Heres the deal:
A while ago, my dad wanted to take me out for my birthday, but I only would go if my sister would go (my parents are separated, but not divorced) . So we went with him. Then he says he wants to take me out shopping another time so I can get some 'other' clothes (apparently he doesn't like what I wear. but, whatever.) So I just pretended I forgot it for a while (more like two months) but I saw him again the other night, and he still wants me to go. But now my sister won't go because shes too D*MN STUCK UP! I definitely wont go by myself, so now I don't know what to do. He was really mean (verbally abusive and abusive on our animals) when we lived with him, but apparently he is a "Changed Man" now.
Also if you want to see EXACTLY the kind of things he does, here is an example: My mom was talking to him a year ago, when she got this weird look on her face. So I said "what?" then she gets off the phone and tells me my dog died and my dad didn't want to tell me. EVER!
2007-10-11 10:33:05 · 5 answers · asked by caligirl1994 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try acting mature and go by yourself.
you're father is reaching out to you, and if you keep brushing him off, you'll regret it when you are older.
2007-10-11 10:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds strange to me that he is reaching out to you but not your sister and that he wouldn't tell you that your dog died and try to console you. He may be trying to make it up to you for the failed marriage and not being there with you, but because he was abusive to your animals mean that there is a chance that he will also be mean to you as well, and perhaps to your mother which caused the separation. You can go out with him to get the clothes or whatever without your sister but be cautious around him until you are sure that he can be trusted. A man can be a parent without being a good father and you will have to wait to see which he is.
2007-10-11 18:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to go out with him and your sister will not go... then that is her choice not to go...just as it is your choice to make as well. If he is trying to be a better person and make amends with you, I would suggest giving it a shot. If he has given you no reason to believe he is not sincere, then don't let your sister be the excuse you have not to go out with him. Obviously she is at a different stage than you regarding your father.
My family life mirrors yours in what you are going through. My father was verbally and emotionally abusive to myself and my sisters and several years ago, he moved out and they got divorced. My youngest sister wants nothing to do with him at all. My middle sister has done many things with him in the recent past... by herself.
Make the decision that is best for you. Give him the chance to be the changed man he says he is. (For the record... my father said he changed too. But my experience as of late has proven otherwise. It is very tough to change certain things about who you are and it has pushed us further apart) I wish you the best and I hope your father can be the father you want him to be.
2007-10-11 17:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is trying to make ammends with you and let you know that he's sorry for being mean. Maybe he didn't want to tell you about your dog to spare your feelings?? Nothing is going to get better if you don't talk to him and discuss how your feeling. Explain to him that you were hurt and upset about some of the stuff that he did.
He's your father and like it or not he always will be. Give him a chance before you regret it.
2007-10-11 17:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbear1a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
act mature and go by yourself
2007-10-11 17:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋