2007-10-11 10:30:31 · 7 answers · asked by skyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think she should not assume that you would do the job without being paid. Maybe you don't even want to be paid, but if you're going to be taking care of her kids on a regular basis, then in my opinion she should be the one to bring up the subject with you.
While I'm sure it would be rewarding for you to spend all that time with your grandkids, taking care of children is demanding work. Your daughter should not presume that you want that job, nor should she presume you would want to do it for free.
You don't want to end up resenting your daughter or your grandchildren because you're feeling taken advantage of. You need to think about what you want and what will work for you in this situation. Do you want or need to be paid? If so, how much do you think is fair? Do you want to help care for the children, but perhaps not all day, every day? If so, how many days a week and for how long each day seems realistic to you? Know what arrangement will make you satisfied and discuss it with your daughter. It will probably be an awkward conversation to start, but I think you'll feel a lot better once it's finished.
Best wishes!
2007-10-11 11:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its an occasional thing, NO. Everyday or several times a week on a regular basis. Absolutely! Its her responsblity to take care of her kids and taking care of them is finding an adequate person to look after them and paying that person. It doesn't have to be much.
2007-10-11 17:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the expenses or if you yourself are financially able.
Do you have to buy their diapers, formula, drive around or incur expenses for the children and it's something you can't afford?, if so, I would definitely charge something.
Now, if she is unable to help out in anyway for some financial reason, I would not charge, but sit down and talk to her.
2007-10-11 17:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents r grandparents, not built in-free babsetters, why do adult kids think any different!! I don't/won't babyset, (unless an emergency), I raised my kids 3ofem, and my wife's2, and I'm not starting to raise grandkids!!!!! I'll go on perminant vacation 1st!!!
2007-10-11 23:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! I see it as shes trying to better herself and the life of your grand-kids.... I would feel like I was taking from them!! And besides this gives u quality time to spend with them...
2007-10-11 17:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you and she should sit down and discuss what the arrangements are. She should not expect you to do a full time job for nothing.
2007-10-11 17:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why, do you want her to? I think she leaves them with you so she won't have to pay for day care. Why would you charge her? Your her mother.
2007-10-11 17:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋