Would this make you angry?

Question

Today our English teacher was talking about making presentations in front of a group, and she was like, "well some people can talk very easily in front of a whole bunch of people, whereas some other people are shy and may not be able to talk as easily..."
and then my friend right there was like, "ahem *says my name* ahem." and then the whole class looks in our direction.
I mean, it IS true that I HATE giving presentations, but that's NO reason to point it out to the entire class--they already know about it. Besides, I'm very sensitive to this sort of thing and I HATE people pointing out how quiet or shy I am. I already feel bad about it, and I'm working to change, but it's not easy.
Should I have said anything back? I was SOOO mad after that I couldn't say anything to her.

Answer 1

You certainly had a right to be mad. Some friend, when she should know that bothers you.

Should you have said anything back? Maybe not, that would have just caused even more attention upon you, and may have gotten the teacher's attention further. Could have turned it into a bigger show than you would have liked.

I do think you should talk to your friend about it. If she doesn't seem to care or isn't sorry.. then maybe you shouldn't consider her a friend.

Answer 2

I would be upset too. I wouldn't have said anything back, though. Well I might have thrown in a "whatever" just so she or he would have know that they hurt your feelings. (lol maybe). I hate it when my friends hurt my feelings. I know they don't mean to and that they are just trying to be funny, but I wish they knew that it wasn't nice. I also hate it when people talk about how quiet and shy I am. It makes me so mad and upset because I know everyone knows about it, but they don't have to keep pointing it out. Anyway! Enough about me. I would just ignore what she said, unless she does stuff like that all the time because then I would not hang out with her as much. But hey, thats just my opinion about what I would do. I really I hope I helped some.

Answer 3

wow it's like looking in a mirror. We are the same! I hated presentations, when I did them....I would stutter, and my hands would shake. And I hated when someone would say stuff about me being shy. I'd give that person hell. Yeah your shy...don't point it out. Is she stupid. I'd be pissed. I have been working on not being shy since I was like 8. I'm 20 now ( Still Shy, but have Anger Problems).

Anyways....You should yell at her, and if you have to do presentations, ask to do it in front of the teacher before or after school ...thats what I used to do. Good Luck Girl!

Answer 4

well i bet you was more upset then mad cause she is your friend and should of known, but maybe in a small way she was trying to get you out of your shell abit, there are alot of shy people out there and it is nice that your teacher reconizes this and dont make you stand up anyway as some do, maybe you could talk to her when your next walking home on your own or send her a text saying how you feel and that she really embarrased you today and she might say sorry hun was only messing wont do it again, good luck anyway life is to short and if she really is your bezzi mate then let it go or get your own back and do it to her x x x x x x

Answer 5

I've had friends like that before. DO NOT KEEP THIS UNDER WRAPS. It's gonna sizzle and boil inside of you. You need to tell her it pissed you off, even if you are going to be a little passive about it. You could even say " I know you weren't being mean intentionally, but you really didn't have to call me out on it in front of the whole class.
Good luck, I'm sure she'll understand.

Answer 6

I would definitely be angry. Since she knows you're shy, she had to have known it would embarrass you. Even if she had the best intentions, (which is questionable), like trying get you to "face up" you're shyness, it was not her place to when or where you do. And the way she did it was insensitive and disrespectful you.

I would tell her how you feel. She owes you an apology. And if she doesn't see that, she's not much of a friend.

Answer 7

Not much of a friend. You might want to find better friends. I have recommended "controlling your anxiety before it controls you" by Dr. Albert Ellis PhD of the Albert Ellis Institute, to a few people already and i recommend it for you. Shyness is a fear which is the root of anxiety. Yes it might have been better to have said something. If you could have said something appropriate. Then when in doubt leave it out you may not be attacked for something you didn't say.

Answer 8

I have a friend like that, whenever people try to make fun of her she feels terrible for the rest of the day. Saying something back to her probably would have made her shut up about it and than all your class mates would either see you as out going or a little rude, but I would've said something back to her. I hope your presentation works out well :)

Answer 9

You did the right thing and kept quiet.I always felt bad for the shy ones and there is nothing to do except just be yourself. Saying nothing is sometimes the best way to go for some. At least you are noticed right?

Answer 10

In her defense, she's not going to know it bothers you unless YOU tell her that it bothers you. It's good that you didn't say anything then and there, you could have said something you don't mean. Cool off, and tell her that it bothered you when she embarrassed you in class the other day. Ask her to not do that and tell her thanks for being a friend. If she's a real friend, she'll understand.