What is the most important thing in a happy marriage?

Question

Is it possible to be your own independent person when married.

Answer 1

communication

Answer 2

There are many important things to have a happy marriage but there are a few basic necessities for a happy marriage. I have been married since 1981, Not only is trust very important, but, being trustworthy is equally important. Being committed to your spouse, the marriage vows (and everyone should write their own vows to each other). You must be able to stand up with pride and defend your spouse if necessary. Encouragement and acceptance is necessary. Everyone needs to know that they are good and doing good, that is how they grow. Being able to express your love to your partner is a given, by both. Never go to bed angry at each-other. As your marriage matures there will be other areas that will become important that don't make the top ten now. And I feel the most important thing is COMMUNICATION. This alone Is the #1 I believe Falling in love and knowing that you don't want anyone else. Wanting to commit yourself to someone with those binding vows. Giving of yourself 100%. These are some of the reasons people get married and both people must be ready to make a commitment to the other person without exception.

Answer 3

I think marriages/ relationships are Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust, with lots of lovies, and kindnesses, and doing things for the other. It is as well learning to resolve issues without rage and resentment, and to learn the language of communication so you don't go around trouncing on the other's ego. And sometimes about all any of us can do is shut the hell up.. And for sure, it is not to stonewall your partner. If you are sooooo angry about something, but you know that if you open your mouth to start a discussion, you will only release a tornado, then probably the kindest thing to say is something like, "I'm sorry. I love you soooo much, but at this very moment I am sooooo angry that I cannot fairly and unemotionally discuss this with you. So that I don't say something I can never take back, can we talk about this when I cool off?"

About the only time this wouldn't work is when you have discovered your love/husband has cheated on you... and it is then perfectly okay to say, "I'm sorry.....Betrayal is the deal buster here. When tomorrow is here, I am filing for divorce."

Answer 4

We've been happily married 37 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 5

Trust
communciation
honesty, and
love.

It is possible for to be independent in a marriage as long as you aren't so busy being independent you forget about the other person.
My husband and I are both independent of each other, he likes to go out with his friends and play sports, and I'm free to go out with my friends any time I want. We make sure that we are still making time for each other and to work on our marriage. We like to have a "date night" at least a couple of times a month where we focus on nothing but each other.

Answer 6

Sure you can be independent. You must accept your spouse for who he is just as he must accept you for who you are. Lots of people mentioned trust... the most important part of a marriage. Also before any disagreement is discussed (argued) each of you must think twice before saying anything. Hurt feelings may not immediately harm a marriage but over time they build up and overflow of pent up insensitivity will not be controllable.

"By three methods we may learn wisdom:
First, by reflection, which is noblest;
Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and
third by experience, which is the bitterest."—Confucius

You want to use first item in this list, because in...
reflection... you think before you speak.
imitation... if an argument starts, most react by arguing back.
experience... if divorce is what you'll experience, it's too late to fix anything.

Answer 7

Communication, understanding and patience’s, but most of all someone you know will be 50/50 with you in every segment of your life and vice versa.

You can have communication in any relationship but it’s not 50/50, and they can be patience but it’s not 50/50 and you can have understanding and not 50/50.

Everything must be 50/50 that’s the only way you’ll have peace and great understanding and much patience’s. Then marriage will last.
So many marriages end because they never talked in the being about it being 50/50.
And with everything understood wonderful sex will always be had. Even on a work night.

Answer 8

beside trust and communication and of course love, I think compromising is very important. You can still be your own independent person, but when it comes to sharing things in the marriage, I found compromising plays a key role.

Answer 9

Love (of course) and yes it is possible to be your own independent person (maybe even beneficial) My husband and I are two separate people with our own interests (he's into anything electronic, I'm into art and cooking). We each have something different to offer to the relationship, and when you combine that with love, commitment and friendship you have a recipe for a great marriage!

Answer 10

you certainly can be an independant person in the marriage and honesty is one of the most important parts of a marriage. So is communication

Answer 11

You must be able to communicate. If you can treat her as your best friend and tell her anything, and accept anything that she would tell you then you have won. Be honest. Look at her as if she is the best thing that has every happened to you. As long as you can maintain that mindset, you will love her forever and I'm sure she will do the same. Good luck.