I had a problem with roleplaying online awhile back. Some of my roleplays were guy/girl but most of them consisted of me pretending to be a girl and roleplaying with other girls because i had some stupid obsession with lesbians. I did'nt look at it as cheating at the time because it "wasnt physical" but then i started to realize that it dos'nt matter because it was behind my fiance's back. I felt horrible about it and came clean to my fiance and told her what was going on. It did hurt her alot but she said she forgave me. I know I made a huge mistake. I know I can't take back what I did, do I deserve to be forgiven?
2007-10-11 11:38:21 · 24 answers · asked by jeremy_scherr531 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, just live and learn. Role play with your wife, husband or SO next time.
2007-10-11 11:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, of course you deserve to be forgiven. You realize you made a mistake role-playing. Another mistake was telling your fiance about it. Some things are best left unsaid, since all they do is transfer the guilt and hurting to another person - in this case, the woman you love. Not every thought needs to be expressed. Censure yourself occasionally ... and forgive yourself. You had an obsession. It's over. The day will come when you and your fiance will find the whole business amusing. Honest!
2007-10-11 18:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fiance, bless her, has forgiven you but you need to forgive yourself. The role playing obviously wasn't a healthy outlet for your imagination and you duped a lot of people. Now you have to decide what makes you happy in your spare time. Making sexual comments to anyone constitutes cheating if it is for an obsession. Be careful in the future or you may get more than you truly want.
2007-10-11 18:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. Whether it be online or not, just don't do it again. You have a fiance and you love her. No reason for the added drama. But yes, you can be forgiven because you have told her the truth about it.
2007-10-11 18:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by **Mystica** 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all deserve to be forgiven if we are truly sorry for the things we have done. Only you know that answer. You made a mistake and have owned up to it. I think it's great that you came clean and were honest. It shows your commitment to her and the relationship. Give it time. Give her time to heal from the feelings of betrayal.
2007-10-11 18:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be forgiven. Give your fiance time to come around and show her you will not hurt her again.
BTW, do you really think any of the other roleplay participants were actually women??? How's it feel to know you were fooling around online with fat bald guys who were playing with themselves...
peace
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2007-10-11 18:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by OhYeah?! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do, and as you know the only way a relationship can really work is it must be 50/50 and nothing else.
you not married yet but engaged, you know that not the best way to start off a soon to be marriage.
That can be forgiven, you just have to forgive your self.
2007-10-11 18:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by kim w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have fantasies, and the internet is this big blur between reality and fiction. OK so real people answered you, but take that aspect away and what is left, you were acting out a fantasy on your own.
If your fiancée has forgiven you, she has seen that it was harmless fun, but you are still beating yourself up over it....Are you a Catholic?
2007-10-11 18:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve to be forgiven. You felt bad about hiding it and were honest with your fiance'. Wish more men were like you and cared enough to not be afraid to tell their women things they have done.
2007-10-11 19:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't deserve it. But Yes, you need it. You need to be very thankful that she forgave you and you need to really prove to her that you have changed. Later in life, this may come crashing back at you and you both need to have good communication and the ability to forgive to make it through everything.
2007-10-11 18:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by jessica R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think so first reason you were honest with her about what u were doing, She forgave u so now its time u forgive yourself.. everyone makes mistakes but owning up to them is what matters!!! Just make sure u let her know that it wont happen again....
2007-10-11 18:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋