to make conversation.
Then during the interview, I was just plain awkward and couldn't answer several questions....I hate myself, I'll never get anywhere in life. What is there to live for anymore?
2007-10-11 11:54:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It was all such an abomination that I can't stop crying, I know it's stupid. Thanks for helping.
2007-10-11 12:10:14 · update #1
There isnt anything wrong with not being incredibly social. I've known many rather quiet people that seem to be very healthy personality wise.
Perhaps your discomfort and awkwardness comes from such a high demand on yourself. You don't have to conquer all these different things in the world to gain good self worth. You don't have to answer every question there is, and solve all mysteries, or satisfy all people interacting with you.
What makes life hopeful and full of wonder is that your life springs from what you feel and think. Deciding to feel good and act upon the thoughts that follow, will give you pleasant surprises, especially with how you change in interacting with people, and your new desires in what to do to find your own satisfaction....
Hope this helps...
2007-10-11 12:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please don't feel so down on yourself.
Every one of us has at some time failed at many things.
If you give yourself credit for being a nice person, use that as your basis for communicating with others.
I know at times it can be so difficult to let your feelings be known, but do not be discouraged.
Once, I was telling these women at a job interview, how shy I could be. This woman walks in that is like the vision of my dream girl, so I stood up, introduced myself, and asked her(like the fool I can be), "Where have you been all of my life",
she replied, "where were you 3 weeks ago", and my reply to that was, "as usual, a day late, and a dollar short", "the story of my life", she had already married another, but to this very day, we talk to each other several times a week, even though I now live hundreds of miles away. We have become the very best of friends, and honestly, I wouldn't want it any other way.
Have a great day, a wonderful weekend, and smile....... :)
2007-10-11 12:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by graciouswolfe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, join the club. But I assume you're older than me, obviously since you were getting interviewed, I'm 15, and like this always. I meet a guy or girl and they're so nice, and I want to get to know them, but I just don't have the right words to say! It makes me wanna stalk them to get their number! lol! You should practice talking to yourself in the mirror, and see how well words come out. And try out signature sentences and see how well you say them. It helps when you practice, trust me. Don't worry about feeling stupid. Another thing you could do is be plain honest, by saying something like this when you meet someone new, "I'm sorry, I'm really shy, my mind's blocked, I have nothing to say! But you really seem like a nice person!" something along the lines should get his or her attention, and you'd show him you want to be close, but you don't know how to talk. Hope I helped! Try having a sense of humor when talking (I'm not saying you don't) it always makes a good impression! :D
2007-10-11 12:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by No Name 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is the not over-confidence but just enough to sustain yourself and your thoughts and actions to get yourself across. You're not an oddball or awkward, everyone has some type of bout with this so take your time...don't hate yourself, you'll be right as rain as you progress.
2007-10-11 12:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by caminolargo76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart dont be so hard on yourself smile :)
I'm in my late twenties and have always been that way ...It wont stop you from accomplishing your dreams nothing wrong with being a quiet person :) Its always hard for me to make conversation too....people whom I know I have no problem talking to....The good thing about it is that we are good observers (sp) We notice everything people say ...pick up on things that people whom talk too much dont notice...
2007-10-11 12:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by pumkin954 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy. Quit being so hard on your self.
Interviews are at times stressful. Try making small talk with people you meet.
You will go far in life ,if you make your mind up to do it.
2007-10-11 12:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Fred F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to be around more laid back quite people, once you get to know them there usually really nice. Plus im that way at school alot. You should just try to relax, I think if you just stop thinking about it, you can relieve alot of anxiety. Best of luck.
2007-10-11 12:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋